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Control your Dom!
Thank you for the tips Miss. I will remember these and adjust to the female sex accordingly.Posted 03-30-2019 at 11:07 PM by Jaro -
Posted 03-30-2019 at 09:46 PM by Butterfly -
Control your Dom!
I want a cockwaffle! They look yummy!Posted 03-30-2019 at 10:27 AM by LittleMissSass -
Posted 03-30-2019 at 10:14 AM by StrawDog -
Control your Dom!
This is great! The other side of fhe coin of a sub/dom relationship! Knowing all this, every game will get even more intense.Posted 03-30-2019 at 01:55 AM by darkblue -
Posted 03-29-2019 at 05:51 PM by Butterfly -
Posted 03-29-2019 at 04:58 PM by LitDarkness -
Posted 03-29-2019 at 04:56 PM by Heart -
Control your Dom!
Aww you two! Shouldn't this be in the fiction forum? *runs away from the incoming glitter bombs* Missed me *pokes out tongue and keeps running*Posted 03-29-2019 at 03:28 PM by MastersVoice -
An unhappy sub is a disobedient sub.
And you are a dollophead.
Quote:I do the exact same thing. When I am upset about something I will talk about it. I usually need some time to think about it first, but then I bring my concerns to my Dom(s) and we work it out. However, when I am MAD, I will do the same thing and it is usually my bathroom rule that I use.
I don't really like that phrase because the first thing I thought of was that it was in relation to bratting. Because bratting is wrongly viewed as being disobedient.
But anyways ... this was a great blog with a fantastic message. Thank you for sharing <3
I don't know if the reaction is solely being mad or a combination of being mad and stubborn and 3.5 when I'm little...perhaps I just decided it was time for a justified temper tantrum!
Quote:As you can see, when my IceMaiden has something to say, she is shy and retiring and won't communicate.
Of course.
As I have said quite a few times, communication is key. It is something we spent a lot of time working on in the early part of our relationship. At the begining, perhaps due to previous experiences, Icy wouldnt communicate her poblems, she would clam up and I would have to prise them out of her. Now she just opens that pretty little mouth and tells me.... and nags... and pouts... and complains.... perhaps I taught her too well. But this is the part where she will deny this and pretend she always communicated with me....
I did! Eventually. Also...if you listened the first time it wouldn't be nagging, would it?
As for the deliberate disobedience - so far as I am concerned it isnt an indication that she is a bad submissive. While we dont live in a 'traditional' 24/7 dynamic, we do apply D/s to every aspect of our lives. While I dont micromanage every aspect and every decision, every morsel of food and every activity, I have the authority to do so at any time if i choose. Perhaps a good term would be "supervised autonomy." If you like it, remember I invented it.
You're good at inventing words and terms.
Even bearing this in mind we are, underneath it all, a couple in a long distance relationship. A couple in a D/s relationship, a couple with problems, a couple of idiots... a couple. I strongly feel that even in a tightly controlled D/s dynamic, the underlying reality is that there are two (or more) people in a relationship, satisfying mutual needs and striving to make one another happy. In any vanilla relationship people fight and act out, and a D/s relationship is no different, the only real difference is HOW this is expressed.
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Quote:In any vanilla relationship people fight and act out, and a D/s relationship is no different, the only real difference is HOW this is expressed.Posted 03-24-2019 at 07:52 AM by IceMaiden -
His Eyes vs My Eyes.
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I love you too ♡
Quote:Always so happy to read about your perfect relationship. I know this isn't focused on your kinks, but I still believe kinky relationships can really be the best just because there is so much trust and openness involved.
I am am glad you have become more positive about yourself!
Quote:This is something that I can fully sympathize with. When I first met Mr. Devious, I felt like I was broken beyond repair. I had absolutely zero self confidence and I thought I was unlovable. It took me so long to believe that HE loved me, that HE thought I was beautiful, that HE believed in me. Even if I didn't believe those things of myself, HE did!
Once I sorted that out, very (VERY) slowly over time, I was able to start to love myself, believe in myself, and thing positive things. Hearing those words, even when I disputed them, worked to wipe out the negative messages I had heard my whole life and replaced with positive things. It happened so slowly I didn't realize it.
This is so lovely to read. Thank you for sharing. I am so glad you are finally able to see yourself the way he has seen you all along. Which is the same way that we have always seen you too.
Quote:What a powerful blog. Thank you for sharing such a deep thought, your journey and how you came through it using someone else's perspective.
I love the five rules and all are true. Learn to love yourself and your idiosyncrasies. Everyone is special in their own way and everyone has a part to play in the world.
Perfect
Quote:You did all the work, princess, all I did was stand over you while you did it. I want you to know what you are worth, but if you ever 100% believe just how wonderful you are I am going to have to beat it out of you, you would be intolerable.
I love you princess, you are beautiful.
Is a beating meant to be a deterrant? I love you too.Posted 03-24-2019 at 07:44 AM by IceMaiden -
An unhappy sub is a disobedient sub.
I find for me I become disobedient when my needs aren't met after continuous attempts of communication. It's not my first line of attack but I will act out if I'm not feeling submissive.Posted 03-22-2019 at 09:21 PM by Heart -
An unhappy sub is a disobedient sub.
Quote:Bratling, 21:56
really? I take like 3 days to figure out what i wanted to say and you comment im a butthead? that i never even said!
As I have said quite a few times, communication is key. It is something we spent a lot of time working on in the early part of our relationship. At the begining, perhaps due to previous experiences, Icy wouldnt communicate her poblems, she would clam up and I would have to prise them out of her. Now she just opens that pretty little mouth and tells me.... and nags... and pouts... and complains.... perhaps I taught her too well. But this is the part where she will deny this and pretend she always communicated with me....
As for the deliberate disobedience - so far as I am concerned it isnt an indication that she is a bad submissive. While we dont live in a 'traditional' 24/7 dynamic, we do apply D/s to every aspect of our lives. While I dont micromanage every aspect and every decision, every morsel of food and every activity, I have the authority to do so at any time if i choose. Perhaps a good term would be "supervised autonomy." If you like it, remember I invented it.
Even bearing this in mind we are, underneath it all, a couple in a long distance relationship. A couple in a D/s relationship, a couple with problems, a couple of idiots... a couple. I strongly feel that even in a tightly controlled D/s dynamic, the underlying reality is that there are two (or more) people in a relationship, satisfying mutual needs and striving to make one another happy. In any vanilla relationship people fight and act out, and a D/s relationship is no different, the only real difference is HOW this is expressed.
Posted 03-22-2019 at 03:24 PM by AbusiveMaster -
An unhappy sub is a disobedient sub.
I do the exact same thing. When I am upset about something I will talk about it. I usually need some time to think about it first, but then I bring my concerns to my Dom(s) and we work it out. However, when I am MAD, I will do the same thing and it is usually my bathroom rule that I use.
I don't really like that phrase because the first thing I thought of was that it was in relation to bratting. Because bratting is wrongly viewed as being disobedient.
But anyways ... this was a great blog with a fantastic message. Thank you for sharing <3Posted 03-22-2019 at 02:58 PM by Butterfly -
Posted 03-22-2019 at 02:55 PM by AbusiveMaster -
Posted 03-22-2019 at 08:47 AM by Heart -
Anxiety.
I had the follow up the other day. The nurse was very happy as the lump was almost completely gone so I have been totally discharged and don't need to go back unless I feel a change again.Posted 03-22-2019 at 08:35 AM by IceMaiden -
His Eyes vs My Eyes.
You did all the work, princess, all I did was stand over you while you did it. I want you to know what you are worth, but if you ever 100% believe just how wonderful you are I am going to have to beat it out of you, you would be intolerable.
I love you princess, you are beautiful.Posted 03-05-2019 at 02:33 PM by AbusiveMaster -
His Eyes vs My Eyes.
What a powerful blog. Thank you for sharing such a deep thought, your journey and how you came through it using someone else's perspective.
I love the five rules and all are true. Learn to love yourself and your idiosyncrasies. Everyone is special in their own way and everyone has a part to play in the world.
PerfectPosted 03-05-2019 at 02:25 PM by MastersVoice -
His Eyes vs My Eyes.
This is something that I can fully sympathize with. When I first met Mr. Devious, I felt like I was broken beyond repair. I had absolutely zero self confidence and I thought I was unlovable. It took me so long to believe that HE loved me, that HE thought I was beautiful, that HE believed in me. Even if I didn't believe those things of myself, HE did!
Once I sorted that out, very (VERY) slowly over time, I was able to start to love myself, believe in myself, and thing positive things. Hearing those words, even when I disputed them, worked to wipe out the negative messages I had heard my whole life and replaced with positive things. It happened so slowly I didn't realize it.
This is so lovely to read. Thank you for sharing. I am so glad you are finally able to see yourself the way he has seen you all along. Which is the same way that we have always seen you too.Posted 03-05-2019 at 12:38 PM by Butterfly -
His Eyes vs My Eyes.
Always so happy to read about your perfect relationship. I know this isn't focused on your kinks, but I still believe kinky relationships can really be the best just because there is so much trust and openness involved.
I am am glad you have become more positive about yourself!Posted 03-05-2019 at 12:07 PM by Jaro -
Posted 03-05-2019 at 08:46 AM by Heart -
His Eyes vs My Eyes.
This is such an amazingly beautiful post. Thank you so very much for allowing us in. I'm so glad you have such a wonderful support and that you have allowed yourself to see with his eyes.
"The eye sees not so clearly itself but by reflection."Posted 03-05-2019 at 08:10 AM by Faithfullyyours -
His Eyes vs My Eyes.
That was so lovely to read! I'm glad you are being much kinder to yourselfPosted 03-05-2019 at 08:06 AM by LittleMissSass -
His Eyes vs My Eyes.
I'm so glad you don't hate yourself anymore. And AM is lucky to have you.
I'm so glad he showed you just how amazing you are. Because you are amazing.Posted 03-05-2019 at 07:49 AM by LitDarkness