How to get someone into S/m

The Evil Porlo · 11-08-2009, 05:49 AM

Hi guys, How do you get someone you know to do s/m or bdsm or d/m etc. Theres this person that I'd love to do s/m with but Im not sure how to get him into it, any ideas guys x

ulfolofsson · 11-08-2009, 06:26 AM

Try to make some kind of bet with them. You can tell them, that the looser will be a winner's slave for an hour or so. If you lose, the winner probably wouldn't do anything sexually or bdsm, but if you win, you will find out soon if they are up to that kind of activities like bdsm or master/slave games.

slavedareboy · 11-08-2009, 06:47 AM

I am gonna try do this with my friend, and here is what I am trying:

Download a TorD software onto your computer, make sure it is one where you can add/remove/change dares.
Go into the dares section and add 5 or 6 dares to do with bondage or control.
Play using the software with the friend

Slenderman - Doctor · 11-08-2009, 06:50 AM

Do you know if he's into it or not? If you don't know for sure, then maybe you could leave hints. Accidentally leave a BDSM website open on your computer when he's around, for example. Or accidentally send him a link to a site which sells BDSM stuff, handcuffs etc (just say you got the link wrong or something). With the hints, be as subtle or not as you want.

The above ideas/posts are also great. I recommend the "dares/bets and the loser is a slave for a bit" idea most.

Leopard · 11-08-2009, 06:52 AM

Or you could, you know, talk to them. Start with really light stuff like blindfolds, very simple tying, maybe pegs?

Edit: The website / leaving toys around idea is a great way to bring it up though.

Manbearpig · 11-08-2009, 10:58 AM

Moved to S/M lounge

Bath_Devil · 11-08-2009, 11:39 AM

Being very into BDSM and control as a Master what I'd do , and I do realise its easy for me to say and much harder for a sub to do.....IS.......

Just mention it, don't beat about the bush, don't do silly things like leaving hints for weeks etc, that will hardly ever work.

Go for a drink or just have a chat, and just be very honest, say look this is what I enjoy, what I'm into. I also like you very much , and I think you could be great at doing it, have you ever thought about it, would you like to try it with me ??

Honesty, you'll be respected fo rit, and it works more often than you think . Face it, if no one knows your interested in BDSM, then how do you know the other person,your friend, doesn't have an interest

BettyBoop · 11-08-2009, 11:55 AM

I've always though it's one of those things you like or you don't like.

The Evil Porlo · 11-08-2009, 01:02 PM

Kind of like marmite, anyway, more ideas need

ps, thanks mbp, not sure where to put it, thanks x

Spun sugar · 11-09-2009, 08:19 PM

I always find that subtle hints don't always work out it is always best to just talk to them about it but if you don't want to do that you can always work it in a little bit, the next time things get a bit hot n heavy throw in a couple of spanks or pull out a pair of handcuffs, that way you can gauge the reaction to see what works and what doesn't if the person seems into one thing you can take it to the next level, and the next, ect.

11-08-2009, 05:49 AM	#1
The Evil Porlo Distinguished Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: My age is below next to the word posts: Posts: 865 Blog Entries: 2	How to get someone into S/m Hi guys, How do you get someone you know to do s/m or bdsm or d/m etc. Theres this person that I'd love to do s/m with but Im not sure how to get him into it, any ideas guys x __________________ Reasons To Go To Work Naked... 1. Your boss is always yelling, "I wanna see your ass in here by 8:00!" 2. "I'd love to chip in, but I left my wallet in my pants." 3. You want to see if it's like the dream. 4. People stop stealing your pens after they've seen where you keep them. 5. Diverts attention from the fact that you also came to work drunk. 6. Gives "bad hair day" a whole new meaning. 7. No one steals your chair. Stories posted by me: The Exam Snapchat - MySlaveBoys KIK - TommyPDaddy www . into dare . com / chats

11-08-2009, 06:26 AM	#2
ulfolofsson Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 175	Try to make some kind of bet with them. You can tell them, that the looser will be a winner's slave for an hour or so. If you lose, the winner probably wouldn't do anything sexually or bdsm, but if you win, you will find out soon if they are up to that kind of activities like bdsm or master/slave games. Last edited by ulfolofsson; 11-09-2009 at 04:38 PM.

11-08-2009, 06:47 AM	#3
slavedareboy Account Banned Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: At your house, disguised as something Posts: 291 Blog Entries: 2	I am gonna try do this with my friend, and here is what I am trying: Download a TorD software onto your computer, make sure it is one where you can add/remove/change dares. Go into the dares section and add 5 or 6 dares to do with bondage or control. Play using the software with the friend __________________ My Likes: Wedgies (not messy), Ingenuity, Masturbating, Light Bondage, Very Light Pain, anything not in my limits. MY Maybe: Friends, School My Limits: Crosssdressing, Hanging, Family, Social Suicide, Illegal, Anal, Blowjobs, Messy, Public, Extreme School, Permanent. DESPITE MY USER NAME: I am not a slave, and am not looking for a master, nor am I wanting to be a master.

11-08-2009, 10:58 AM	#6
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11-08-2009, 11:55 AM	#8
BettyBoop Angel of Dare Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: England. Posts: 8,249 Blog Entries: 105	I've always though it's one of those things you like or you don't like. __________________ ★Boop Boop de Boop.★ female, engurrland. Ask me anything, click. My tumblr. 18+ ▼

11-08-2009, 06:50 AM	#4
Slenderman - Doctor Truth or Dare Zealot Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 6,760	Do you know if he's into it or not? If you don't know for sure, then maybe you could leave hints. Accidentally leave a BDSM website open on your computer when he's around, for example. Or accidentally send him a link to a site which sells BDSM stuff, handcuffs etc (just say you got the link wrong or something). With the hints, be as subtle or not as you want. The above ideas/posts are also great. I recommend the "dares/bets and the loser is a slave for a bit" idea most.

11-08-2009, 06:52 AM	#5
Leopard Truth or Dare Enthusiast Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 2,522	Or you could, you know, talk to them. Start with really light stuff like blindfolds, very simple tying, maybe pegs? Edit: The website / leaving toys around idea is a great way to bring it up though.

11-08-2009, 11:39 AM	#7
Bath_Devil Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Bath UK Posts: 17	Being very into BDSM and control as a Master what I'd do , and I do realise its easy for me to say and much harder for a sub to do.....IS....... Just mention it, don't beat about the bush, don't do silly things like leaving hints for weeks etc, that will hardly ever work. Go for a drink or just have a chat, and just be very honest, say look this is what I enjoy, what I'm into. I also like you very much , and I think you could be great at doing it, have you ever thought about it, would you like to try it with me ?? Honesty, you'll be respected fo rit, and it works more often than you think . Face it, if no one knows your interested in BDSM, then how do you know the other person,your friend, doesn't have an interest

11-08-2009, 01:02 PM	#9
The Evil Porlo Distinguished Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: My age is below next to the word posts: Posts: 865 Blog Entries: 2	Kind of like marmite, anyway, more ideas need ps, thanks mbp, not sure where to put it, thanks x __________________ Reasons To Go To Work Naked... 1. Your boss is always yelling, "I wanna see your ass in here by 8:00!" 2. "I'd love to chip in, but I left my wallet in my pants." 3. You want to see if it's like the dream. 4. People stop stealing your pens after they've seen where you keep them. 5. Diverts attention from the fact that you also came to work drunk. 6. Gives "bad hair day" a whole new meaning. 7. No one steals your chair. Stories posted by me: The Exam Snapchat - MySlaveBoys KIK - TommyPDaddy www . into dare . com / chats

11-09-2009, 08:19 PM	#10
Spun sugar Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 22	I always find that subtle hints don't always work out it is always best to just talk to them about it but if you don't want to do that you can always work it in a little bit, the next time things get a bit hot n heavy throw in a couple of spanks or pull out a pair of handcuffs, that way you can gauge the reaction to see what works and what doesn't if the person seems into one thing you can take it to the next level, and the next, ect. __________________ happily His slave Follow my slave blog at http://www.thoughts.com/spunSugar13/blog