01-05-2011, 03:55 PM | #1 |
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relationship question
So, I've liked a girl for many years now but she had been going out with a friend of mine so I waited, now he has dumped her a couple of days ago, and she is clearly upset by it. So I was wondering, when is the approprate amount of time to give for asking her out to not seem insensitive.
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01-05-2011, 04:15 PM | #2 |
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Give a couple of weeks, two or three, maybe. See how badly your friend is affected by the break up. Then go for it!
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01-05-2011, 04:16 PM | #3 |
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Be a shoulder to cry on, if she needs it. There's no generic timescale. Just go with the flow. Give her space, and time, and just offer the fact you're there to talk if she wants. Just don't jump down her throat or anything (as I'm sure you won't).
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01-05-2011, 04:19 PM | #4 |
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If you really like her, be there for her as a friend while she is getting over it- support her let her know you're there for her if she needs it. Then you will also be able to tell when she is feeling better and when you can try and approach starting a relationship. You also have to be careful not to make yourself a rebound, which will happen if you move in too soon.
doctor beat me to the post.
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01-05-2011, 07:51 PM | #5 |
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Each person is different and there's no definite or set ammount of time to wait as the time would vary from person to person. For now, all you should and can do is be her friend, comfort her and make her feel better... After a couple of weeks when she seems as if shes over him (is no longer constantly upset, and can talk about him without pain) go for it. (:
Please do not rush things though, it would hurt her and drive her away. Best of luck
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01-06-2011, 03:07 PM | #6 |
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Thanks for all the advice, I am acting as the shoulder to cry on, and I'm also trying to jugde how it is affecting her, and more importantly her ex as he has been a friend of mine since primany school, so I'm trying to measure where the right balance, I'm praying right now that this my best chance, and I'm an Atheist.
Thanks to all of you for your replies. |
01-06-2011, 03:55 PM | #7 |
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Being *too* close during this hard time, however, could have her think of you as another one of her "girlfriends" who she could talk to, is always there for her, is a wonderful person, etc.. but who she thinks nothing more of. Don't get stuck in the "friend zone"!
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01-11-2011, 04:15 PM | #8 |
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Depends how close you are to the friend who was with her before and it depends on how long they were together to really know how much is may have impacted her.
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02-13-2011, 03:06 PM | #10 |
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Thank you all, it worked, we are finally going out together, finally asked her out last week and our first date is on Valentines. The friend wasn't really a problem as it turns out the reason they broke up was that he was cheating on her, with my sister, So that got me out of the woods on that one.
Thanks to all of you for your advice, I really couldn't of done it without you.
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