Searching for Littles / Caregivers

[fromo]

Originally Posted by minimarshmellow

It is great seeing so many littles (and a few caregivers too!)!!

So I have a question for the group.

How did you discover your little/caregiver side?

Personally, I found my care giver's side because of my girlfriend, when she wanted to try and see if she was a little, it just came out, as did her lil really. So I owe it to her in a nut shell :3.

[SlutPuppy]

I have a little side. I don't really explore DD/lg anymore, therefore I keep my little locked up. But as I've mentioned a few times here and there, she does get out at times.

I got into it via an ex-dom who was the first person I ever explored it with. It just sorta happened naturally.

[Red]

I have always wondered how relationships work when you're in the DD/lg type of BDSM. I assume that the two of you have times in the relationship when you're both "adults", like with having sex, or is this not the case? Do you stay in the roles while having sex (like calling him Daddy and him saying little girl) or do you have to go more adult like? I've sort of always assumed the DD/lg side to be more of a 24/7 type of BDSM because I imagined it would be hard for each role to switch on and off, especially for the DD to picture his little as anything other than a little.

These are probably stupid questions and I apologize if I've caused some facepalming to occur after reading.

[minimarshmellow]

Originally Posted by redhead18

I have always wondered how relationships work when you're in the DD/lg type of BDSM. I assume that the two of you have times in the relationship when you're both "adults", like with having sex, or is this not the case? Do you stay in the roles while having sex (like calling him Daddy and him saying little girl) or do you have to go more adult like? I've sort of always assumed the DD/lg side to be more of a 24/7 type of BDSM because I imagined it would be hard for each role to switch on and off, especially for the DD to picture his little as anything other than a little.

These are probably stupid questions and I apologize if I've caused some facepalming to occur after reading.

Those are actually really common questions. And honestly there is no cookie cutter answer. Every relationship is different.

For me I have 3 headspaces. Little, which is my clueless baby side. Middle, which is my most sexual/kinky side. Lastly, big, my adult, college going, this has to be done right now side. For each headspace sex could potentially happen or I could jump around during. I think that is the biggest taboo about it. As long as no real children are involved! I find that the roles do stay the same usually. Some littles are non sexual, too.

Personally I can move through headspaces quite a bit. I can walk through a store talking to someone, see a color book, jump into little space, then go back to big really quick.

Caregivers have magic powers. They can usually sense what headspace their little is in at the time. (from what I hear), they can see the little one as that headspace. Usually the little will be submissive, so even in big space they are under their Dom's wing.

There are some relationships where the caregiver and little switch. CG/l is just like a D/s relationship. There are many ways things could be flipped and switched, every relationship is personal.

[Paris Rayne]

I like being a little too ^_^

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Are there usually triggers that send you into a certain headspace or can you just choose one willy-nilly?

[minimarshmellow]

Originally Posted by redhead18

Are there usually triggers that send you into a certain headspace or can you just choose one willy-nilly?

Usually there are triggers. For little things like color books, Disney movies, being called princess or little one. Middle just kinda does what she wants. She is very mischievous, and is such a tease. Big is me on an average day. Usually things like studying trigger big.

On the other hand, sometimes it is just willy-nilly. Just like regular emotions can come and go, headspaces can as well.

[Red]

Thank you, this has been really helpful

[Rysenfall]

I would like to say im a little as well an have done a bit of caregiving myself however, i prefer to be little but i can switch if need be.

[minimarshmellow]

Originally Posted by redhead18

Thank you, this has been really helpful

If you have anymore questions, feel free to ask.

[MysticalMadness]

In reply to Mini's question, she actually helped me to discover my little side.

When I first joned gD two years ago, I thought I was merely submissive. But there were times where I would throw a temper tantrum. Fromo and I didnt know why I was doing that. (I was regressing, but didnt realize that thats what it was). I then thought I was a brat. Upon doing a bit more research, I realized that I wasnt acting like a brat in the sense that other brats do. So I started doing more research. I came upon a sarcastic piece of writing that had a "little girl" description in it, which led me to searching for more information on babygirls, which led me to DD/lg research. I thought that maybe I was little by that point, but I wasnt sure. So Mini asked me a series of questions one night while we were chatting, and helped me come to the conclusion that I was little. :3 Its the most comfortable place Ive been since I joined gD.

At first, I was afraid that fromo would think I was odd or weird for being this way. But he accepted me as I am, and embraced his caregiver side.

[minimarshmellow]

Do any of the littles here use a morning/night check list?

I been thinking about making one, but I don't know what to put on it.

What ideas do the littles and caregivers have that would make a good check list for the morning and one for night time?

[MasterPain]

Im a big. Generaly a big 'brother' or caretaker. I also do enjoy a real diffrence in age between myself and the women i look into for a relationship. Im 33 and i dont mind looking for someone 18 - 25

[minimarshmellow]

Originally Posted by MasterPain

Im a big. Generaly a big 'brother' or caretaker. I also do enjoy a real diffrence in age between myself and the women i look into for a relationship. Im 33 and i dont mind looking for someone 18 - 25

That brings up a great point!

I like age gaps. My first real life Daddy was 33 and I was 20 at the time.

How does everyone else feel about age gaps?

[MysticalMadness]

I've never had any type of age gap relationship. So I can't say that I prefer one over the other. Fromo is only about 4 months younger than I am. (-_- go figure)

I think I'd be ok with maybe a 5-6 year age gap, but no more. I'm 22. I don't really want to feel like I'm being creeped on. LOL.