Thanks for your comment, zephyrnem. I know my body very well and I can "play it" like an instrument, but it is difficult for casual sex partners to strike the right chord. Maybe contrary to the common opinion I think the dominant part is way more demanding than the submissive. Learning all those nuances is hard work.

Thank you all for your kind comments. I'd been so anxious about whether it was an appropriate topic to blog about my difficulties to judge which topics are appropriate.

I'm fully aware that "normal" is just a social construct and no individual is "normal" in this sense. I also don't think of my condition as an illness, but as an uncommon distribution of strengths and weaknesses. However, humans are social animals and being limited in social skills is a difficulty that affects every part of one's life.

But so far I have only thought of having Asperger's as an obstacle to fulfilling my submissive desires. Maybe this perspective is too narrow and your replies helped me see that. The kinky community might be a more suitable place for me than I previously thought because it's used to dealing with diversity.

And finally: I don't wish I was different. Some things are so much part of us that wishing them to change to some degree implies wishing to not exist at all as the person you currently are. I'm happy to say I don't do that.