This is a site where people come to play games, have fun, get sexy, interact with other kinksters and basically enjoy themselves. The Queen/King election was meant to be fun, encourage friendly banter and get people excited and competing against each other. Which is what getDare is ALL ABOUT!

Unfortunately there was already negativity before Lola's offer was made, and that seemed to just be the straw that broke the camels back. I have already apologized to the candidates for my piece in that.

As Ly ph confirmed, the candidates were the ones who almost unanimously decided to shut the thread down and walk away. I was willing to continue things because I knew that there was a lot of time and effort put into the thread by all parties. However, I think they made the right decision as it wasn't fun anymore.

Yes, this may have caused me to take a step back from getDare and being active for awhile, but I am not going to think twice about pitting people against each other in the future. It is part of the nature of getDare, and people like to be competitive and have a healthy dose of competition.

For those that don't want to pick sides, don't participate! There is something called the law of two feet ... if you don't like something, use your two feet and walk away.

That was fun to read! Thank you for sharing!

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Glad you had fun

Hmm you may have never been properly teased but you're somehow pretty good at it haha :P

It's always interesting to hear other peoples storys, and as always great blog!

I definitely think thing like this shouldn't be 'taboo' to talk about, they affect everyone in their respective communities. The queen thread was a nice idea, and it definitely deserves to be reopened after all the effort each canditate had put into it but I also hope staff have learnt what repercussions openly picking sides and breaking their own rules can have!

everyone has such an interesting kink journey; it'll be interesting to see how your preferences change over the years or don't change.


thanks for sharing!

It always makes me happy to read blogs on this subject. I remember very well getting my 'fix' from early morning TV as a kid. Get Your Own Back was my favourite, as the end gunge tank scenes were of adults. The reason I don't indulge more is I really hate food wastage!

I started being attracted to messy while watching Double Dare as as youngin.

great blog!

I agree with Nina! It can be undone because I have done that, on multiple separate occasions. The worst thing you can do for your healing and growth, the one thing that will slow it down, is isolating yourself. While I know that is the natural reaction, it’s not the most productive reaction.

I do, however, recommend doing things to protect yourself, such as stepping away as early as possible when things look bad, getting to know people well before investing in them too heavily, and learning to ask for what you need or state your concerns with kindness, respect and confidence.

Also, it is all extremely difficult and I’m sending you good thoughts and strength!

Yes damage can be undone, in fact, it is only natural to evolve with experience in life and become a better and more confident person. The only deterrent in my opinion is when we crawl into our shell and stop seeking.

For the longest time I referred to myself as broken. There was so much damage to me done by a few abusive individuals and I just felt broken beyond repair. However, over the last 4 years especially, I have seen so much of that damage be repaired.

Somedays I feel very little ill effects and others I still am haunted by my past and all those feelings that it brings up, but there has been huge progress. I am not broken anymore.

I dont know if I'll ever recover fully, I honestly think that my past is going to follow me forever, but i have learned to quiet it. I can be aware and tell myself that those damaging thoughts aren't true and that I know better.

It's a long process, but like you said, admitting there is something to change is the first step.

I relate to everything you've said so so so so much. That's a question I keep asking myself over and over again. I think it is possible but it takes a lot of patience, tears and time. It's not an easy process. I struggle sooo much with trust and sometimes it feels like I'll never be able to fully trust someone, however if the right person shows up and we are willing to work on ourselves and give us the time to heal, it is possible. At least I hope so? Haha

There is definitely some kind of pattern!! It’s fun to think about it like this!

Adding to the comments, people usually start work on Mondays, want to unwind after work on Fridays, and are usually off for the weekend. Sunday people usually don't want to go into work the next day (Monday) and are trying to stay up late or do as much as they can before it to make their time off feel longer, or to feel better by relaxing with things they like instead of feeling it's close arrival (sometimes pretending it's not).

Anyway, up North here there's a weird event called the Polar Plunge. Towns go to a lake on the coldest day of the year and can volunteer to submerge themselves. It's usually a televised event and raises money for Special Olympics.

I don't really think there is a pattern for it in the big picture. I think most people just create and share whatever they want, when they want to. I haven't done any dares though. Have you asked questions like these in the truth section? People who do dares often would probably pass the truth section first before the blogs, if at all.

I am not sure about specific dare trends, but I have noticed that there are certain times of the year where user participation seems to go up or down. For example, over the summer it can be pretty quiet at times, while over Christmas break, there are a lot more people around. Fridays and saturdays are a bit more active than Monday to Thursday, but Sundays seem to be the busiest, at least in chat. It is really interesting, and I would love to see some sort of data if it was ever to be collected.

I'm glad to hear that. Good balance. See you around the site. Take care