You are an absolutely wonderful person, and very brave for making that difficult decision. I wish you all the luck in the world as you begin to test the waters again. Good luck with everything, and if there's anything I can do to help you please let me know.

I'll be honest, I am very ill in ways we've discussed previously right now, so commenting at all is a bit of a struggle. but you deserve a reply.

A combination of your illnesses and the medication are the primary reasons for not wanting to do the tasks and not admitting to not having done them. Maybe you have developed into a "bratty" sub, but that wouldn't explain why you don't keep up to date with informing of undone tasks.

That all being said, the fact you still want tasks at all shows you're submissive to some extent. I don't think you've outgrown it.

However, having a Kitty and Fromo means... maybe not being a switch so much as... (I'm trying to get my head round this. I think it's along the lines of maybe what I am/do - forgot what i was saying here due to phonecall...) Maybe an equalist (or more appropriate name) - where you enjoy the play, but on equal footing, with nobody being actively Dom/sub or both being simultaneously...

I'm sure I had more points, but I'm really worn out (espeically from having to people part way through replying. I'm sorry)...

I've had these thoughts for a while now too. I remember when I first joined the site and started getting into the BDSM scene and absolutely loved subbing but now, I feel as though I couldn't care less if I subbed again or not.

I've tried to get into it again but it just didn't feel right like it did in the past, it was fun and I didn't have the desire.

I assume it's just that I've gotten older and my personality/likes have changed.

Maybe we're just moving into new stages in our lives.

I have been debating about whether to respond, because I don't have a lot relevant experience here, so you may want a rather large grain of salt with this. When I first started subbing, I was very flexible and adaptable, and I think I was so thrilled with subbing in general that the acts within a session were secondary. However, as I got more experience and figured myself out (and my Dom played a very key role in that process), my preferences narrowed in some ways and broadened in others - like you, I discovered I am more of a little, for instance.

So now I know much better what I want, which is fantastic, but I have found I am not nearly as acquiescent as I used to be, or as adaptable and able to derive the same kind of pleasure and satisfaction from just pleasing the dom when I play casually. It's still very important to me, I greatly enjoy pleasing doms and if I fail to do so it is disappointing to me. But I want to enjoy the session for myself too.

With my Dom, on the other hand, pleasing him absolutely makes my day - I love it, and it is immensely satisfying in and of itself. But I think that as a sub I am certainly different from when I first started. People change and grow, so I think that who you are as a submissive may change too, and certainly could change many, many times. And then, this is assuming that subbing is still fulfilling for you - plenty of people have found that they switch from being a sub to a dom or to doing both or neither, and it sometimes just depends on where you are in life. The main thing, I believe, is that you are above all true to yourself, and that however you submit or don't submit you are able to do genuinely so that you are fulfilled and not always at war with yourself. If there is something else that is hampering your ability/desire to submit, then dealing with that comes first - forcing it doesn't usually go well.

I hope this was a little helpful...

Thank you for an interesting post. I was aware of age play, but before now I was not aware of being a Little and what it entails. Thanks for expanding my knowledge

I am so happy to read this!! I love the way you detailed everything, and it really cleared a lot of things up for me in regards to myself, and the subby/kinky part of my life. Thank you so very much.

Lovely, lovely post, thank you so much for writing this! A lot of this resonated with me - I am in many ways a Little, and I love it. You absolutely hit the nail on the head with this, and I appreciate how you've indicated the incredibly wide and varied range of Littles which exists - I particularly like how you said "Littles are not children, they are not immature nor irresponsible. Most Littles have a very stressful, demanding, and challenging schedule outside of their “Little space”. They may have a very important job, a grueling course load in school, or very important roles in their family/community. They turn to their Little space to unwind, to relax." And I love the sense of freedom that gives me, when I can go into that space, even if it is just me by myself indulging in coloring and Disney movies Very well put, thank you again!

I have some experience, but there is always so much more to learn, and I appreciate reading your thoughts.

It's understandable that you feel that way, and I must confess that I will ask many, many questions to build as much understanding and sensitivity to the person as I can.

There are a lot of people who do not examine themselves, or because they feel something is obvious to them, that others should simply know. Hopefully your post will go some way to clear a few things, or raise awareness.

Thank you for posting this; it is a fascinating article and I hope informative to others. It has been to me.

It's great that you mention the sexual/non-sexual persona, and the switch in mindsets. The first thing I do when approaching a little is to gently ask about these things. Part of me struggles with being so forward, but a lot of people wanting to explore themselves may not be aware of the terminology, or face confusion in describing it as they are just being themselves. I'd rather be clear and aware at the start then cause distress later on.

-tries to find the love button, finds non, and offers my heart instead-