05-20-2018, 05:53 AM | #1 |
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Life after losing your Dom
"And now what...?"
That's the only thing I've been thinking these days. My Dom decided that we should end our relationship because it doesn't work for various reasons. Now I am not motivated to do anything at all, it's like I have forgotten how to live without rules. Are there any subs out there who have had the same issue? How did you cope?
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05-20-2018, 06:08 AM | #2 |
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05-20-2018, 06:31 AM | #3 |
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The audacity of some people is beyond me. To the 10+ people who asked me to be my new Master:
No, you will not be my new "Master", I am not a slave, I don't want a Master and !!!!NEWSFLASH!!!! you are not a Master, you are a horny idiot.
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05-20-2018, 06:33 AM | #4 |
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05-20-2018, 06:44 AM | #5 |
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I'm sorry people suck. But its a little like real relationships in a way, take some time to yourself, and reflect a little on the nature of your past relaationship. When you think you're ready, you can look again, but you don't really have to by any means. All of this is about making you happy, so try not to let it bring you down! I hope you feel better!
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05-20-2018, 06:46 AM | #6 |
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i'd suggest taking a little break. you don't have to leave gD if you like the emotional support of course, but abstaining from kink for a bit and recharging really helps.
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05-20-2018, 06:47 AM | #7 | |
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05-20-2018, 07:01 AM | #8 |
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I'm sorry about hearing about your breakup. I wish you all the best.
Try to keep some of your rules into play. Make them some bars you can hold on to so you won't fall as quickly. Let them be memories of the good times. Let them give the structure you need for now. Build it of slowly. Or that is what I think
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08-22-2018, 10:25 PM | #9 |
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Lilith,
I have experienced this a couple of times and it is definitely hard. Bu, you WILL make it through it. I promise My advice, 1. look to the future and remember that you are precious. 2. Understand that if it was meant to be... it would be. I would rather be with someone who was devoted to me. 3. You deserve to have a Dom that will stay by your side even during the difficult times. Especially during the difficult times. Now, I find that it is best to remain busy afterwards and try to stay away from the kinky side of things that could remind you of the past. Come back after some time and play on your own. D/s relationships are harder then normal ones to maintain and it takes time to find a partner who is worthy of your love. I know that I am still struggling to find someone in this world. But, I will continue to try and will eventually find someone. you will too I am here if you need a shoulder to cry on or if you need to talk. Don't hesitate to reach out! Take care and remember that you will make it through this -little alexis |
08-23-2018, 12:53 AM | #10 | |
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Thank you so much for your advice! It's been a while since then and I'm slowly getting used to the domless life, but it is still something that I crave.
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08-23-2018, 01:31 AM | #11 |
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I'm all about setting a date in the near future (no more than a week) when you will start healing. Until then, just dwell in it. Don't put on a brave face, don't strategize coping methods, just let yourself feel everything. Get all the pain out now instead of spreading it out. Just be sure to stay in the moment and not write long term narratives about yourself.
I'm sure it's not for everyone and is maybe bad if there is already underlying depression, but it has worked for me. Hugs
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08-23-2018, 01:36 AM | #12 |
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This is always a hard experience. It is hard to give good advice without knowing you better. Personally I like to keep myself busy, meet people you haven’t talked to for a while, try something new (perhaps a new hobby?). Life can be beautiful, get out and experience it. Don’t sit at home with miserable thoughts.
I hope you will feel better soon.
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