When the Dominant submit

samstarbuck · 12-11-2013, 10:15 AM

I've recently started down a confusing path. For most of my sexual life I've always been Dominant. I'm the one who does the binding, uses the cane, does the spanking, gives the orders, and so on. I've had a number of long term submissives under my thrall.

Through all that I've had some submissive desires and was willing to identify as a switch, but it hadn't been often and I never acted on it. However, a couple f months ago I went on a few dates with a woman who made it very clear she was Dominant only and received zero enjoyment from submission. It was fun. We had a lot of aggressive sex that included fighting for dominance.

In the long run she managed to win, because she had much more of an exhibitionist streak than I do. If we were in public she could often do something that would make me uncomfortable and use that moment to basically cow me. I'd do anything to avoid being uncomfortable in public and she used that to her advantage. She learned that if she fucked with me in public long enough by time we got back to my place or her place I'd be submissive putty.

It was humiliating.

She's since moved out of town leaving me with all of these weird conflicted feelings. I'm now craving the humiliation and have these thoughts of being slowly broken down and turned into a submissive. There's a long list of things I'd never really thought about because I wouldn't do them (cum eating, cross dressing, wearing a butt plug, piss play) that I now find myself thinking about being ordered to do and begrudgingly doing it until I've been broken to the point of liking it.

Anyway, the point of all of these words is are there other people who spent most of their lives identifying as Dom to only find yourself one day craving submission? How did you cope with it? Did you switch your role?

SaraMueller · 12-11-2013, 02:55 PM

Sounds like a good plot for a movie but not really.

kinkcoach · 12-11-2013, 04:11 PM

I recently trained a former Domme as a submissive (long story), she was actually extremely good.

Firstly dont freak out, we all change over time and there is nothing wrong with being a switch or sub if that's where you end up.

If not you will be a much better Dom having spent some time on your knees. There is a great deal of insight/perspective to be gained for Doms from submitting once or twice

(Yes I am speaking from experience, but unless you are a really spectacularly hot Domme dont PM me to switch lol)

12-11-2013, 10:15 AM	#1
samstarbuck Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2013 Location: NoCal Posts: 29 Blog Entries: 2	When the Dominant submit I've recently started down a confusing path. For most of my sexual life I've always been Dominant. I'm the one who does the binding, uses the cane, does the spanking, gives the orders, and so on. I've had a number of long term submissives under my thrall. Through all that I've had some submissive desires and was willing to identify as a switch, but it hadn't been often and I never acted on it. However, a couple f months ago I went on a few dates with a woman who made it very clear she was Dominant only and received zero enjoyment from submission. It was fun. We had a lot of aggressive sex that included fighting for dominance. In the long run she managed to win, because she had much more of an exhibitionist streak than I do. If we were in public she could often do something that would make me uncomfortable and use that moment to basically cow me. I'd do anything to avoid being uncomfortable in public and she used that to her advantage. She learned that if she fucked with me in public long enough by time we got back to my place or her place I'd be submissive putty. It was humiliating. She's since moved out of town leaving me with all of these weird conflicted feelings. I'm now craving the humiliation and have these thoughts of being slowly broken down and turned into a submissive. There's a long list of things I'd never really thought about because I wouldn't do them (cum eating, cross dressing, wearing a butt plug, piss play) that I now find myself thinking about being ordered to do and begrudgingly doing it until I've been broken to the point of liking it. Anyway, the point of all of these words is are there other people who spent most of their lives identifying as Dom to only find yourself one day craving submission? How did you cope with it? Did you switch your role? __________________ I've been Dominant for most of my life, but lately I've been having a strong submissive itch. I'm here to explore that hidden side of me. PM "PRACTICE X" and I will practice giving a blowjob on my dildo for x minutes. Likes/Limits on Blog Photo of my available toys

12-11-2013, 02:55 PM	#2
SaraMueller Member Join Date: Nov 2013 Location: On top of a bundle of my own desires. Posts: 52 Blog Entries: 2	Sounds like a good plot for a movie but not really. __________________ "Serenity and Scope." One day when you open your mail, You shall find a shiny collar made of leather. At that day you will know, That you are truly mine And no one else's. -Sara

12-11-2013, 04:11 PM	#3
kinkcoach Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2013 Location: New Zealand Posts: 13	I recently trained a former Domme as a submissive (long story), she was actually extremely good. Firstly dont freak out, we all change over time and there is nothing wrong with being a switch or sub if that's where you end up. If not you will be a much better Dom having spent some time on your knees. There is a great deal of insight/perspective to be gained for Doms from submitting once or twice (Yes I am speaking from experience, but unless you are a really spectacularly hot Domme dont PM me to switch lol) __________________ Tears of pleasure, tears of pain, trickle down your face the same Likes: sexual, edging, denial, pain, bondage, cam/pics/audio, training, pee, worn underwear, messy, spanking, improvised toys/torture devices Dislikes: Quitters Limits: obvious public, family/friends, poop, blood