Question about dare I received - what's your opinion?

Alex_x99 · 08-21-2013, 06:40 AM

I've been dared to go "80 days without masturbating" which I am doing. But I want to know if people think this means I can't cum in other ways?

Sex must be allowed as this definitely isn't masturbating, and wet dreams are beyond my control, but what about making myself cum in ways that don't involve stimulating my cock? Can I hump a pillow, finger my prostate? I just want your (The GetDare community's opinion on this wording). And if I am allowed to do these things is there some sort of forfeit?

What's your take on this?

TwoPages · 08-21-2013, 06:48 AM

It depends. If someone gave you a dare they shouldnt have to list off every fathomable way you can work around it. Just strap up and do as you were told - If you wanted to do things your way you shouldnt have gotten your dare off someone else.

Alex_x99 · 08-21-2013, 07:03 AM

Well I don't want to try and work round it, trying to cut at the wording of the dare until there's nothing left, I'm just curious. Especially as 80 days is so long - I mean, if I stood naked in the middle of a room and without touching myself just willed myself to come, is that masturbating?

It may just be that ten days into the dare I'm horny and it's on my mind so I'm starting to test the boundaries. The dare was sort of given by a group of which I was the loser so there's no one to ask straight out about this.

camgib · 08-21-2013, 07:33 AM

I think that daring you not to masturbate involves the concept of self stimulation. To me, your dare included you "getting happy" on your own.

vladimir_bz_lion · 08-21-2013, 08:45 AM

Humping pillow or stimulate your cock any other way when you alone is unequivocal - NO.
Milking the prostate and sex - are legal, on my mind, but a lot depends on the opinion of your dare master and the circumstances. For example, pick up a prostitute, just 'cause you can not wank - it's like cheating IMHO.

Alex_x99 · 08-21-2013, 09:24 AM

That's kind of what I felt. Any attempt to stimulate my cock is clearly wrong no matter what method I use but if for some reason (to ease social situation, comfort, to complete another dare) I needed to cum, should it be okay to "milk my prostate"? It's kind of like a wet dream really, just artificially induced.

(In fact now I think of it, wet dreams can be pretty intense and pleasurable. As time builds from my last wank I'm treated to increasingly erotic dreams. Isn't it better to stave these off with some regular milking?)

vladimir_bz_lion · 08-21-2013, 09:46 AM

I think "handsfree" prostate milking is fairplay.

Alex_x99 · 08-21-2013, 09:56 AM

Any other opinions?

twotothetenth · 08-21-2013, 10:00 AM

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Originally Posted by Alex_x99

Any other opinions?

how about asking the person who gave you the dare how they meant it?

Alex_x99 · 08-21-2013, 10:09 AM

The dare was set by a group as a kind of "loser has to..." dare. I've asked some of those involved but they're obviously moving on with the game at this point so all I have is the original wording "loser cannot masturbate for x days".

Dr_ · 08-21-2013, 10:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Alex_x99

...but if for some reason (to ease social situation, comfort, to complete another dare) I needed to cum...

If your permanent erection is jeopardising a limit (such as social suicide) I say do something about it. If you want to cum because of a more recent dare then no: first takes priority. Tell people you cannot complete theirs until after the deadline. Most people are pretty forgiving of this (with punishment in some cases).

Alex_x99 · 08-21-2013, 10:35 AM

Okay, so as I see it if continuing the dare risks breaking a limit then I can break the rules in that instance and then return to the dare (should there be a forfeit for this?)

Milking the prostate is less certain. Whilst not masturbating it seems the only reason I'd do it is to release sexual tension, the enduring of which is surely the point of not being able to masturbate. So although not strictly against the rules of the dare it is against the spirit of it. This is a shame as I was kind of interested to see if I could cum without touching my cock.

08-21-2013, 06:40 AM	#1
Alex_x99 Member Join Date: May 2013 Location: UK Posts: 43 Blog Entries: 1	Question about dare I received - what's your opinion? I've been dared to go "80 days without masturbating" which I am doing. But I want to know if people think this means I can't cum in other ways? Sex must be allowed as this definitely isn't masturbating, and wet dreams are beyond my control, but what about making myself cum in ways that don't involve stimulating my cock? Can I hump a pillow, finger my prostate? I just want your (The GetDare community's opinion on this wording). And if I am allowed to do these things is there some sort of forfeit? What's your take on this? __________________ Likes: Humiliation / Degredation, Public Nudity, Pain, Predicament Bondage, Anal Play, Watersports, CBT, Enema, Edging, Sissification, Serving, Gagging. Limits: Scat, Family, Anything Permanent, Illegal.

08-21-2013, 06:48 AM	#2
TwoPages Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: I Live Here Posts: 11 Blog Entries: 2	It depends. If someone gave you a dare they shouldnt have to list off every fathomable way you can work around it. Just strap up and do as you were told - If you wanted to do things your way you shouldnt have gotten your dare off someone else. __________________ I Like: Wonton Abuse Lifestyle Adjustments Behavior Modification Appearance Changes Humiliation Pet Play Rope Bondage My Limits: That Could Get Me Fired Thats Against The Law That Involves Pictures Videos Or Sound

08-21-2013, 07:03 AM	#3
Alex_x99 Member Join Date: May 2013 Location: UK Posts: 43 Blog Entries: 1	Well I don't want to try and work round it, trying to cut at the wording of the dare until there's nothing left, I'm just curious. Especially as 80 days is so long - I mean, if I stood naked in the middle of a room and without touching myself just willed myself to come, is that masturbating? It may just be that ten days into the dare I'm horny and it's on my mind so I'm starting to test the boundaries. The dare was sort of given by a group of which I was the loser so there's no one to ask straight out about this. __________________ Likes: Humiliation / Degredation, Public Nudity, Pain, Predicament Bondage, Anal Play, Watersports, CBT, Enema, Edging, Sissification, Serving, Gagging. Limits: Scat, Family, Anything Permanent, Illegal.

08-21-2013, 07:33 AM	#4
camgib getDare Sweetheart Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: Southeastern US Posts: 274 Blog Entries: 2	I think that daring you not to masturbate involves the concept of self stimulation. To me, your dare included you "getting happy" on your own. __________________ For my interests, look here. If you want to see what kinds of dares and/or tasks you might receive from me as my slave, check my past posts. KIK: camgibby Skype: cam.gibby Random add requests with no introduction will be ignored. I have a hard time with short-term subs and one-offs. Proud owner of Mr. Curious He makes such sweet boy music when we play. We had our six-year anniversary on March 24th.

08-21-2013, 08:45 AM	#5
vladimir_bz_lion getDare Addict Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Europe Posts: 2,361 Blog Entries: 37	Humping pillow or stimulate your cock any other way when you alone is unequivocal - NO. Milking the prostate and sex - are legal, on my mind, but a lot depends on the opinion of your dare master and the circumstances. For example, pick up a prostitute, just 'cause you can not wank - it's like cheating IMHO. __________________ I expect your detailed and exciting report. PM me for punishment if you failed my dare. "You're going to women? Don't forget your whip!" Friedrich Nietzsche “No woman, it is said, knows truly what she is until she has worn the collar” John Norman, Raiders of Gor Initiative whores - most ask for punishment to look forward to a man, to be a continuation of his motion, momentum, thoughts. Who yearns to be punished, craves and needs the pleasures of pain?

08-21-2013, 09:24 AM	#6
Alex_x99 Member Join Date: May 2013 Location: UK Posts: 43 Blog Entries: 1	That's kind of what I felt. Any attempt to stimulate my cock is clearly wrong no matter what method I use but if for some reason (to ease social situation, comfort, to complete another dare) I needed to cum, should it be okay to "milk my prostate"? It's kind of like a wet dream really, just artificially induced. (In fact now I think of it, wet dreams can be pretty intense and pleasurable. As time builds from my last wank I'm treated to increasingly erotic dreams. Isn't it better to stave these off with some regular milking?) __________________ Likes: Humiliation / Degredation, Public Nudity, Pain, Predicament Bondage, Anal Play, Watersports, CBT, Enema, Edging, Sissification, Serving, Gagging. Limits: Scat, Family, Anything Permanent, Illegal.

08-21-2013, 09:46 AM	#7
vladimir_bz_lion getDare Addict Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Europe Posts: 2,361 Blog Entries: 37	I think "handsfree" prostate milking is fairplay. __________________ I expect your detailed and exciting report. PM me for punishment if you failed my dare. "You're going to women? Don't forget your whip!" Friedrich Nietzsche “No woman, it is said, knows truly what she is until she has worn the collar” John Norman, Raiders of Gor Initiative whores - most ask for punishment to look forward to a man, to be a continuation of his motion, momentum, thoughts. Who yearns to be punished, craves and needs the pleasures of pain?

08-21-2013, 09:56 AM	#8
Alex_x99 Member Join Date: May 2013 Location: UK Posts: 43 Blog Entries: 1	Any other opinions? __________________ Likes: Humiliation / Degredation, Public Nudity, Pain, Predicament Bondage, Anal Play, Watersports, CBT, Enema, Edging, Sissification, Serving, Gagging. Limits: Scat, Family, Anything Permanent, Illegal.

08-21-2013, 10:09 AM	#10
Alex_x99 Member Join Date: May 2013 Location: UK Posts: 43 Blog Entries: 1	The dare was set by a group as a kind of "loser has to..." dare. I've asked some of those involved but they're obviously moving on with the game at this point so all I have is the original wording "loser cannot masturbate for x days". __________________ Likes: Humiliation / Degredation, Public Nudity, Pain, Predicament Bondage, Anal Play, Watersports, CBT, Enema, Edging, Sissification, Serving, Gagging. Limits: Scat, Family, Anything Permanent, Illegal.

08-21-2013, 10:35 AM	#12
Alex_x99 Member Join Date: May 2013 Location: UK Posts: 43 Blog Entries: 1	Okay, so as I see it if continuing the dare risks breaking a limit then I can break the rules in that instance and then return to the dare (should there be a forfeit for this?) Milking the prostate is less certain. Whilst not masturbating it seems the only reason I'd do it is to release sexual tension, the enduring of which is surely the point of not being able to masturbate. So although not strictly against the rules of the dare it is against the spirit of it. This is a shame as I was kind of interested to see if I could cum without touching my cock. __________________ Likes: Humiliation / Degredation, Public Nudity, Pain, Predicament Bondage, Anal Play, Watersports, CBT, Enema, Edging, Sissification, Serving, Gagging. Limits: Scat, Family, Anything Permanent, Illegal.