I would like my girl friend to take on more of a femdom role, how should I ask?

beyourbitch · 02-27-2019, 09:54 PM

Hi Everyone,

I have been part of this community for some time now and have always loved being subjected to domination, particularly from females. My girlfriend and I are have been in committed relationships and I want to spice things up in our sex life a little more by trying to introduce femdom into the bed room. The only thing is I am not sure how to ask her as my fantasies are quite kinky. Do any of you have suggestions on how I should approach the topic? My interests are anywhere from pegging, bondage, CBT, pee play, pet play and chastity. of course I would not want her to jump all the way in a feel uncomfortable, but I would like to ease her in.

Any suggestions that you may have I would love to share back how the experience went. As well, I am happy to accept any dares that you guys may have and try them with my girl friend.

I look forward to hearing from all of you!

Sluttycumdump1 · 02-27-2019, 10:04 PM

Have you guys talked about your kinks and her kinks and discussed spicing up your sex life at all? Even by starting with simple things like scandalous lingerie and handcuffs? That would at least open the door to talk about more startling kinks if she is less inclined to the kink lifestyle

Gitano · 02-28-2019, 04:57 AM

Just an idea.

Perhaps you could start with behaving little by little submissive towards her without telling her. Letting her get used to certain things. After a while she starts to expect it and most likely all the attention.

Step by step you introduce her to new things and you eventualy you get where you want to be.

I think small steps would work best. Dropping the bomb could be a bit to much except when you already know she has a dominant streak .

MastersVoice · 02-28-2019, 05:13 AM

Hey beyourbitch,

I've always found trying to get someone vanilla into kink incredibly difficult.

I think you have to chose between two approaches.

First one, is as Sluttycumdump1 said. Straight up approach the subject and see what she says. Say something along the lines of you really enjoy your sex life with her and would like to explore different things. Maybe ask if there is anything she fantasizes about? Is she a naturally dominant person, does she seem like to take a leading role in the bedroom? Is there an indication she is the right person personality to be a Domme?

Second one is more subtle. During sexual activity ask for simple requests. Ask her to scratch you, bite you and demonstrate your pleasure, see how she reacts? Does it turn her on? Does she back off? Build it from there and see what happens. Your kinks listed are pretty extreme for a vanilla person to get their head around so I wouldn't request full on CBT or pee play if you're going for the subtle approach.

It is difficult, and I do feel for you. Having tried both approaches in the past, I have found the straight up approach best and can yield some results but ultimately I have never really turned someone not into kink who wasn't previously into it.

Good luck, let us know how you get on.

M.V

02-27-2019, 09:54 PM	#1
beyourbitch Member Join Date: Aug 2012 Posts: 37	I would like my girl friend to take on more of a femdom role, how should I ask? Hi Everyone, I have been part of this community for some time now and have always loved being subjected to domination, particularly from females. My girlfriend and I are have been in committed relationships and I want to spice things up in our sex life a little more by trying to introduce femdom into the bed room. The only thing is I am not sure how to ask her as my fantasies are quite kinky. Do any of you have suggestions on how I should approach the topic? My interests are anywhere from pegging, bondage, CBT, pee play, pet play and chastity. of course I would not want her to jump all the way in a feel uncomfortable, but I would like to ease her in. Any suggestions that you may have I would love to share back how the experience went. As well, I am happy to accept any dares that you guys may have and try them with my girl friend. I look forward to hearing from all of you! __________________ likes: anal, masturbation, cum play, edgeing, shaving(no head hair), crosdressing, feminization, bondage, slavery, hidden public, piss control, pet play, humiliation, mild pain, spanking dislikesoo, pics and videos, messy, high level of pain limits:family, friends, needles, blood, permanent, full public, blackmail

02-27-2019, 10:04 PM	#2
Sluttycumdump1 Junior Member Join Date: Feb 2019 Posts: 23 Blog Entries: 2	Have you guys talked about your kinks and her kinks and discussed spicing up your sex life at all? Even by starting with simple things like scandalous lingerie and handcuffs? That would at least open the door to talk about more startling kinks if she is less inclined to the kink lifestyle __________________ Slutty Sissy/ 2” clitty/21/ 5’7”/ 133 lbs. Likes/Dislikes/Limits/Toys AMA PM DARES Help name me! Sasssyslavepuppy’s adorable sissy princess

02-28-2019, 04:57 AM	#3
Gitano getDare Sweetheart Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: The Netherlands Posts: 359	Just an idea. Perhaps you could start with behaving little by little submissive towards her without telling her. Letting her get used to certain things. After a while she starts to expect it and most likely all the attention. Step by step you introduce her to new things and you eventualy you get where you want to be. I think small steps would work best. Dropping the bomb could be a bit to much except when you already know she has a dominant streak . __________________ Likes (Will do if able) Spanking, Punishments, Humiliation, Writing (lines, reports etc.), Pictures (no face), chastity Dislikes (Will do as punishment for failing a dare) Body writing, Long term, Denial. Limits (Will not do) Public, mouthsoaping, Permanent, CBT, Sleeping dares, anything illegal, pee/poop.

02-28-2019, 05:13 AM	#4
MastersVoice getDare Sweetheart Join Date: May 2015 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 448 Blog Entries: 13	Hey beyourbitch, I've always found trying to get someone vanilla into kink incredibly difficult. I think you have to chose between two approaches. First one, is as Sluttycumdump1 said. Straight up approach the subject and see what she says. Say something along the lines of you really enjoy your sex life with her and would like to explore different things. Maybe ask if there is anything she fantasizes about? Is she a naturally dominant person, does she seem like to take a leading role in the bedroom? Is there an indication she is the right person personality to be a Domme? Second one is more subtle. During sexual activity ask for simple requests. Ask her to scratch you, bite you and demonstrate your pleasure, see how she reacts? Does it turn her on? Does she back off? Build it from there and see what happens. Your kinks listed are pretty extreme for a vanilla person to get their head around so I wouldn't request full on CBT or pee play if you're going for the subtle approach. It is difficult, and I do feel for you. Having tried both approaches in the past, I have found the straight up approach best and can yield some results but ultimately I have never really turned someone not into kink who wasn't previously into it. Good luck, let us know how you get on. M.V __________________ Dominant \| Male \| 39 \| Straight \| United Kingdom My Loves, Likes & Limits