Would you have an affair or cheat on a long term partner?

Sxygirl · 05-27-2011, 12:31 PM

Just want people's thoughts. I specify long term as realise a lot of gD members are younger and I think under 2years isn't long term. (Just my viee),

So, would or have you cheated? Why? Were there ramifications, if so, what? If you have or had kids does it change things, why?

Thanks in advance.

Sxygirl · 05-27-2011, 02:18 PM

Judging by results so far the people of gD wouldnt have an affair or cheat..

Are these truthful or people holding back?

Makes me feel worse!

Star Shadows · 05-27-2011, 02:32 PM

I would NEVER cheat on someone who i had been in a (long term) relations ship with- I know how it feels to be cheated on... is cheated a word? and would NEVER be able to live with myself had i inflicted that much pain on somebody else.

nellybell · 05-27-2011, 05:23 PM

If I'm considering cheating on the guy I'm going out with and that I have been for a while then there is probably something wrong in that relationship already. If there really are big enough issues that I would consider cheating than I'm probably just going to break up with the person because apparently I'm not happy enough where I currently am. There really isn't a choice for that.

smokeyeager · 05-27-2011, 05:55 PM

I voted for wouldn't cheat because I wouldn't be in a relationship that wasn't an open one so it wouldn't be cheating if we both knew and were OK with it.

cbtslave4u2 · 05-27-2011, 10:21 PM

Never. Never Ever Ever. But there are assholes out there who act like little kids thinking their hot shit. But guys who act like little kids and the bad boy thug/cool popular guys are obviously going to do that occasionally. I've heard so many stories it's stupid.

Sxygirl · 05-28-2011, 01:15 AM

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Originally Posted by cbtslave4u2

Never. Never Ever Ever. But there are assholes out there who act like little kids thinking their hot shit. But guys who act like little kids and the bad boy thug/cool popular guys are obviously going to do that occasionally. I've heard so many stories it's stupid.

What about women or men in abusive relationships but can't leave due to threats to themselves or family members but have a chance of an affair that is undetectable? Not everything is black & white.

*** This circumstance is not mine but I do know someone in that situation ***

florida87x · 05-28-2011, 01:28 AM

I'll say that I would.

I was, at one point, in a long distance relationship with someone who I loved, but didn't love romantically anymore. I didn't break it off, because I was a wuss and because I at least helped her some by getting her counseling and moving out of her abusive family's house.

In the mean time, I gradually fell for someone else. We never did anything physical, and we didn't even date until a year and a half after my previous relationship ended. But I cannot in good conscience claim I would never cheat when I fell in love with someone else. Even if nothing physical happened, plenty did emotionally, and I would call it perfectly plausible that I would have. Hell, I consider it cheating, even if I didn't fuck her.

I think it's incredibly disingenuous to claim that we know exactly how we would act, and that we would never cheat. To be with the person I cheated on, I gave up my friends and family, gave up hundreds of thousands of dollar, probably compromised my ability to do well in college, and definitely compromised my own sanity. Yet I cheated on that person. Love is a strange thing. If it was easy to understand, we'd never get hurt by it.

BettyBoop · 05-28-2011, 05:19 AM

I never would, unless it's a really odd situation like the ones that have been mentioned above I don't understand why people cheat. I'd rather someone left me than cheated on me.

CollaredBlondie · 05-30-2011, 08:52 AM

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Originally Posted by BettyBoop

I never would, unless it's a really odd situation like the ones that have been mentioned above I don't understand why people cheat. I'd rather someone left me than cheated on me.

This. If my partner cheated on me, I'd leave when I found out. And I always find out.

honeyness · 06-02-2011, 09:00 AM

I couldn't cheat on somebody, no matter the amount of time I had dated them for, to get into a relationship is making a promise and a commitment to that one person. I am not one to break my promises, so I couldn't do it. I'm also likely to feel immense guilt that would prevent me even thinking about cheating before.

I find it interesting how people class as cheating, for example a ex-long term boyfriend I found out after the relationship was over that he had been having sexual conversations and playing stripping games with someone online. For me, because of the other person involved it felt as if he had cheated, yet to a lot of people that wouldn't seem bad.

CollaredBlondie · 06-02-2011, 01:07 PM

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Originally Posted by honeyness

I find it interesting how people class as cheating, for example a ex-long term boyfriend I found out after the relationship was over that he had been having sexual conversations and playing stripping games with someone online. For me, because of the other person involved it felt as if he had cheated, yet to a lot of people that wouldn't seem bad.

I know exactly what you mean Honey. I'm exactly the same. It's one of the main reasons I won't give or take dares. I see it as cheating and I won't do it.

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I already have.	3	8.11%
I would or am considering it.	3	8.11%
I would if no children involved.	0	0%
I don't think I could.	5	13.51%
No, I wouldn't.	24	64.86%
I don't know until in that situation.	2	5.41%
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05-27-2011, 12:31 PM	#1
Sxygirl Account Banned Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 31	Would you have an affair or cheat on a long term partner? Just want people's thoughts. I specify long term as realise a lot of gD members are younger and I think under 2years isn't long term. (Just my viee), So, would or have you cheated? Why? Were there ramifications, if so, what? If you have or had kids does it change things, why? Thanks in advance. __________________ I am not your baby, your girl, your slave. Just because I am female you do not have the right to hassle me when I go in chat. I would really like a female slave/sub to be friends with, to nurture and to make me smile

05-27-2011, 02:18 PM	#2
Sxygirl Account Banned Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 31	Judging by results so far the people of gD wouldnt have an affair or cheat.. Are these truthful or people holding back? Makes me feel worse! __________________ I am not your baby, your girl, your slave. Just because I am female you do not have the right to hassle me when I go in chat. I would really like a female slave/sub to be friends with, to nurture and to make me smile

05-27-2011, 02:32 PM	#3
Star Shadows Prodigy Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Uk Posts: 4,707 Blog Entries: 13	I would NEVER cheat on someone who i had been in a (long term) relations ship with- I know how it feels to be cheated on... is cheated a word? and would NEVER be able to live with myself had i inflicted that much pain on somebody else. __________________ Do not ask me for to be your slave, your mistress, or to give you truths or dares. You're wasting your time. Informative threads: Anonymous S/M advice service Threads of note PM MEGET S/M ADVICE WORSHIPS RACHIE**

05-27-2011, 05:23 PM	#4
nellybell Truth or Dare Enthusiast Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: In front of the computer, staring vacantly. Posts: 2,812 Blog Entries: 14	If I'm considering cheating on the guy I'm going out with and that I have been for a while then there is probably something wrong in that relationship already. If there really are big enough issues that I would consider cheating than I'm probably just going to break up with the person because apparently I'm not happy enough where I currently am. There really isn't a choice for that. __________________ There was a nelly, a very smelly enchanted nelly sweet as vegemite could be ahaha just kidding, but still loved just the same <3

05-27-2011, 05:55 PM	#5
smokeyeager Senior Member Join Date: May 2011 Location: 1 mile from the beach on the eastern seaboard of North America Posts: 162	I voted for wouldn't cheat because I wouldn't be in a relationship that wasn't an open one so it wouldn't be cheating if we both knew and were OK with it. __________________ 33/Straight Male/US I'm a switch D/s depending on my mood. Loves: anal, watersports, cbt, pain, humiliation, piercing. Likes: Try anything once, especially if it's interesting. Limits: kids, family, poo, diapers (or anything baby related), blood, permanent marks. Ask me anything. P90X is brutal but I'm loving it.

05-27-2011, 10:21 PM	#6
cbtslave4u2 getDare Sweetheart Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Texas Posts: 456	Never. Never Ever Ever. But there are assholes out there who act like little kids thinking their hot shit. But guys who act like little kids and the bad boy thug/cool popular guys are obviously going to do that occasionally. I've heard so many stories it's stupid. __________________ I am MasterCalan now.. Maybe I will open a new account one day... lol [IMG=http://img.pokemondb.net/artwork/zekrom.jpg]

05-28-2011, 01:28 AM	#8
florida87x Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Posts: 121	I'll say that I would. I was, at one point, in a long distance relationship with someone who I loved, but didn't love romantically anymore. I didn't break it off, because I was a wuss and because I at least helped her some by getting her counseling and moving out of her abusive family's house. In the mean time, I gradually fell for someone else. We never did anything physical, and we didn't even date until a year and a half after my previous relationship ended. But I cannot in good conscience claim I would never cheat when I fell in love with someone else. Even if nothing physical happened, plenty did emotionally, and I would call it perfectly plausible that I would have. Hell, I consider it cheating, even if I didn't fuck her. I think it's incredibly disingenuous to claim that we know exactly how we would act, and that we would never cheat. To be with the person I cheated on, I gave up my friends and family, gave up hundreds of thousands of dollar, probably compromised my ability to do well in college, and definitely compromised my own sanity. Yet I cheated on that person. Love is a strange thing. If it was easy to understand, we'd never get hurt by it.

05-28-2011, 05:19 AM	#9
BettyBoop Angel of Dare Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: England. Posts: 8,249 Blog Entries: 105	I never would, unless it's a really odd situation like the ones that have been mentioned above I don't understand why people cheat. I'd rather someone left me than cheated on me. __________________ ★Boop Boop de Boop.★ female, engurrland. Ask me anything, click. My tumblr. 18+ ▼

06-02-2011, 09:00 AM	#11
honeyness getDare Sweetheart Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: UK Posts: 377	I couldn't cheat on somebody, no matter the amount of time I had dated them for, to get into a relationship is making a promise and a commitment to that one person. I am not one to break my promises, so I couldn't do it. I'm also likely to feel immense guilt that would prevent me even thinking about cheating before. I find it interesting how people class as cheating, for example a ex-long term boyfriend I found out after the relationship was over that he had been having sexual conversations and playing stripping games with someone online. For me, because of the other person involved it felt as if he had cheated, yet to a lot of people that wouldn't seem bad. __________________ 19/Female/UK I will not cam/dare/sub/dom you so don't ask! But if you want a friendly chat or help on anything at all then drop me a PM s/M advice Threads of note Ask me Anything Honey is naturally occuring like other awesome shit like Tornados and Girls with spongy hymens