welcome back, look forward to seeing you find a happy medium of getDareness

I don't hold it against you for taking a break from the site. It was obviously needed and you made the right call for yourself. Real life needs to always come first.

It is nice to see you back around, but maybe lurk a bit, form some real connections. There are always going to be people who disappear or let you down, but others you meet will be worth it!

Welcome back!

Never worry too much about what people might think of you. We all have our reasons to do what we did. Guild and shame are bad advisors.

I’m sending you hugs!! I appreciate you and everything you do. I hope the slump is short and shallow. *hugs*

Could you explain the trap cards more.

Trap cards can be played instead of normal cards.
You win that round if you play it against that type of card.
You lose one of your rounds if it is used against a card it doesn't trap.

One card per game.

But what will be the dare types if you win? Would you please give an example, that always works great.

It looks super well done, I just think there are a couple things working against it.

1. It is very long. When you combine the instructions for the two threads together, it may be the longest game post I've ever seen here.

2. It requires you to be an engaged on gd to enter. You know as well as I do that is a small population. Most people are here to just get off quickly. So you're already targeting a niche group and giving them a higher barrier to entry on top of it. I think you need to be patient with it. It is well written, so people will get there, but it won't be in a flood.

I think this is a great way to look at it. I know it is easy to get caught up in the emotional side and get upset when something you put a lot of effort into doesn't work. I know I have been there before. It has made me want to give up at times. But I know your hard work is appreciated. Sometimes it just takes a new strategy to get the info out there.

I hope your game works out! It is a really cool idea.

When I get sore from working out only working out again the next day makes the soreness go away! And of course never skip stretching, I know it is boring as hell, but it helps!

Back to your original post here....

What KittenLicks said at the end is the key to GD. Find people you like to play with. (And ignore a lot of the rest.) I have a little intro to GD post around (needs editing right now) that I sometimes send to newbies and at the end of the current version: "Above all, find good people who like things that you like - and have fun on GetDare."

Yes, some people don't respond. I have recently PM'd and posted what I thought were some nice custom tasks/dares to people. But even when requested, (it should not be necessary) do they post or send reports? Nope, not too often at all. So will I do them another, even when they say "That was great, send me another one." Nope. That's why many RTorD threads die - no response other than "I like it, keep them coming." So fine: let them go. Even if you want to be part of building a community, some people can't understand that. Be judicious in how much energy you put out, and where you put it.

Coach says: this pain will get worse for a while, maybe up to 48 hours (!) then get better. Next time be sure to cool down with walking and stretching afterward, and some people find that laying down and "bicycling" or "windmilling" your legs up in the air helps to get blood and combustion products flowing out of them and out of those muscles, while bringing in a good flow of fresh oxygenated blood. (AND: You will wake up sore - try to warm up and stretch just a bit, to avoid getting stiff and achy.)

This is not a generations thing.

You can see this easily enough for yourself. Click on Request TorD, and then 'last' to go to the last page. You'll find pages and pages of threads with titles like "Give me a dare" and "Got dares?", from 2006. The messengers subforum contains a few posts like this from as far back as 2007, and the only difference is instead of Kik it was Yahoo messenger.

The divide here is not a generation divide, the divide is between people that want to be a part of this community, and people that do not. Those people looking for "kik fun"? You probably won't see most of them in other parts of the forum, because all they're looking for is some random person to play with.

You joined 4 years before I did, but as long as I've been here, at least, getDare has always been about finding the people that are worth interacting with, in a sea of people that are not. That's just what happens when you have a couple hundred random people on a site together.

As for the title, I'm gonna continue trying as hard as I can to have a good time with other people, thanks. <3

I think most gen z/millennials are killing ______ arguments are more an unwillingness of older people to adapt to the times rather than a generation being broken and this goes right into it. I'm part of active kink communities that are majority young folks. They don't run on vBulletin and kik. This is a dated website that is never going to attract and sustain a population of gen z folks and that is fine. I really appreciate gd for what it is.

Not that I have anything to prove, but I wanted to comment and say that I read the entire blog and that I mostly agree with you. I don't think that the majority of people will change, and thus those members who are looking for a cheap thrill will always remain.

However, those people who can answer your questions. The ones who do take time to read (even if it isn't books - since to be honest, I have not had the time to read a book in months), to make quality posts, take time to make somebody's day a little brighter, or who DO put other people first, THOSE people, they are the ones who make this site worth returning to. They are the reason I log on every day. The reason I spend hours a week moderating and wading through dumb posts and silly drama. They make it worth it.

Now, I am not saying that you should break your back bending over backwards to make a silly site and people from the internet a priority, but, I am saying that it can matter, and your presence can matter. This site isn't just about kink, sex and dares to me. I have made genuine connections. Hell I fell in love on this site!!!

When I had a miscarriage, I didn't tell many people in my real life, but the people on this site were there for me. When I decided to come out about my sexual assault, it was reading the comments of support that helps me get through the night. When I wanted to self harm, it was friends drawing butterflies on their skin to show their support that helped me stop. This site CAN matter because there are great people here who can make a difference.

So yes, don't put too much stock in the site on its own, instead focus on building relationships with the wonderful people who call getDare their home. Sometimes they are hard to find, but there are rare gems on here.

Anyways ... I think I am just feeling sentimental and I have rambled on enough for one night. Hopefully this makes some sort of sense.

I completely understand. I definitely had to pull back on my usage. (It really does get unhealthy). As much as I enjoy your threads, I wouldn't mind them slowing (or even stopping) if it meant that you were taking better care of yourself. Sending warm, fuzzy hugs your way.

Take care of yourself! I’ll send you some good thoughts! And lots of hugs! Also I had a lot of fun with you and I’m glad you’re around, especially if you’re only around an appropriate amount of time and are taking care of yourself!

Hope I haven't annoyed you too much But I do think your health might be suffering from all those late nights. Enjoy a break, you probably need it and I hope you don't totally disappear

There's no shame in taking a break from getDare. I do it every few months.

That being said, the way you phrased that does make it sound like your getDare usage is unhealthy. It is very easy to get addicted to gd. It very well might be a good call to go easy on it for a bit.

Do whatever you need to stay healthy and happy, Bloxo. Lots of people definitely do appreciate you being here, including me!