Do not think yourself as silly, its not.
Do not do anything you do not feel comfortable with. Keep your curiousity and try out what you like and what you do not like.
Do not think it about how to do, just relax and do what is most pleasurable and lustfull to you. It will come all naturally.
I bet you do not think that much when you masturbate. you just do what feels best. thats how you should deal with sex anyway.
Dont feel bad letting the guy work on you. Many guys like...

every now and then I get asks from girls who want their partners to be more dominate and rough during sex.
of course the best way is to talk it over. some might not dare to speak about their needs.
here are some suggestions for those girls who want to get a little feel without exposing their submissive needs:

get yourself little challenges on the whole
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