You can tell by their play fighting and how rude they are to each other, that they are in absolute adoration of each other Well done Sophia

I love this part most of all. That's how you can tell Sophia truly cares! You two are sweet.

Lesbians.

I need say nothing more.

I hate it when people demand something from me or pm me something along the lines,"ur m slv nw"

Transilation:You're my slave now.

It doesn't work that way. And the same with pictures. "w cn snd pcs & stff"

Transilation:We can send pictures and stuff.

You're blog describes it perfectly. And then there is people who say you're a bad sub if you don't give into their demands.

I like this blog and it hits the nail on the head.

It is truly sad, from how people you don't know or have never chat with you before. Expect that you will jump to there order! That they think, they can get you weak from working on you with words. You must earn that big word "TRUST," and understand it! Stop and think what goes into that word? Stop and think what it truly means? Just stop and not use your horny side take control of you. If you must, then you need major help! Show respect, and remember that word also!!

@Tink - I believe there's a 'fresh meat' mentality that motivates some 'doms' (spellcheck just tried to make doms into dims; make of that what you will), and the images they might get from someone who hasn't done it before will be a trophy to them. And they're unlikely to hide their trophies.

I got mentioned in your blog! I am so chuffed right now (and Wardell, I can read, you know :P). I think some people hop on gD, within the first half hour realize there are people who are just thrilled to hand out pictures or video of themselves (which is great, just not my thing), and their overloaded little brains think, oh my gosh, every chick on this site is just dealing it out like a deck of cards! And it takes a rather strong slap upside the head to snap them out of it and make them realize not everyone is the same. Then there are the people who are simply devoid of character and have committed themselves to a life of douchbaggery.

Here's what I don't get, and I'd love for someone to explain it: with so many people and porn sites online nowadays (it's insane), why do people still get fixated on trying to manipulate pictures, etc., out of one particular person who does not want to give them?

Tink's blogs on these are perfect (as is Tink, but don't tell her I said that), and I'd like to add that your perspective adds to, and compliments them very well. This should be the norm, not something that has to be hammered home over and over again by all the subs who are constantly annoyed by these troglodytes.

I love your definition of 'wank material' toward the end of the blog, Ice, and would like to add a cautionary note for all subs in that another common motivation for trying to prise nude pictures/videos from you is for porn sites. Once they're out there, they're out there forever.

this is so sweet, I hope you two stay forever together

hahaha some of them are just so ridiculous, just you two could have ended up talking about that! and haha then you blame me for not having common sense, just look at you!!!!
I think the first one is my favourite, apparently Sophia is dumber than I thought! ;P
hahaha this finally cleared up what goes on in your endless conversations ..... aka ... senseless talk! No wonder you both are so dizzy, after such talks hahaha!

This is a beautiful blog post, frosty, as always; I've missed this!

This is fantastic. As a sub who is kind of looking for a master, this is so reassuring that this much thought and effort goes into being a dom. I hope this helps subs be more honest and open, because I have done guessing games with people and they are maddening. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts!

Very nicely written article, and I definitely agree. No one is right at all times- a dominant has to be. He can never allow himself to be tired, or in a bad mood, or angry. If that's easy, I don't know what is hard.

Quite frankly, back when I participated in online D/s relationships, and yes, they were in fact RELATIONSHIPS, I found it much easier to be submissive. I did the best I could to please Dravot, and I enjoyed writing my reports. I found it quite easy to follow orders!

As for being dominant, wow! That was quite a challenge. The creativeness was very natural to me. But it takes so much time and effort! With the exception of one person I dommed, I was always friends with them as well. To me, the friendship was the first and most important thing of the D/s relationship in general. And finding a good balance between friendship and being dominant over them takes a good bit of effort.

You want to make sure the sub enjoys their submission, but still 'fear' (obviously, not truly fear) displeasing you.

So yea, for me, subbing was much easier (perhaps because I enjoyed it more?). I'm sure it's different for everyone.

I could go on and on I'm sure, but Lover, seriously, DAMN good blog post

You know I read the first statement in this entry and just laughed, more scoffed really. Totally agree with everything you said in this entry. I think creativity is one of the most difficult things I have to do when I am a dominant. And I also think the reason that this person may have said this statement is because of, what I think anyway, the distortion of what many people think a D/s relationship is. Do this or I'll punish you and that's it. That's not it. I say this all the time the key word in that phrase is D/s RELATIONSHIP. Not all of us view our submissives as just playtoys nor should we.

I have struggled to sleep on many occasions worrying about a sub. I've stayed up all night talking to them if they need me. However one phrase I agree with is, "it takes a strong man (or woman) to dominate but it takes a stronger man (or woman) to submit.'

Being a shitty dominant is easy. Perhaps that's all that person had experienced?
Or, if they find being a good dominant comes completely naturally to them and have lucked out in findings subs that match them perfectly... Heh

I cant speak from experience, but i always imagine being dominant is easier than being submissive in the same way as organic chemistry is easier than quantum physics.

IT DOESNT WORK THAT WAY!!! THEY ARE BOTH FREAKING HARD, some people just enjoy one or the other more, which makes it easier for them personally.

I agree its not easy, there is lots of things to remember about your sub that they like don't like. If they mentioned how something made them feel at one time, or hinted they would like to try it in the future. I am constantly thinking of ways I can use something someone says that I give tasks to or play with against them in a future task. Like the task frosty is doing that I created for rose, she had never told me she hated the loss of music but she did mention it during her contest with frosty so it became something that I knew she would be a little upset at losing. Anyone can make tasks for you, but a real dom will find a way to get inside your mind and not only give you a fun challenging task that might be right at the edge of omg can I really do this and wow this sounds so exciting I have to do this!

I have to agree with it, taking care of a submissive is actually a very hard job, especially with a submissive like you