Girls need to stop being so shy about giving pics - Page 3

kendra_gurl · 12-01-2010, 04:30 PM

Exatly Mickii..

there are plenty of cam sites for people to see eachother when they first meet without all the demands for pics which this thread was all about to start with. Cam up chat with others on cam, get to know them and then decide if your a match.

I may be way out there on this as I'm not interested in a Master or a slave but I would thing a good master would have to first seduce somone into becomming his slave. Not demand before he even knows them

pranadevil · 12-01-2010, 04:57 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by kendra_gurl

I"m not attacking or looking down on anyone. Just asking a simple question.

No you weren't, you were insulting and telling them to "get a life", that's not asking a question, that's being rude, and acting like you are above others.

kendra_gurl · 12-01-2010, 05:20 PM

seems you are the one with an attitude tonight This is just for you paranadevil

G E T A L I F E D U D E or G E T L A I D JUST CHILL WITH ALL THE ATTITUDE

Aries_Laetus · 12-01-2010, 08:19 PM

Well, I was going to comment on how Dark Soul seems like a dom that I would not want to wish upon anybody, butttttttttttt since he has been banned,yet again might I add, it has saved you all one of my rants. A rant that would have been greater then all of my other rants Muahahahaahaha! *Deep voice*

Basically, as I said before, and as Dark whats-his-face has said over and over again, is that WE ARE NOT "NAMELESS" GIRLS. I don't get why he keeps saying that. I do understand that maybe most guys are a bit more shameless than girls, but can you honestly tell me that if there was a very private picture of you, that you sent to a person you thought you trusted, up on the internet for the all the world to see, that you wouldnt care? If you answer no to that, I am a little frightened. I believe that it is in our DNA to be cautious, expecially with the world that we are in. And I dont believe we should be punnished for that. What I keep hearing from you is "No picture, no master" and "If you are too scared to show yourself to your dom, then you are not worth it" or "You are lying" . I don't like this at all. Most of us here on this site are serious in what we like and in attaing it. We may incounter fakers or a few lies along the way, as I believe we all have, but that comes with the territory. You sound like a short tempered, untrusting, bad-mannered, offensive person to me from what I have read. And also, I may just be picky right now, but I do believe in some amount of politeness in replying to a post, and some amount of civility. I dont think we sould go around yelling at people and telling them to get a life or get laid. It makes you seem like you are telling the wrong person to "just chill".

Thoes are my thoughts, dont mean to offend, its just what I think. And only that. No laws, no must follow rules. My opinions.

TensionRoom101 · 12-02-2010, 07:19 AM

Don't do it girls. Just. Don't.

You may think it's cute now, harmless fun, but there are lots and lots of girls who have seriously come to regret it.

If you're under 18, just remind the guy he's breaking the law if he insists. Or, send him an anonymous one then blackmail the fuck out of the slimeball*

You pseudoDoms out there, get a life eh? Breathing heavily as you jerk your virgin cock, feeling all mighty because you've convinced some young 'un your the UberLordSir does not a dom make you. Just a sad wannabe.

*no, I don't really advocate blackmail, nor sending nude pictures to someone you don't know nor have ever met.

Aivey · 12-02-2010, 08:50 AM

Here's my two cents on pictures:
Usually, the dom would ask for pics for two reason:
Case 1. To get proof that the sub is "real"
I don't see why this would be complicated at all... Request a customized photo (eg: hold a red piece of paper with the words "domnomnomlom" on it while wearing a green shirt etc.) That would sufficiently prove that the sub is "real"
Case 2. To get proof that the sub has done the tasks
Whether it may be for sexual gratification or whatever, subs ALWAYS have the right to say no. If they are "forced to do it" then it's rape, and so if a sub is uncomfortable with pictures, they always reserve the right to say no. I mean, all this is done for fun right? so if one sub isn't enjoying it then the dom is doing a pretty crappy job (unless the sub likes to be forced to do things). A dom/sub relationship is based off of trust, if it's to "prove" they have done something, then there are major trust issues that should be discussed.

So, one way or another, if the sub is uncomfortable with giving pics (especially if they involve anything sexual), then there should be no reason why s/he should be forced to do it, and that's that.

rhode64 · 12-02-2010, 09:03 AM

[QUOTE=Aivey;362092]Here's my two cents on pictures:
Usually, the dom would ask for pics for two reason:
Case 1. To get proof that the sub is "real"
I don't see why this would be complicated at all... Request a customized photo (eg: hold a red piece of paper with the words "domnomnomlom" on it while wearing a green shirt etc.) That would sufficiently prove that the sub is "real"
Case 2. To get proof that the sub has done the tasks
Whether it may be for sexual gratification or whatever, subs ALWAYS have the right to say no. If they are "forced to do it" then it's rape, and so if a sub is uncomfortable with pictures, they always reserve the right to say no. I mean, all this is done for fun right? so if one sub isn't enjoying it then the dom is doing a pretty crappy job (unless the sub likes to be forced to do things). A dom/sub relationship is based off of trust, if it's to "prove" they have done something, then there are major trust issues that should be discussed.

So, one way or another, if the sub is uncomfortable with giving pics (especially if they involve anything sexual), then there should be no reason why s/he should be forced to do it, and that's that.
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aivey makes a good point I whole heartedly agree

SlutPuppy · 12-04-2010, 07:29 AM

The name of this thread, and what it's about made me want to facepalm. Hard. over and over again.

Girls don't like giving pics of themselves because 1: They don't know what you'll do with them. 2: If they find it somewhere they'll be very traumatized. 3: As said before, they're not 'nameless girls'. THey have a name. They have a face. They have feelings and emotions. If they find a pic of them that was private, and meant for one person, it can cause bad things to happen. And i"m thinking worse case scenarios. Suicide. I mean, look at all the suicides that have happened over the years because of what people have posted on the internet. It's just not right. 4: I've been a victim of not knowing what will happen to pics you give. You don't know if that person will show them to someone.

And if you think that girls are stupid for giving pics in the first place, think about this. A girl trusts someone (we'll say a bf), enough to show them something private. They don't think about it right then, that that person now has that picture. And they can do whatever they want with it. Sure, maybe they'll keep it to themselves for a while. But what if they break up? He'll be pissed off and post if online. Maybe even give details about the girl.

This would cause SERIOUS damage. Because you might trust someone when you give them the pic, but later... It becomes nerve wracking to think about it every single day, that someone has a naked pic of you.

Just in my view.

and if it's concerning to make sure they are female, do what was posted before: Have them make a custom picture. With a colored shirt, holding something that says something long and intricate. With a ribbon or something.

rhode64 · 12-04-2010, 07:35 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SlutPuppy

The name of this thread, and what it's about made me want to facepalm. Hard. over and over again.

Girls don't like giving pics of themselves because 1: They don't know what you'll do with them. 2: If they find it somewhere they'll be very traumatized. 3: As said before, they're not 'nameless girls'. THey have a name. They have a face. They have feelings and emotions. If they find a pic of them that was private, and meant for one person, it can cause bad things to happen. And i"m thinking worse case scenarios. Suicide. I mean, look at all the suicides that have happened over the years because of what people have posted on the internet. It's just not right. 4: I've been a victim of not knowing what will happen to pics you give. You don't know if that person will show them to someone.

And if you think that girls are stupid for giving pics in the first place, think about this. A girl trusts someone (we'll say a bf), enough to show them something private. They don't think about it right then, that that person now has that picture. And they can do whatever they want with it. Sure, maybe they'll keep it to themselves for a while. But what if they break up? He'll be pissed off and post if online. Maybe even give details about the girl.

This would cause SERIOUS damage. Because you might trust someone when you give them the pic, but later... It becomes nerve wracking to think about it every single day, that someone has a naked pic of you.

Just in my view.

and if it's concerning to make sure they are female, do what was posted before: Have them make a custom picture. With a colored shirt, holding something that says something long and intricate. With a ribbon or something.

I am with slutpuppy on this.What she says is right and sensible so hey girls dont be pressured or made to feel guilty if you dont send pics its your life ,your choice .

umbrellas · 12-04-2010, 12:48 PM

so i think this thread has ran its course.

Dawotch · 12-06-2010, 02:53 PM

The way I see it, women should be more careful about sending their pictures to random unknowns across the internet. An idea I just had is a release form, which is a legal document. I'm sure both parties wouldn't have a problem filling it out saying that what ever photo(head shot or whatever) is intended for private, single party use...meaning that only the subject and the recipient will ever view the pictures, and in the even of a falling out pictures are to be deleted. Yes that last bit is extreme, but I'm sure you don't want no one on your computer and just stumble across a picture of someone else and email it to themselves. I'll admit that I'll ask for photo proof if needed, but I'm just as happy with a detailed account of what went down.

df6wen · 12-30-2010, 03:27 PM

The few times I've really wanted a picture early on is when too many things are perfect or the person starts to contradict them self. If the person is genuine they often have a stock photo of them self on a social network site. This works for me. I do understand why people, not just girls, are reluctant to put their bodies online for others to see.

Blastbuster · 01-06-2011, 11:19 AM

Honestly, I'm not going to ask for compromising pics off the bat. But if we've been talking, we've been hitting it off, and they refuse to give a clothed, below the face picture of them making some distinct gesture like a peace sign or something, that's a red flag. I'll certainly do the same in return.

YouCouldBeMine · 01-17-2011, 11:01 AM

This might not be the best place to ask...but what about creating some sort of database (kind of like this: http://getdare.com/hosted/db/) in which the webmaster/admin/mod/whatever checks the info posted? Thus making that user a "verified" person (kind of eBay or PayPal way). Just my two cents...

theone · 03-10-2011, 12:36 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by YouCouldBeMine

This might not be the best place to ask...but what about creating some sort of database (kind of like this: http://getdare.com/hosted/db/) in which the webmaster/admin/mod/whatever checks the info posted? Thus making that user a "verified" person (kind of eBay or PayPal way). Just my two cents...

If I remember rightly, this suggestion has been made before. The problem is there is no real way to "verify" people on a site like this with any degree of certainty.

12-01-2010, 04:30 PM	#31
kendra_gurl Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 94	Exatly Mickii.. there are plenty of cam sites for people to see eachother when they first meet without all the demands for pics which this thread was all about to start with. Cam up chat with others on cam, get to know them and then decide if your a match. I may be way out there on this as I'm not interested in a Master or a slave but I would thing a good master would have to first seduce somone into becomming his slave. Not demand before he even knows them Last edited by kendra_gurl; 12-01-2010 at 04:35 PM.

12-01-2010, 08:19 PM	#34
Aries_Laetus Account Banned Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Here, there, a bit of everywhere. Or somewhere else. Posts: 65 Blog Entries: 2	Well, I was going to comment on how Dark Soul seems like a dom that I would not want to wish upon anybody, butttttttttttt since he has been banned,yet again might I add, it has saved you all one of my rants. A rant that would have been greater then all of my other rants Muahahahaahaha! Deep voice Basically, as I said before, and as Dark whats-his-face has said over and over again, is that WE ARE NOT "NAMELESS" GIRLS. I don't get why he keeps saying that. I do understand that maybe most guys are a bit more shameless than girls, but can you honestly tell me that if there was a very private picture of you, that you sent to a person you thought you trusted, up on the internet for the all the world to see, that you wouldnt care? If you answer no to that, I am a little frightened. I believe that it is in our DNA to be cautious, expecially with the world that we are in. And I dont believe we should be punnished for that. What I keep hearing from you is "No picture, no master" and "If you are too scared to show yourself to your dom, then you are not worth it" or "You are lying" . I don't like this at all. Most of us here on this site are serious in what we like and in attaing it. We may incounter fakers or a few lies along the way, as I believe we all have, but that comes with the territory. You sound like a short tempered, untrusting, bad-mannered, offensive person to me from what I have read. And also, I may just be picky right now, but I do believe in some amount of politeness in replying to a post, and some amount of civility. I dont think we sould go around yelling at people and telling them to get a life or get laid. It makes you seem like you are telling the wrong person to "just chill". Thoes are my thoughts, dont mean to offend, its just what I think. And only that. No laws, no must follow rules. My opinions. __________________ [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC] Hello there! I would love to talk to you, but not if it is to ask me to be your slave. Adopt a pokemon if you dont have one! You must! Dont fight it! "Shoot for the moon, but if you fall short, you'll land on a star." The words I live by

12-02-2010, 07:19 AM	#35
TensionRoom101 Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 223	Don't do it girls. Just. Don't. You may think it's cute now, harmless fun, but there are lots and lots of girls who have seriously come to regret it. If you're under 18, just remind the guy he's breaking the law if he insists. Or, send him an anonymous one then blackmail the fuck out of the slimeball* You pseudoDoms out there, get a life eh? Breathing heavily as you jerk your virgin cock, feeling all mighty because you've convinced some young 'un your the UberLordSir does not a dom make you. Just a sad wannabe. no, I don't really advocate blackmail, nor sending nude pictures to someone you don't know nor have ever met. __________________ When even the wisest of young people can't see the consequences of their actions, it's time I called it a day.*

12-02-2010, 08:50 AM	#36
Aivey getDare Sweetheart Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Lost in the realms of the internet... Posts: 389 Blog Entries: 18	Here's my two cents on pictures: Usually, the dom would ask for pics for two reason: Case 1. To get proof that the sub is "real" I don't see why this would be complicated at all... Request a customized photo (eg: hold a red piece of paper with the words "domnomnomlom" on it while wearing a green shirt etc.) That would sufficiently prove that the sub is "real" Case 2. To get proof that the sub has done the tasks Whether it may be for sexual gratification or whatever, subs ALWAYS have the right to say no. If they are "forced to do it" then it's rape, and so if a sub is uncomfortable with pictures, they always reserve the right to say no. I mean, all this is done for fun right? so if one sub isn't enjoying it then the dom is doing a pretty crappy job (unless the sub likes to be forced to do things). A dom/sub relationship is based off of trust, if it's to "prove" they have done something, then there are major trust issues that should be discussed. So, one way or another, if the sub is uncomfortable with giving pics (especially if they involve anything sexual), then there should be no reason why s/he should be forced to do it, and that's that. __________________ I'm an 18 year old, female submissive who has everything she needs, so there's really no need to ask me to be your sub. However, do feel free to check out my Fetlife or even ask me anything! My Fetlife Ask Me Anything

12-02-2010, 09:03 AM	#37
rhode64 getDare Patriot Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: England south coast Posts: 3,043 Blog Entries: 3	exactly [QUOTE=Aivey;362092]Here's my two cents on pictures: Usually, the dom would ask for pics for two reason: Case 1. To get proof that the sub is "real" I don't see why this would be complicated at all... Request a customized photo (eg: hold a red piece of paper with the words "domnomnomlom" on it while wearing a green shirt etc.) That would sufficiently prove that the sub is "real" Case 2. To get proof that the sub has done the tasks Whether it may be for sexual gratification or whatever, subs ALWAYS have the right to say no. If they are "forced to do it" then it's rape, and so if a sub is uncomfortable with pictures, they always reserve the right to say no. I mean, all this is done for fun right? so if one sub isn't enjoying it then the dom is doing a pretty crappy job (unless the sub likes to be forced to do things). A dom/sub relationship is based off of trust, if it's to "prove" they have done something, then there are major trust issues that should be discussed. So, one way or another, if the sub is uncomfortable with giving pics (especially if they involve anything sexual), then there should be no reason why s/he should be forced to do it, and that's that. [/QUOTE aivey makes a good point I whole heartedly agree

12-01-2010, 05:20 PM	#33
kendra_gurl Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 94	seems you are the one with an attitude tonight This is just for you paranadevil G E T A L I F E D U D E or G E T L A I D JUST CHILL WITH ALL THE ATTITUDE

12-04-2010, 07:29 AM	#38
SlutPuppy getDare Succubus Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Plut hole Posts: 1,811 Blog Entries: 97	The name of this thread, and what it's about made me want to facepalm. Hard. over and over again. Girls don't like giving pics of themselves because 1: They don't know what you'll do with them. 2: If they find it somewhere they'll be very traumatized. 3: As said before, they're not 'nameless girls'. THey have a name. They have a face. They have feelings and emotions. If they find a pic of them that was private, and meant for one person, it can cause bad things to happen. And i"m thinking worse case scenarios. Suicide. I mean, look at all the suicides that have happened over the years because of what people have posted on the internet. It's just not right. 4: I've been a victim of not knowing what will happen to pics you give. You don't know if that person will show them to someone. And if you think that girls are stupid for giving pics in the first place, think about this. A girl trusts someone (we'll say a bf), enough to show them something private. They don't think about it right then, that that person now has that picture. And they can do whatever they want with it. Sure, maybe they'll keep it to themselves for a while. But what if they break up? He'll be pissed off and post if online. Maybe even give details about the girl. This would cause SERIOUS damage. Because you might trust someone when you give them the pic, but later... It becomes nerve wracking to think about it every single day, that someone has a naked pic of you. Just in my view. and if it's concerning to make sure they are female, do what was posted before: Have them make a custom picture. With a colored shirt, holding something that says something long and intricate. With a ribbon or something. __________________ I'll be your bad girl... booty booty booty booty rockin' everywhere Sex Map HERE Likes/Dislikes/Limits

12-04-2010, 12:48 PM	#40
umbrellas Member Join Date: Oct 2010 Posts: 46	so i think this thread has ran its course.

12-06-2010, 02:53 PM	#41
Dawotch Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Chicago Posts: 136 Blog Entries: 7	The way I see it, women should be more careful about sending their pictures to random unknowns across the internet. An idea I just had is a release form, which is a legal document. I'm sure both parties wouldn't have a problem filling it out saying that what ever photo(head shot or whatever) is intended for private, single party use...meaning that only the subject and the recipient will ever view the pictures, and in the even of a falling out pictures are to be deleted. Yes that last bit is extreme, but I'm sure you don't want no one on your computer and just stumble across a picture of someone else and email it to themselves. I'll admit that I'll ask for photo proof if needed, but I'm just as happy with a detailed account of what went down. __________________ "...I have no precious time at all to spend, Nor serviced to do till you require. Nor dare I chide the world-without-end hour Whilst I, my sovereign, watch the clock for you Nor think the bitterness of absence sour" From Shakespeare's Sonnet 57 I have thoughts about deep things too Ask me stuff, I'll answer I have a blog here too, it gets more attention than my real blog.

12-30-2010, 03:27 PM	#42
df6wen getDare Sweetheart Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Texas Posts: 327	The few times I've really wanted a picture early on is when too many things are perfect or the person starts to contradict them self. If the person is genuine they often have a stock photo of them self on a social network site. This works for me. I do understand why people, not just girls, are reluctant to put their bodies online for others to see.

01-06-2011, 11:19 AM	#43
Blastbuster Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 27	Honestly, I'm not going to ask for compromising pics off the bat. But if we've been talking, we've been hitting it off, and they refuse to give a clothed, below the face picture of them making some distinct gesture like a peace sign or something, that's a red flag. I'll certainly do the same in return.

01-17-2011, 11:01 AM	#44
YouCouldBeMine Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: kitty Posts: 49	This might not be the best place to ask...but what about creating some sort of database (kind of like this: http://getdare.com/hosted/db/) in which the webmaster/admin/mod/whatever checks the info posted? Thus making that user a "verified" person (kind of eBay or PayPal way). Just my two cents... __________________ Masters are relentless, torture is for slaves. Money, greed and power drives you to obey. Temperature is rising, shakes me to the core. Blood and domination, victims of the law. When bloody angels spread their lies Thank you k. I'm sorry L. Goodbye.