Unconditional love?
Posted 02-13-2019 at 01:05 PM by AbusiveMaster
Icy and I had a conversation this afternoon in which she told me she loved me unconditionally, and this proved she loves me more (an old and ongoing argument.)
I do not love her unconditionally, and nor does she return this, she is just simply wrong, but this we can forgive as she isn't very bright.
Unconditional love shouldn't exist unless you are a dog. The closest example a human being can experience is the love a parent holds for a child, but even this is not unconditional, the conditions are just stretched a lot farther when dealing with your children – even here there are limits.
Love should be dependant, conditional. It should depend on how the other person treats you, how they make you feel. It should be constantly re-earned and forever re-evaluated. Otherwise you take a look ten years down the line and realise that everything went horribly wrong and you didn't even see it sneaking up on you.
Dear Icy, love me conditionally. Every day I want you to look and see that I treat you as you deserve to be treated. Make sure I value you and cherish you. Be certain that you continue to feel safe, loved, protected. Ensure that we have a relationship, a partnership, that I do not take from you more than I give, nor expect from you more than I provide.
This is the standard to which I want to be held accountable, and the standard to which I hold you.
Fuck unconditional.
I do not love her unconditionally, and nor does she return this, she is just simply wrong, but this we can forgive as she isn't very bright.
Unconditional love shouldn't exist unless you are a dog. The closest example a human being can experience is the love a parent holds for a child, but even this is not unconditional, the conditions are just stretched a lot farther when dealing with your children – even here there are limits.
Love should be dependant, conditional. It should depend on how the other person treats you, how they make you feel. It should be constantly re-earned and forever re-evaluated. Otherwise you take a look ten years down the line and realise that everything went horribly wrong and you didn't even see it sneaking up on you.
Dear Icy, love me conditionally. Every day I want you to look and see that I treat you as you deserve to be treated. Make sure I value you and cherish you. Be certain that you continue to feel safe, loved, protected. Ensure that we have a relationship, a partnership, that I do not take from you more than I give, nor expect from you more than I provide.
This is the standard to which I want to be held accountable, and the standard to which I hold you.
Fuck unconditional.
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Posted 02-13-2019 at 01:13 PM by Butterfly -
Posted 02-13-2019 at 01:14 PM by herpderp42 -
Posted 02-13-2019 at 01:18 PM by Faithfullyyours -
Posted 02-13-2019 at 01:31 PM by Dr.Dom -
Posted 02-13-2019 at 01:32 PM by LitDarkness -
Posted 02-13-2019 at 01:41 PM by Blue Fox -
I think you misunderstood me. If you didn't treat me right, if you abused or hurt me or did something truly unforgivable, if you beat me without consent etc, I would not stay with you. I would not respect you. I would not like you. I would never trust you again. I would be gone.
But a part of me would always love you. For all the good things we had, for all the help and support you gave, for the amazing you that I knew.Posted 02-13-2019 at 01:46 PM by IceMaiden -
Posted 02-13-2019 at 03:46 PM by CSasha -
Quote:I think you misunderstood me. If you didn't treat me right, if you abused or hurt me or did something truly unforgivable, if you beat me without consent etc, I would not stay with you. I would not respect you. I would not like you. I would never trust you again. I would be gone.
But a part of me would always love you. For all the good things we had, for all the help and support you gave, for the amazing you that I knew.Posted 02-13-2019 at 05:55 PM by Butterfly -
Ice Maiden, maybe this will help bolster your concept with terms: https://www.google.com/url?sa=i&sour...50194815191259. So do you mean eros has some element of storge for you because emotionally he is now family in a lasting sense? ♡
Posted 02-13-2019 at 06:43 PM by Faithfullyyours -
Posted 02-13-2019 at 09:00 PM by Jaro -
Posted 02-14-2019 at 09:08 AM by Heart