Preferences
Posted 09-26-2012 at 06:20 PM by Chemi
I copied this list from one of the various reaches of the interwebs, so hopefully it covers the more discussed topics or...idk. I'm still pretty new to all this lol.
This isn't really meant to attract questions so much as it is to answer them without me having to rattle off everything from memory when I am asked. So here goes::
NOTE:: This list was made with my Husband as Dom in mind.
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Experience
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Have you had real time experience with the activity? Indicate YES or NO next to each item. Write N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
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Willingness
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Are you willing/open to try an activity?
For each item, indicate the degree to which you are willing to try that particular activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0-5 (see rating scale below).
If you write "no", it means you will not do that item under any circumstance (a hard limit). There is nothing wrong with indicating 'no' on an item. However, if you write 'no' next to every item, you should probably find another interest to pursue.... like knitting or basket weaving. *grin*
If you do not understand what an activity is, mark that item with a "?".
Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with your current sex partner(s), but not with casual play partners
Rating Scale
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0 Utterly no desire to do that activity and don’t like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and ordinarily would object to doing it, but you would permit the Dominant to do it if they really wanted it (sometimes called a soft limit)
1 Don’t want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn’t object it if was asked of you
2 Willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you
3 Usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/occasional basis
4 You like doing this activity and would like to experience it on a regular basis
5 Is a wild turn-on for you and you would like it as often as possible
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Note: any additional information or nuances which might be important for your Dom to know in the comments section.
Activity Experience/Willingness Comments
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Abrasion N/0
Age Play N/1
Anal Sex Y/5
Anal Plugs (small) Y/3
Anal Plugs (large) Y/3
Anal Plug (public under clothes) Y/4
Animal Roles N/0
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders) N/4
Aromas N/3
Asphyxiation N/3
Auctioned for charity N/3
Ball Stretching N/A
Bathroom use control N/2
Beastiality N/000
Beating (soft) N/0
Beating (hard) N/00
Blindfolding Y/5
Being Serviced (sexual) Y/5
Being bitten Y/4
Breast/chest bondage N/3
Breath control N/0
Branding N/0
Boot Worship N/1
Bondage (light) N/5
Bondage (heavy) N/5
Bondage (multi-day) N/5
Bondage (public under clothing) N/5
Breast whipping N/0
Brown showers (scat) N/000
Cages (locked inside) N/3
Caning N/2
Castration fantasy N/A
Catheterization ?
Cattle prod (electrical toy) N/0
Cells/Closets (locked inside of) N/1
Chains N/3
Chamber pot use N/0
Chastity belts N/3
Chauffeuring N/2
Choking N/3
Chores (domestic service) N/1
Clothespins N/2
Cock rings/straps N/A
Cock worship Y/5
Collars (worn in private) Y/5
Collars (worn in public) Y/5
Competitions (with other subs) N/2
Corsets (wearing casually) Y/4
Corsets (trained waist reduction) N/4
Cuffs (leather) N/5
Cuffs (metal) N/4
Cutting N/0
Diapers (wearing) N/0
Diapers (wetting) N/0
Diapers (soiling) N/0
Dilation ?
Dildos Y/5
Double Penetration N/3
Electricity N/0
Enemas (for cleansing) N/1
Enemas ( retention/punishment) N/0
Enforced chastity N/2-3
Erotic Dance (for audience) N/3
Examinations (physical) N/0
Exercise (forced/required) N/3
Exhibitionism (friends) N/3
Exhibitionism (strangers) N/4
Eye contact restrictions N/4
Face Slapping Y/4
Fantasy Abandonment ?
Fantasy rape N/3
Fantasy gang rape N/3.5
Fear (being scared) Y/...3?
Fisting (anal) N/0
Fisting (vaginal) N/0
Flame play N/0
Following orders Y/3
Foot worship N/3
Forced bedwetting N/000
Forced dressing N/4
Forced eating N/2
Forced homosexuality Y/5
Forced heterosexuality N/5
Forced masturbation N/5
Forced nudity (private) N/5
Forced nudity (around others) N/5
Forced Servitude N/3
Forced smoking N/5 All this sexytime and I'll need a ciggy fasho xD
Full head hoods N/0
Gags (cloth) N/3
Gags (inflatable) N/0
Gags (phallic) N/0
Gags (rubber) N/0
Gags (tape) N/0
Gas masks N/1
Gates of Hell (male) N/A?
Genital sex Y/5
Given away to another Dom (temp) N/4
Given away to another Dom (perm) N/0
Golden Showers N/00
Gun play N/00
Hair brush spankings N/3
Hair pulling Y/5
Hand Jobs (giving) Y/4
Hand Jobs (receiving) N/A
Harems (serving w/other subs) N/5
Harnessing (leather) N/3
Harnessing (rope) N/6
Having food chosen for you N/3
Having clothing chosen for you N/5
Head (give fellatio/cunnilingus) Y/6
Head (rcv fellation/cunnilingus) Y/6
High Heel Wearing Y/5
High Heel Worship N/3
Homage with tongue (non-sexual) ?
Hoods N/3
Hot oils (on genitals) N/0
Hot waxing N/0
Housework (doing) Y/1
Human puppy dog N/0
Humiliation (private) Y/3
Humiliation (public) N/0
Hypnotism N/!?
Ice cubes Y/4
Immobilization ?
Infantilism N/0
Initiation rites N/?
Injections N/0
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage N/10
Interrogations N/5
Kidnapping N/3
Kneeling N/3
Knife play N/0
Leather Clothing N/5
Leather restraints N/5
Lectures for misbehavior N/5
Licking (non-sexual) N/5
Lingerie (wearing) Y/5
Manacles and Irons N/2
Manicures (giving) N/0
Massage (giving) Y/5
Massage (receiving) N/5
Medical scenes N/0
Modeling for erotic photos N/5
Mouth bits N/0
Mummification N/0
Name change (for scene) N/2
Nipple clamps N/2
Nipple rings (piercing) N/2
Nipple weights N/0
Oral/anal play (rimming) N/4
Over the knee spanking Y/3
Orgasm denial N/3
Orgasm control N/5
Outdoor scenes N/5
Pain (severe) N/0
Pain (mild) N/1
Persona training (in scene) ?
Personal modification (rl) N/3
Phone sex (serving Dom) N/5
Phone sex (serving Dom’s friends) N/2
Phone sex (commercial provider) N/0
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce) N/0
Piercing (permanent) N/3
Plastic surgery N/0
Prison scenes N/0
Prostitution (public pretense) ?
Prostitution (actual) N/0
Pony slave N/0
Public exposure N/2
Punishment scene N/4
Pussy/cock whipping N/0
Pussy worship N/10
Riding crops N/1
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort) ?
Rituals ?
Religious scenes N/0
Restrictive rules on behavior N/3
Rubber/latex clothing N/3
Rope body harness N/10
Saran wrap N/0
Scarification N/0
Scratching - getting Y/4 Only lightly...
Scratching - giving Y/4 Depends
Sensory deprivation N/4
Serving N/3
Serving as art ?
Serving as ashtray N/0
Serving as furniture N/0
Serving as a maid N/3
Serving as a toilet (urine) N/0
Serving as a toilet (feces) N/00
Serving as waitress/waiter N/2
Serving orally (sexual) N/5
Serving other Doms (supervised) N/5
Serving other Doms (unsupervised) N/2
Sexual deprivation (short term) Y/2
Sexual deprivation (long term) Y/0
Shaving (body hair) N/0
Having (head hair) ?
Skinny dipping N/5
Sleep deprivation Y/3
Sleep sacks N/0
Slutty clothing (private) Y/4
Slutty clothing (public) Y/3
Spandex clothing N/0
Spanking Y/4
Speech restrictions (when/what) N/5
Speculums (anal) N/0
Speculums (vaginal) N/0
Spitting N/0
Spreader bars N/3
Standing in corner Y/3
Stocks ?
Straight jackets N/5
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on) N/3
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by) N/5
Strap-on-dildos (wearing) N/?
Strapping (full body beating) ?
Suspension (upright) ?
Suspension (inverted) ?
Supplying new partners for Dom N/3
Swallowing feces N/0
Swallowing semen Y/5
Swallowing urine N/0
Swapping (with one other couple) N/1
Swinging (multiple couples) N/2
Tampon training (in ass) N/0
Tattooing Y/4
Teasing Y/5
TENS unit (electrical toy) N/0
Thumb cuffs (metal) N/4
Tickling Y/2
Triple Penetration N/4
Urethral Sounds (metal rods) N/0
Uniforms Y/5
Including others Y/4
Vaginal dildo Y/5
Verbal humiliation N/3
Vibrator on genitals Y/5
Violet wand (electrical toy) N/0
Voyeurism (watching others) N/5
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others) N/5
Video (watching others) Y/4
Video (recordings of you) Y/5
Water torture N/0
Waxing (hair removal) N/0
Wearing symbolic jewelry Y/5
Weight gain (forced) N/0
Weight loss (forced) N/3
Whipping Y/3
Wooden paddles Y/0
Wrestling N/2
This isn't really meant to attract questions so much as it is to answer them without me having to rattle off everything from memory when I am asked. So here goes::
NOTE:: This list was made with my Husband as Dom in mind.
______________
Experience
----------------
Have you had real time experience with the activity? Indicate YES or NO next to each item. Write N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
-----------------
Willingness
-----------
Are you willing/open to try an activity?
For each item, indicate the degree to which you are willing to try that particular activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0-5 (see rating scale below).
If you write "no", it means you will not do that item under any circumstance (a hard limit). There is nothing wrong with indicating 'no' on an item. However, if you write 'no' next to every item, you should probably find another interest to pursue.... like knitting or basket weaving. *grin*
If you do not understand what an activity is, mark that item with a "?".
Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with your current sex partner(s), but not with casual play partners
Rating Scale
------------
0 Utterly no desire to do that activity and don’t like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and ordinarily would object to doing it, but you would permit the Dominant to do it if they really wanted it (sometimes called a soft limit)
1 Don’t want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn’t object it if was asked of you
2 Willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you
3 Usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/occasional basis
4 You like doing this activity and would like to experience it on a regular basis
5 Is a wild turn-on for you and you would like it as often as possible
-----------------
Note: any additional information or nuances which might be important for your Dom to know in the comments section.
Activity Experience/Willingness Comments
------------------------ -------------------------------- ------------------
Abrasion N/0
Age Play N/1
Anal Sex Y/5
Anal Plugs (small) Y/3
Anal Plugs (large) Y/3
Anal Plug (public under clothes) Y/4
Animal Roles N/0
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders) N/4
Aromas N/3
Asphyxiation N/3
Auctioned for charity N/3
Ball Stretching N/A
Bathroom use control N/2
Beastiality N/000
Beating (soft) N/0
Beating (hard) N/00
Blindfolding Y/5
Being Serviced (sexual) Y/5
Being bitten Y/4
Breast/chest bondage N/3
Breath control N/0
Branding N/0
Boot Worship N/1
Bondage (light) N/5
Bondage (heavy) N/5
Bondage (multi-day) N/5
Bondage (public under clothing) N/5
Breast whipping N/0
Brown showers (scat) N/000
Cages (locked inside) N/3
Caning N/2
Castration fantasy N/A
Catheterization ?
Cattle prod (electrical toy) N/0
Cells/Closets (locked inside of) N/1
Chains N/3
Chamber pot use N/0
Chastity belts N/3
Chauffeuring N/2
Choking N/3
Chores (domestic service) N/1
Clothespins N/2
Cock rings/straps N/A
Cock worship Y/5
Collars (worn in private) Y/5
Collars (worn in public) Y/5
Competitions (with other subs) N/2
Corsets (wearing casually) Y/4
Corsets (trained waist reduction) N/4
Cuffs (leather) N/5
Cuffs (metal) N/4
Cutting N/0
Diapers (wearing) N/0
Diapers (wetting) N/0
Diapers (soiling) N/0
Dilation ?
Dildos Y/5
Double Penetration N/3
Electricity N/0
Enemas (for cleansing) N/1
Enemas ( retention/punishment) N/0
Enforced chastity N/2-3
Erotic Dance (for audience) N/3
Examinations (physical) N/0
Exercise (forced/required) N/3
Exhibitionism (friends) N/3
Exhibitionism (strangers) N/4
Eye contact restrictions N/4
Face Slapping Y/4
Fantasy Abandonment ?
Fantasy rape N/3
Fantasy gang rape N/3.5
Fear (being scared) Y/...3?
Fisting (anal) N/0
Fisting (vaginal) N/0
Flame play N/0
Following orders Y/3
Foot worship N/3
Forced bedwetting N/000
Forced dressing N/4
Forced eating N/2
Forced homosexuality Y/5
Forced heterosexuality N/5
Forced masturbation N/5
Forced nudity (private) N/5
Forced nudity (around others) N/5
Forced Servitude N/3
Forced smoking N/5 All this sexytime and I'll need a ciggy fasho xD
Full head hoods N/0
Gags (cloth) N/3
Gags (inflatable) N/0
Gags (phallic) N/0
Gags (rubber) N/0
Gags (tape) N/0
Gas masks N/1
Gates of Hell (male) N/A?
Genital sex Y/5
Given away to another Dom (temp) N/4
Given away to another Dom (perm) N/0
Golden Showers N/00
Gun play N/00
Hair brush spankings N/3
Hair pulling Y/5
Hand Jobs (giving) Y/4
Hand Jobs (receiving) N/A
Harems (serving w/other subs) N/5
Harnessing (leather) N/3
Harnessing (rope) N/6
Having food chosen for you N/3
Having clothing chosen for you N/5
Head (give fellatio/cunnilingus) Y/6
Head (rcv fellation/cunnilingus) Y/6
High Heel Wearing Y/5
High Heel Worship N/3
Homage with tongue (non-sexual) ?
Hoods N/3
Hot oils (on genitals) N/0
Hot waxing N/0
Housework (doing) Y/1
Human puppy dog N/0
Humiliation (private) Y/3
Humiliation (public) N/0
Hypnotism N/!?
Ice cubes Y/4
Immobilization ?
Infantilism N/0
Initiation rites N/?
Injections N/0
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage N/10
Interrogations N/5
Kidnapping N/3
Kneeling N/3
Knife play N/0
Leather Clothing N/5
Leather restraints N/5
Lectures for misbehavior N/5
Licking (non-sexual) N/5
Lingerie (wearing) Y/5
Manacles and Irons N/2
Manicures (giving) N/0
Massage (giving) Y/5
Massage (receiving) N/5
Medical scenes N/0
Modeling for erotic photos N/5
Mouth bits N/0
Mummification N/0
Name change (for scene) N/2
Nipple clamps N/2
Nipple rings (piercing) N/2
Nipple weights N/0
Oral/anal play (rimming) N/4
Over the knee spanking Y/3
Orgasm denial N/3
Orgasm control N/5
Outdoor scenes N/5
Pain (severe) N/0
Pain (mild) N/1
Persona training (in scene) ?
Personal modification (rl) N/3
Phone sex (serving Dom) N/5
Phone sex (serving Dom’s friends) N/2
Phone sex (commercial provider) N/0
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce) N/0
Piercing (permanent) N/3
Plastic surgery N/0
Prison scenes N/0
Prostitution (public pretense) ?
Prostitution (actual) N/0
Pony slave N/0
Public exposure N/2
Punishment scene N/4
Pussy/cock whipping N/0
Pussy worship N/10
Riding crops N/1
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort) ?
Rituals ?
Religious scenes N/0
Restrictive rules on behavior N/3
Rubber/latex clothing N/3
Rope body harness N/10
Saran wrap N/0
Scarification N/0
Scratching - getting Y/4 Only lightly...
Scratching - giving Y/4 Depends
Sensory deprivation N/4
Serving N/3
Serving as art ?
Serving as ashtray N/0
Serving as furniture N/0
Serving as a maid N/3
Serving as a toilet (urine) N/0
Serving as a toilet (feces) N/00
Serving as waitress/waiter N/2
Serving orally (sexual) N/5
Serving other Doms (supervised) N/5
Serving other Doms (unsupervised) N/2
Sexual deprivation (short term) Y/2
Sexual deprivation (long term) Y/0
Shaving (body hair) N/0
Having (head hair) ?
Skinny dipping N/5
Sleep deprivation Y/3
Sleep sacks N/0
Slutty clothing (private) Y/4
Slutty clothing (public) Y/3
Spandex clothing N/0
Spanking Y/4
Speech restrictions (when/what) N/5
Speculums (anal) N/0
Speculums (vaginal) N/0
Spitting N/0
Spreader bars N/3
Standing in corner Y/3
Stocks ?
Straight jackets N/5
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on) N/3
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by) N/5
Strap-on-dildos (wearing) N/?
Strapping (full body beating) ?
Suspension (upright) ?
Suspension (inverted) ?
Supplying new partners for Dom N/3
Swallowing feces N/0
Swallowing semen Y/5
Swallowing urine N/0
Swapping (with one other couple) N/1
Swinging (multiple couples) N/2
Tampon training (in ass) N/0
Tattooing Y/4
Teasing Y/5
TENS unit (electrical toy) N/0
Thumb cuffs (metal) N/4
Tickling Y/2
Triple Penetration N/4
Urethral Sounds (metal rods) N/0
Uniforms Y/5
Including others Y/4
Vaginal dildo Y/5
Verbal humiliation N/3
Vibrator on genitals Y/5
Violet wand (electrical toy) N/0
Voyeurism (watching others) N/5
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others) N/5
Video (watching others) Y/4
Video (recordings of you) Y/5
Water torture N/0
Waxing (hair removal) N/0
Wearing symbolic jewelry Y/5
Weight gain (forced) N/0
Weight loss (forced) N/3
Whipping Y/3
Wooden paddles Y/0
Wrestling N/2
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