06-16-2017, 10:59 AM | #1 |
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What are the warning signs of a bad online play partner?
In another Truth thread I started (my attempt to explore the legend of the broken cell phone camera) people keep mentioning the need of subs to lie sometimes because of pushy or rude "doms." I thought it might be interesting then to start a thread and ask, what are your warning signs that you've picked a bad play partner? For both doms and subs, what do online play partners do that warn you things are not going to end well?
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06-16-2017, 11:00 AM | #2 |
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Little to no communication after initial contact.
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06-16-2017, 11:05 AM | #3 |
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Ah. The dreaded fade-away. Are we still playing? Did you get hurt? Did you just lose interest? Did a tidal wave drag you out to sea?
I hate that.
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06-16-2017, 11:05 AM | #4 |
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As a sub: not respecting boundaries. Trying to negotiate your limits like you have those limits for fun. Being too pushy and demanding explanations for everything and then don't believe you when you do give one. Being borderline obsessive thinking you're around to play 24/7 and will get mad if you take longer than 5 mins to respond.
These are traits of an abuser, not a Dom. Unfortunately they seem way too common for a lot of "doms" online. |
06-16-2017, 11:11 AM | #5 |
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I agree with allykat.
I'll add: no safeword, and a too fast procedure and the worst "doms" they don't think about health and safety and demand dangerous things.
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06-16-2017, 11:14 AM | #6 | |
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And the 24/7 thing is universal I think. Sometimes I just need to do laundry or pick up the kids.
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06-16-2017, 11:23 AM | #7 | |
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Definitely. It's like people forget that most people have work and/or school and other real life responsibilities that has to take priority over some random person online. I get that it can be a bit annoying if you're having a conversation then one person suddenly stops responding without saying anything, but expecting it to be like that all the time is just silly. |
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06-17-2017, 10:52 AM | #8 |
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Butterfly posted a blog here about this. Very helpful and good advice for newbies!
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06-17-2017, 11:09 AM | #9 |
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Consistently showing no to little respect for your limits and boundaries especially if you haven't asked them to try push you through some of them. Like i had a dom who wanted passwords and usernames to everything and all details about me for blackmail despite me just wanting a dom to have some leverage to encourage me to do certain things. He pushed it to far i had to say no eventually and put my foot down.
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06-17-2017, 02:05 PM | #10 |
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Constantly pushing against limits (I state them to start don't like them go else where) No actual care Asking impossible things (had someone ask me to eat my own bum) Complains if you get sick or have something else to do
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06-17-2017, 02:24 PM | #11 |
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Eat your own bum...
I don't even... Wow.
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06-17-2017, 02:39 PM | #12 | |
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06-17-2017, 03:54 PM | #13 |
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Pushing for something mid-scene that you said early on that you didn't want to/aren't comfortable doing. When your endorphins are high, you're more likely to cross a boundary you'll regret later, which is why negotiations should always be completed before play begins. If it goes well, there's always room to renegotiate next time if trust has built up by then.
I also find someone who's unwilling to consider the particulars of your daily life rarely makes a good play partner. Workplaces, school situations, housing considerations, etc. can make tasks harder for some than for others. A play partner doesn't have to be a mind reader, but if you say, "Hey, I have a concern about how this will affect other parts of my life because I have to deal with ____," they should be able to adapt or replace the task without a fuss, and without accusing you of questioning their authority. |
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06-18-2017, 05:44 AM | #14 |
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The ones who think they own you after 2 messages always bother me
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06-18-2017, 07:53 AM | #15 |
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nope
wife & I almost never do anything online unless we know who it is and they are friends or etc.. Otherwise never. As far as video... as far as GD or similar its anoumous enough
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