In some states (if you're in the US) there is a law sometimes referred to as the "Romeo and Juliet" law, or something like that. It allows people in that state who are within four years of each other to be together. You should look it up and see what the consent laws are in your state. Plus, you can always be in a non-physical relationship.

I think you should be her friend and if anything happens when she's 18 or older and you both have mutal feelings for eachother, then I say go for it.

Unfortunately, Drill is right. The law says that it's not right. Not that I think the law is always the best thing to listen to but if it's illegal, it's illegal. The best idea is not to risk it.

Well as an 18 year old you shouldnt go there.

Sorry, but the serious check aside, what does your virginity have anything to do with whether you should go to the doctor or not? Or is that you signature?

Hmm.

You should see a doctor.

and if you don't mind, PM me the site? I'm up for debating and mocking some flamers who think that BDSM is a game. lol

In all honestly? Don't tell the admin.

If her father is a friend this might be better off. Esp if you do not want to tell him.

I say this because unless they can block the IP addy(not every site can) then all they will do is block and ban her SN and e-mail addy.

If she is determined? she will remake a new e-mail addy and get a new SN and she'll be back on.

I say this mostly for her safety. you can better keep an eye on her, her postings and dealings, and if you find her ever getting into a situation where she is meeting or doing other risky stuff you can bring the hammer down then.

Telling her father would do little I'd imagine, as there would be little that he can do without banning her from the internet.
Maybe it will help him be aware of what she is up to and help curb her actions.

But in all honesty you are stuck between a rock and a hard place here. not much you can do really other than the above

A moral dilemma.

It doesn't sound like you feel either solution is the ultimate right answer.

I wrote a long answer listing all the pros and cons I could think of, but I'm sure you've worked that out yourself already.

I think you need to weigh up the options, and decide which option will result in the least "mess" for you to deal with, and the guilt that is sounds like you are feeling is at a level you can deal with.

Ultimately, I'm a faceless name on a discussion board, who doesn't really know enough detail to give you advice.

I firmly believe that in a case like this, no harm really is no foul. If something had happened, and both of you were willing, its still technically legal but morally not a good thing. If one was unwilling, its called rape (even just sexual favors, not sex itself). You definitely did the 'right thing' in calling it off. Since she is still your friend, i dont think you have anything to fear as she hasnt taken offense. She is ok, you are ok, nobody died or got hurt (that i can tell) so there was no real crime.

Good luck to you. I hope you get good news. I know what you are going through with all the anxiety and worry. I wish you the best.

-Aries

My sister was underage when she met her now husband who is ten years older then her. Since you only got 1 text file containing sex, confront your friend and ask her opinion on whats going on. If they are actually dating then let it be. Shes 15 so it most likely wont last.

Sorry but a 15 year old is just too young for a 25 year old boy where sex is concerned.

I understand where you are coming from and I appreciate that you have concerns for the morality of the situation, but there are other things to consider as well.

It is probably just silly flirting at the moment but these things can easily get out of hand, and if they do then lives can be wrecked. Your brother could find himself in serious trouble with the police and be charged with underage sexual intercourse.

After saying all that, it is clear that you are looking to do the right thing here. It is difficult to give advice, knowing only part of the story. Don’t do anything hastily or you may just cause further complication. Think carefully about it first. You know your brother and you also know this girl, so you need to assess the situation then talk ether to the girl or to your brother first. BUT you will need to carefully consider your words before you do.

You want to pursue the course of action that will result in the least damage to all concerned. Try talking to someone first as going straight to the police, would almost certainly result in trouble for your brother and unpleasant problems for yourself.

If talking doesn’t work then is there anyone else you can trust? Remember you are trying to do the right thing here so don’t fall into the trap of taking all of the burden for your brother’s lifestyle. You can only do so much; don’t start blaming yourself for everything.

Yeah, talk with her before you do anything like Sekai said. And also remember, she's still a teen, so her hormones are all out of whack. Which means she's more sexually aroused now-a-days, probably, and is going to find the easiest way to get it out. Also, as long as they're not actually having sex, it should be fine. And if they are, depending on how strong their relationship is (If it goes past just sex, they actually like each other) then don't go to the police.

I'm in a bit of a similar situation myself, only he's a little younger than your brother.

Maybe talk with her before you do anything?