So you want a Slave or Master? Well done...

[Hampers]

As many of you know, I don't come to these parts of the forum often. This is because I know fuck-all about slave/master relationships. But here is a guide on how to get along while you're looking for one.

So you want a Slave or Master? Well done...

Congratulations on deciding you don't want a plain old life. You have joined the more fun side of the sandpit. Take this moment now to stand up and give yourself a small round of applause. No really, do. Go on.

Done?

Now sit down. I've got something to tell you.

There are a lot of people out there who have also joined this world, and chances are you're feeling like your voice is drowning in a sea of other requests. I'm not here to tell you how to make your advertising unique and get you that perfect partner. But I will give you some tips which might help you get along in the chat while you are looking:

Tip #1: Shut up and talk
You need to know when to advertise yourself. Let's take a sample scene:

[User has entered the Lounge]
[User]: hey i need a mistress 18/m with cam
[Everyone Else]: Good luck with that. We're busy.

Although I doubt people would be that polite. Barging into a room and declaring yourself won't win you any friends. I understand you're desperate, but finding the perfect slave is like trying to find a really good coffee - it justs take patience. If you actually attempt to join the conversation, you'll make more friends and people will remember you and maybe even want to talk to you. This has two benefits. Firstly, people will actually talk to you, making that wait until you find someone all the more enjoyable. Secondly, when you come back, you'll be spoken to again, because you won't have been blocked.

Let's see what happens if you try to join the conversation instead:

[User has entered the Lounge]
[User]: Hey guys
[Others]: Hello, User.
[User]: What are we talking about?
[Others]: Best type of coffee.
[User]: Oh really? I really love a double ristretto latte...

*LATER*
[Others]: So what brings you to getdare, User?

[User]: Oh, you know. I'm looking for a slave.
[Others]: Really? I know just the person for you...

And so on. Can you see the difference?

Tip #2: You take the high road and I'll take the low road...
Let's start with another scenario, this time in a private chat.

[User]: hey are you looking for a slave?
[Me]: Um
[User]: 19/m horny with cam
[Me]: No thanks, I don't do s/m
[User]: k

And I never hear from them again. Which saddens me, because they sounded like such an interesting person. But never mind.

My point is: don't discount someone just because they're not immediately who you want. For example, consider this: I'm a staff member. It's my job to read every Slave/Master personal that is posted on this site. As such, not only do I remember pretty much everyone who has posted one, I also know, after months of reading them, who the good ones are. So, I'm a walking mine of information. The same goes for a lot of the regular users here. But, seeing as I'm not going to be your slave, what you have done by ignoring me straight away is:

a) lost me as a source of information


b) pissed me off a bit

This isn't to say approach each of the regular users of the site and be all "can u help me find a master plzzz". But, if you befriend us, then chances are we'll be sympathetic to you and help you out as a friend if you do ask.

Tip #3: Submissives, know your place
Remember: some people are more in demand than others. For instance, ever wondered why a female slaves get 37 replies to their personal while a male slave gets none? From my observation, there seems to be an all-important order, from most in-demand to least in-demand:

Most wanted: The Female Sub
Then: The Female Dom
Then: The Male Dom
Least wanted: The Male Sub

I'm sorry to say, male subs, but you're at the bottom of the wanted pile. Keep this in mind when talking to people. The closer to the bottom of the pile you are, the more likely it is that other users have heard someone like you begging for a partner. This means they won't listen to you if you randomly ask them to be your master.

Tip #4: Stay Awake

[User has entered the Lounge]
[User]: I'm looking for a female slave.
[Female Slave]: I'll be your slave.
[User]: Sweet.

Has this happened to you recently?

Yes? Pinch yourself, you're dreaming. Wake up.
No really, it has happened to you? Stop lying.

The thing you need to remember, is that this site wasn't built in the hope that one day you would come along and use it to find someone to get down and dirty with. If you think that it is, then stop thinking that, you sollipsistic bitch. Other users are here to have a good time, and everyone's going to be happier if you add something to the site besides "You are now my slave". Not everyone is here to find a slave or master, and it's foolish of you to assume that they are. Be prepared to talk to people about other stuff besides BDSM. Coffee, perhaps. In fact, why not even come up with your own topic of conversation?

Thank you for your time.