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Join Date: May 2014
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(TL-DR - coming from a guy, you other dudes need to calm down)
Ok, so, even though I'm fairly new to this whole S&M scene, a recurring theme has caught my eye; male-hopeful slaves SEVERELY out number female dommes. Now, I'm only an "Online" participant of this stuff, so that might be screwing my line of sight up, but everywhere I seem to go, the man to woman ratio is extremely high in the male regards. However, this isn't the reason I'm here to vent. All the guys that go out of their way to attempt to find a mistress,dominatrix or whatever, sometimes go WAY over the top. They pester entirely to much, they don't READ ad's properly or at all, they automatically assume that just because said person has a vagina, they'll dominate them, etc etc. Guys, PLEASE cool your cocks. Seriously. I realize not ALL guys do this, but a healthy number of you do. Read, acknowledge, research. Its not terribly hard. I enjoy the pleasures of the online domination quite a lot, but it's kinda hard to deal with all the guys who assume and jump right into it. It gives the rest of us guys a bad name. |
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Although I cannot find a source, I believe it was stated that the BDSM community is composed of roughly 30% women and 70% men (feel free to discount a few points from each for non-standard gender distribution as required).
Now, given that there are no women on the internet, it makes sense that the population of female dominates is lower than male submissives. ![]() But back on base, what you are seeing is the results of the capitalist system in play. Specifically, the laws of supply and demand, which can be used to show that a low amount of supply with a high amount of demand will make people do some crazy things to become supplied. The shotgun approach of replying to any thread at all which has a female posting looking for something with a heartbeat (an optional requirement when really hard up on the weekends) ends up giving them a higher chance to meet their demand and obtain some supply. That isn't to say that it is a good way, the right way, or the best way to do as much. It is none of those things. But it is an easy way, and easy things are evolutionary optional when dealing with the guided evolution of internet community patterns. There are way to solve this, such as making posting a reply in a thread for someone not searching for your gender/orientation/etc an offense that could get you a warning/short ban, although in which case you'd have issues with people posting references for the person. And that doesn't clean up the issue with being PM spammed, so it really is not worth the effort most likely. Might you, or anyone else, have any possible solutions to deal with the people that won't deal?
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I know way more female Switches and Dominants to men! (Irl) as alot of men seem to like being submissive more, so it seems to be a common theme
]Understand that wonnabes are not going to read ads, they dont care about relationships they just want the quick fix, these people are noobs, and misuse the lifestyle, there are plently of them people around, just immaturity, you get that everywhere you go.
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Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: New Zealand
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If the guys don't read the ads and just randomly spams, the girls won't reply anyway, so it doesn't hurt your chances if you've got a well tailored PM.
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As such, your point is mostly invalid, especially in the most common cases.
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Join Date: May 2014
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This is why so many women just give up and delete profiles on OkCupid, or place really strict messaging requirements on Fetlife. Putting it down to intelligence is a strange interpretation. |
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Join Date: Jan 2012
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A well written message will stand out no matter what. The only thing you need to worry about is if a girl gets 50 messages, chances are, there are quite a few good messages in there. So she may only reply to the best one few. And if indeed it's an intelligent thing. Do you really want someone who can't figure out how to do something as simple as deleting spams as your mistress or slave? |
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