Does your partner know you are on GetDare?

[lilith_]

I've seen quite a lot of people who have vanilla partners but they are still using these forums, so I got a bit curious how many of you there are here. You may vote anonymously and/or explain your situation in the comments

Do you feel as if you are doing something wrong? Does the fact that it is a secret turn you on? Would you have an online relationship without your partner knowing?

P.S. this is not meant to judge anyone

[WedgieGary1996]

Originally Posted by lilith_

I've seen quite a lot of people who have vanilla partners but they are still using these forums, so I got a bit curious how many of you there are here. You may vote anonymously and/or explain your situation in the comments

Do you feel as if you are doing something wrong? Does the fact that it is a secret turn you on? Would you have an online relationship without your partner knowing?

P.S. this is not meant to judge anyone



edit: eh, i meant to do this a poll but I am stupid and I forgot and now I cannot add a poll

Just click thread tools at the top of the page

[lilith_]

Thank you!!!!! It worked haha

[amethyst353]

I'm currently single, but back in 2011 and 2012 when I was just a lurker here my partner and I would browse GD together to come up with ideas for kinky forfeits and games.

I haven't let any partner know about GD since. Now that I actually post on here instead of browse as a guest, I want to keep this as my space. Not necessarily because I am ashamed, more I just want to be able to open up to them on my terms rather than them being able to read my post history.

[Everill]

Where's the "Forever Alone" option

[Consensus]

Yeah, I would tell my partner but they are decidedly not interested in anything approaching anything kinky. Yes, that was deliberately two 'anything's. Telling my partner would likely cause many issues and, as they told me, "what I don't know can't hurt me" and "try harder when lying".

When I joined in 2014 things were pretty rocky on the physical front, we'd managed sex 11 times in the preceding 7 years, and so I was looking out for something that would allow me to 'have a little fun' so to speak. Things are a little different now, we managed sex another 15 times over two years and then we've had a two year drought. At the moment my partner has suggested that sex will never again be on the table.

I'm not looking for a relationship, not yet perhaps(?), but I've found this place can be helpful at times.

[Jaro]

I don't have a partner, but if I did have a partner she should know because she should be kinky like me.

I don't think a relationship with a vanilla partner would work for me.

[rhode64]

Originally Posted by lilith_

I've seen quite a lot of people who have vanilla partners but they are still using these forums, so I got a bit curious how many of you there are here. You may vote anonymously and/or explain your situation in the comments

Do you feel as if you are doing something wrong? Does the fact that it is a secret turn you on? Would you have an online relationship without your partner knowing?

P.S. this is not meant to judge anyone

Yes my partner and all my friends know I am on getdare they also know how daring I am .

[lilith_]

Hello! I just wrote a blog about how to introduce your vanilla partner to BDSM. Please check it out if it interests you

https://www.getdare.com/bbs/blog.php?b=88202

[trying]

No its a guilty pleasre

[KittenRose]

I have a BF and he is vanilla. I don't grudge him that and still love and respect him a lot. In fact, his highly intellectual but goofy personality, combined with an intense curiosity is what I find very attractive in him. But he is not really interested in kink and would not understand my kinky needs. Or perhaps he would understand them, but not be able to provide for them, at least in a genuine way. I don't want to force him either.

I sometimes feel a little guilty that I need to seek elsewhere to satisfy my "Dark Shadow", as I like to call it. I feel specially bad if I end up doing D/S stuff online with a guy.

With apologies to Alfred, Lord Tennyson:

that which we are, we are;
One equal temper of kinky hearts,
Made weak by lust and pain, but strong in will
To whip, to spank, to submit, and not to yield