Switching with the same person?

Nusername · 12-25-2019, 11:49 AM

I've always wondered, and today I've decided to ask all the switches here. I've seen a lot of switches who have a problem with being a dom and a sub with the same person, and I think only one besides myself who doesn't...
As someone who finds it fantastic to do it with the same person, I'm curious, are you one of the very few who also do? If not, why is that?

MaybeBaby · 12-25-2019, 03:54 PM

I'm with you on this one. I find the give and take to be really nice. I can understand why someone might struggle with switching back and forth for a person though, if your dynamic is already set.

Bloxo · 12-25-2019, 04:36 PM

In this regard I’ve always set myself up to fail haha, I like to compete with another switch to earn dominance...this can take a few forms:
Playing games - each win allows you to perform a dominant act on the loser
Making bets - allows for more dramatic dominant outcomes

The other idea, which I haven’t found the right partner yet...would just be taking turns, having one session where you are in control and another where they are...

Though the competition angle is the most exciting for me, as it makes you feel you have really earned the right to be dominant and also the loser has the extra embarrassment factor of being beaten in contest

Butterfly · 12-25-2019, 08:46 PM

I find that most people either make me feel subby or they make me dommey. I have yet to find somebody who makes me feel both ways. It is hard for me to switch head spaces with the same person once it has been established. It is one thing to be bratty and push the line, but I just can't do it.

MikeInShiningArmour · 12-25-2019, 11:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Bloxo

I like to compete with another switch to earn dominance...this can take a few forms:
Playing games - each win allows you to perform a dominant act on the loser
Making bets - allows for more dramatic dominant outcomes

This resonates with me. If I'm, for example, playing truth or dare with a girl and after two turns she pulls out 'its getting really hard to think of anything. Why don't you just tell me what to do? ' I lose a heap of interest.

Damion · 12-26-2019, 12:00 AM

To me there are two sides of switching with the same person. The first one is the casual play, through bets and wagers; and as others have already mentioned this has a great back and forth rivalry sort of aspect; that kinda payback/revenge side or the addition of 'oh you lost twice in a row, how extra shameful and humiliating', etc, etc. That sort of regular back and forth can be a lot of fun!

The other side though is a matter of trust; trusting a person enough to let yourself slide into either role in either way shape or form; and its rare but it does happen. Sure, the other person might be mostly leaning one way or the other but indeed that kinda perspective on the one side of the coin can make them really great when it flips and they take/let go on the other side.

So yeah, it does happen, and is often a lot of fun whichever way it happens.

iamnotme · 05-14-2020, 10:05 PM

I like Damion's response.

I have never had an actual Ds relationship. I tend to be more dominant in my daily life, but my sex life has always been more as equals, although I usually end up being a bit more assertive than most of the women I have been with.

My fantasies tend to run both directions. I really like the idea of having someone totally submissive, willing to do anything to make me happy. At the same time, I have fantasies about being with someone who is willing to take control and demand I fulfill her fantasies, usually with some sort of femdom play. I am not polyamorous, so this would have to be with the same person. Unfortunately, most of the people I know are pretty vanilla. I also like the idea of gambling for sexual favors. It would be a big fantasy to play a game with a girlfriend where the loser had to fulfill specific fantasies or acts for the winner.

12-25-2019, 11:49 AM	#1
Nusername Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2019 Posts: 26	Switching with the same person? I've always wondered, and today I've decided to ask all the switches here. I've seen a lot of switches who have a problem with being a dom and a sub with the same person, and I think only one besides myself who doesn't... As someone who finds it fantastic to do it with the same person, I'm curious, are you one of the very few who also do? If not, why is that? __________________ 21/m switch Sub info: Likes: Light pain, cbt, teasing, bladder control (Please help me expand this list!) Punishments: Medium/heavy-ish pain/cbt, very short term denial Limits: Besides illegal/unsafe, etc., public, wam, scat, face pictures

12-25-2019, 03:54 PM	#2
MaybeBaby Member Join Date: May 2018 Posts: 64 Blog Entries: 3	I'm with you on this one. I find the give and take to be really nice. I can understand why someone might struggle with switching back and forth for a person though, if your dynamic is already set. __________________ 19F/Pansexual/38D 5'6"/230lbs/blonde/hazel eyes Likes/Limits/Rules/Toys PM Dares Kik- MaybeBabyGD... I get an overwhelming amount of Kik messages so please don't Kik me just to ask to use my Lovense or just to tell me you found me on GetDare. Please DO send me photos. Lovense Username- MaybeBabyGD

12-25-2019, 04:36 PM	#3
Bloxo getDare Devil Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: UK/Poland Posts: 1,464 Blog Entries: 69	In this regard I’ve always set myself up to fail haha, I like to compete with another switch to earn dominance...this can take a few forms: Playing games - each win allows you to perform a dominant act on the loser Making bets - allows for more dramatic dominant outcomes The other idea, which I haven’t found the right partner yet...would just be taking turns, having one session where you are in control and another where they are... Though the competition angle is the most exciting for me, as it makes you feel you have really earned the right to be dominant and also the loser has the extra embarrassment factor of being beaten in contest __________________ 40/m/UK/PL/switch - more dominant Likes/Dislikes/Limits/Toys PM DARES! I'm straight and will only take Dares from Girls, please bear this in mind when writing to me. Please be genuine, be fun and have a good heart...with a sadistic streak hehe...6 inches Curious about me or Poland? check out my Youtube!

12-25-2019, 08:46 PM	#4
Butterfly A Butterfly Princess <3 Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: Alberta, Canada Posts: 4,664 Blog Entries: 515	I find that most people either make me feel subby or they make me dommey. I have yet to find somebody who makes me feel both ways. It is hard for me to switch head spaces with the same person once it has been established. It is one thing to be bratty and push the line, but I just can't do it. __________________ On Hiatus PMs will not be responded to My heart belongs to my Husband: Mr. Devious Being tortured frequently by my Dom SleepySloth Served by my loyal worm Jaro Caring for my little TheBrat Recordings ❤ FAQ ❤ AMA Likes/Limits ❤ Toys Discord: butterfly.cm ❤

12-26-2019, 12:00 AM	#6
Damion Member Join Date: Jun 2014 Location: London, UK Posts: 98 Blog Entries: 2	To me there are two sides of switching with the same person. The first one is the casual play, through bets and wagers; and as others have already mentioned this has a great back and forth rivalry sort of aspect; that kinda payback/revenge side or the addition of 'oh you lost twice in a row, how extra shameful and humiliating', etc, etc. That sort of regular back and forth can be a lot of fun! The other side though is a matter of trust; trusting a person enough to let yourself slide into either role in either way shape or form; and its rare but it does happen. Sure, the other person might be mostly leaning one way or the other but indeed that kinda perspective on the one side of the coin can make them really great when it flips and they take/let go on the other side. So yeah, it does happen, and is often a lot of fun whichever way it happens. __________________ 29/m/switch/pan qmu is a true friend. 2022 Gladiator Overlord! kik: TimonBerkowits PM DARES Likes: Humiliation, bondage, bukkake, body writing, pics, sph, cuckold, collars/leashes, contests, bets/wagers, underwear, lovense, hypno, abdl, little. Dislikes: Stress positions, deep throating, tickling, pain, Watersports. Limits: Family, Face, public, exposure, permanent, scat, Hamtaro, interfering with work/sleep, I can't touch without permission from my partner.

05-14-2020, 10:05 PM	#7
iamnotme Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2014 Posts: 19	I like Damion's response. I have never had an actual Ds relationship. I tend to be more dominant in my daily life, but my sex life has always been more as equals, although I usually end up being a bit more assertive than most of the women I have been with. My fantasies tend to run both directions. I really like the idea of having someone totally submissive, willing to do anything to make me happy. At the same time, I have fantasies about being with someone who is willing to take control and demand I fulfill her fantasies, usually with some sort of femdom play. I am not polyamorous, so this would have to be with the same person. Unfortunately, most of the people I know are pretty vanilla. I also like the idea of gambling for sexual favors. It would be a big fantasy to play a game with a girlfriend where the loser had to fulfill specific fantasies or acts for the winner.