Welcome back. I am glad that things are going well.

getDare does have a unofficial discord server. If you PM me I can try to get you the info.

Glad to hear that things are looking up. Good luck on your search for a sub and I look forward to reading more. Where in Canada are you visiting?

This is enough for me! I'm so glad!

Yay!

You say your post was a "retrospective look at a past problem"; therefore my comment might not be relevant for you any longer. I felt uneasy while reading your post because you seemed to use "caring" equivalent to "insecure". The same behaviour – e.g. checking in on somebody, asking for feedback, negotiating carefully – can be motivated by either caring or insecurity (or a mixture of both). Consequently, the same behaviour can be perceived as caring (and competent) or insecure and as attractive in a dom or not. After reading your last lines I assume you agree. I'm just writing this to make sure that you and, for that matter, everybody else who reads it, doesn't think he has to stop or reduce caring to come across as confident. On the contrary, I think caring is a very attractive quality in a dom (as is confidence).

Cool, sorry I must be tried. I always try to help out my fellow brothers, if they need help. My mistake.

Your trying to be too perfect, you need to rethink the relationship, I want you to think the relationship this way.

You know the girl's Likes, dislikes, and limits. Now think this way. Your on a Motorcycle, your driving, and the girl is in the back. You have full control, she's on the bike for the ride. You control the speed, and the turning, and were your going, and the dam radio too. You know she likes rock, so you put on a rock radio station for her, that you both like. In her limits, she doesn't like getting wet. So you avoid puddles. If she gets uncomfortable, she can move around back there, and shift her ass. The bike might shake, but you have the wheel and straighten it out. But if you have no confident in your riding skills, your going to scare the crap out of her.

Now how do you get confident? There is only one way, by doing it. If you try to fake it, the girl is going to know. So the best thing to do, is be truthful with the girl when you start a relationship. Tell her the truth, that she is number 3, and your experence with 1 and 2. So that way when something happens, she will be understanding.

It just like riding skill, you have to do it. You can read all the books you want, or pretend that your zooming down the road, and leaning into a turn. But once you get on a bike, and do it, it's a whole different story.
What I would recommend to boost your on-line dom confidence . Go out and do it live, as in the way of munchies, or taking classes, like rope works, or a whip class, and chat with other people, especially the subs, and slaves.

Just keep in mind, the bike. Your in charge, she in for the ride. Got any questions, hit me up thru my PM.

I find confidence sexy and it does go hand in hand with domination. However, I don't find asking questions or checking in with me a sign of weakness. I think that is a sign of strength. Some "doms" get into a mindset where they think they are a God and that they can do no wrong and they don't need to listen to anybody or ask any questions because they are THE Dom and blah blah blah ...

I do understand getting into your own head. I think Doms need reassurance too. Especially in the beginning of a relationship. When you are learning about each other there is always a lot of negotiation and correction ... I start to think that I am a bad sub when I constantly have to say No this doesn't work because ... or that is a limit because ... but those things happen. Fumbling around is a part of learning about each other. So taking time to reassure each other might not seem very Domly and sexy, but it really does make the difference.

Good luck with everything.

That reminds me: I have to ride my dildo for 20 minutes today.

I am happy to have you back! Good luck in your search.

I remember doing that with my brother on Wii. Good times!! Congrats on the achievement

Indeed, titles are great but only if you are actually in a D/s relationship. I love calling my misses "Princess" and "Goddess". I personally like the classic "Mistress" too, but my misses don't which is respected of course.

Personally, I don't like any of the usual male titles: "Sir", "Master", "Daddy".... If I ever were to be a Dom (which is not very likely as I'm mainly submissive) it would be hard thinking of what I'd want my sub to call me.

I personally do not like anybody calling me a title at all unless we have entered into a relationship of some sort. This goes for both Domme titles and sub titles.

I also will not call somebody Sir or Master without entering into a relationship. Respect is something that is earned, and those titles are something that hold a lot of respect.

I am where you were - a kink that appears harmless but also I don't see the appeal. Thanks for this posting ... I now at least see the appeal, so thanks.

"Nothing Without You EP - Emma Blackery"

Yassssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss. (Also it's named after Magnetised, not Nothing Without You but that doesn't hide the fact that Nothing Without You is the best track on there)