What’s your D/s style?

Dexi · 04-10-2019, 02:14 AM

I’ve always been sort of a social chameleon. I think some of that carried over to my submissive nature. There’s many aspects of submissiveness I like to portray, and it’s always helpful to know what a Dominant enjoys seeing and being too. So I made to short lists of traits that people can identify with.

Which of these do you express most often?
Which of these are you most attracted to in a partner?
How are these traits used in your BDSM experience or fantasies?

timid
stern
evil
demanding
affectionate
bratty
shy
defeated
seductive
weak
empowered
superior
threatening
reluctant
agreeable
angry
strong
shameful
harsh
flirtatious
inferior
arrogant
rewarding
supportive
cheery
negotiant
proud
understanding

Come up with some of your own if you have something more to your liking. It’s tough when I can only think of what I’m into!! (Some people associate some of these words with negative relationships outside of BDSM, but for this exercise, these only describe traits expressed in the deviant space. [Of course, you can be a very cruel Dom and a very caring person!])

My Results:
Which of these do you express most often?
- reluctant, shameful, defeated
Which of these are you most attracted to in a partner?
- arrogant, threatening, proud
How are these traits used in your BDSM experience or fantasies?
- Considering one of my favorite fetishes is blackmail, I really enjoy the scenario where the Dom has full control over a reluctant sub, who isn’t willing to admit their nature. And slowly the sub gets molded into a toy for the Dom’s pleasure and amusement.

So there it is! Hopefully this helps us learn something about each other.

anoo666 · 04-10-2019, 02:37 AM

Which of these do you express most often?
supportive, proud, teasing, calm

Which of these are you most attracted to in a partner?
cheery, shy, playful

How are these traits used in your BDSM experience or fantasies?
Not really connected with a fantasy at all, maybe because i don't have specific kinks i follow.
As dominant my "goal" is to be myself, to find someone that wants to give me control and that i want to control, that is fun to be around and that grows by submitting, that gets a happy, strong person because we are completing each others needs, that feels as themselves, because they submit.

Jaro · 04-10-2019, 09:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Dexi

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Very unique truth questions. Thank you!

Which of these do you express most often?
timid, reluctant, agreeable, shameful, proud, supportive, understanding
Which of these are you most attracted to in a partner?
stern, evil, seductive, empowered, superior, strong, supportive, cheery, proud, understanding
How are these traits used in your BDSM experience or fantasies?
I like it when my Misses are stern with me and really show that they are superior. I like to feel inferior but I also find it important that we can listen to each other and take into account our feelings about something at all times. I feel proud for completing a difficult task. I think I am pretty strong in that I can do extreme stuff.

nina@ · 04-10-2019, 11:08 PM

nice thread!

since I have explored my submissive side more deeply in the past and am more aware of it and also being quite new in exploring domination and still developing my domme style, I feel I will be able to answer this better from my subby perspective for now.

Which of these do you express most often?
- affectionate [unconditionally], defeated, empowered, agreeable, flirtatious, supportive, cheery, negotiant [the only bratty trait I have], understanding
will add some more here that are not in your list - protective, considerate, loyal, appreciative, diligent

Which of these are you most attracted to in a partner?
- stern, demanding, affectionate, seductive [however what pulls me are qualities much deeper than physical attraction], strong, harsh, supportive, cheery, understanding
will add some more here that are not in your list - protective, possessive, dependable, condescending

04-10-2019, 02:14 AM	#1
Dexi Member Join Date: Aug 2014 Location: At your feet. Posts: 42 Blog Entries: 2	What’s your D/s style? I’ve always been sort of a social chameleon. I think some of that carried over to my submissive nature. There’s many aspects of submissiveness I like to portray, and it’s always helpful to know what a Dominant enjoys seeing and being too. So I made to short lists of traits that people can identify with. Which of these do you express most often? Which of these are you most attracted to in a partner? How are these traits used in your BDSM experience or fantasies? timid stern evil demanding affectionate bratty shy defeated seductive weak empowered superior threatening reluctant agreeable angry strong shameful harsh flirtatious inferior arrogant rewarding supportive cheery negotiant proud understanding Come up with some of your own if you have something more to your liking. It’s tough when I can only think of what I’m into!! (Some people associate some of these words with negative relationships outside of BDSM, but for this exercise, these only describe traits expressed in the deviant space. [Of course, you can be a very cruel Dom and a very caring person!]) My Results: Which of these do you express most often? - reluctant, shameful, defeated Which of these are you most attracted to in a partner? - arrogant, threatening, proud How are these traits used in your BDSM experience or fantasies? - Considering one of my favorite fetishes is blackmail, I really enjoy the scenario where the Dom has full control over a reluctant sub, who isn’t willing to admit their nature. And slowly the sub gets molded into a toy for the Dom’s pleasure and amusement. So there it is! Hopefully this helps us learn something about each other. __________________ 22/bi/sissy PM Dares \|\| Likes/Limits ♫ And ain't I the best you had? And I'll let you throw it down, hit the back! Tell me "I need respect." And you know that I'm around, I'm your pet! ♫

04-10-2019, 02:37 AM	#2
anoo666 Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2017 Location: Changes regularly Posts: 146 Blog Entries: 1	Which of these do you express most often? supportive, proud, teasing, calm Which of these are you most attracted to in a partner? cheery, shy, playful How are these traits used in your BDSM experience or fantasies? Not really connected with a fantasy at all, maybe because i don't have specific kinks i follow. As dominant my "goal" is to be myself, to find someone that wants to give me control and that i want to control, that is fun to be around and that grows by submitting, that gets a happy, strong person because we are completing each others needs, that feels as themselves, because they submit. __________________ PM DARES

04-10-2019, 11:08 PM	#4
nina@ getDare Succubus Join Date: Jul 2016 Posts: 1,665 Blog Entries: 25	nice thread! since I have explored my submissive side more deeply in the past and am more aware of it and also being quite new in exploring domination and still developing my domme style, I feel I will be able to answer this better from my subby perspective for now. Which of these do you express most often? - affectionate [unconditionally], defeated, empowered, agreeable, flirtatious, supportive, cheery, negotiant [the only bratty trait I have], understanding will add some more here that are not in your list - protective, considerate, loyal, appreciative, diligent Which of these are you most attracted to in a partner? - stern, demanding, affectionate, seductive [however what pulls me are qualities much deeper than physical attraction], strong, harsh, supportive, cheery, understanding will add some more here that are not in your list - protective, possessive, dependable, condescending Last edited by nina@; 04-11-2019 at 12:27 AM.