A random assortment of reports, thoughts, ramblings and information. Pretty much a view inside my wonderfully complicated, sometimes broken, and entertaining mind.
I Love Valentines Day, so there!
I personally don't care how you feel about it. You have every right to spend the day celebrating love, or anti love or even ignore it completely if you wish. What I do have a problem with is people making me feel bad or guilty for loving valentines day.
Yes, Valentines Day has become a commercialized holiday. But honestly, which holiday hasn't? The same people who will condemn Valentine's Day will be the people who dress in green and binge drink on St. Patrick's Day or who buy gifts on Christmas. Society has managed to commercialize every event from our birth to our death, but that isn't a reason not to celebrate.
Valentine's Day can be an excuse for people to buy flowers and chocolates and cards. But it doesn't have to be about spending money. The way I see it, there is nothing wrong with showing somebody you care about them. You can do that by buying them jewelry, chocolate, a card or flowers. Some people choose to make something for their valentine instead. Others will do something nice instead: maybe give a massage, or do a nice deed.
I know that sometimes people find the holiday depressing. They are sad that they are not in a relationship or maybe they are going through a breakup. But there is nothing that says valentines has to be about celebrating romantic love. I think it is a great day to celebrate all forms of love; friends, siblings, parents, coworkers, and the most important: yourself! You don't need a partner to buy you flowers, you can buy them for yourself.
I know that we shouldn't need one day a year to tell people we love them. It should be done consistently throughout the year. However, I think that Valentine's day is a great day to take the time to remind ourselves to make other people feel special, show them what they mean to us. We all live terribly busy lives, and sometimes we forget to say an extra "I love you". So what is wrong with having a holiday remind us. We do it on Mothers Day and Fathers Day. It doesn't make the love that we show any less special because it is done on a day we are expected to. Of course, if that is the only day you show your love, then it can be a problem.
My point is, I love Valentine's Day. I choose to celebrate today. You may not, and that is perfectly fine. I promise I won't force it on you or make you feel bad about not celebrating, but don't make me feel guilty or bad for doing it my way.
The amount of negativity I have experienced today has been astounding. Not only things directed at me: "Oh, you celebrate Valentine's Day?" *gives me a look* but negative things about themselves: "I will be forever alone" ... this is NOT ok. Love yourself today, tomorrow, and always. Love others today, tomorrow, and always. Don't judge people or make them feel bad. Just do you!
Now, while I am here and on the subject:
To my husband, thank you for being a wonderful and amazing man. You are kind,
patient, loving, and I am the luckiest girl in the world to have found you.
To my worm, you are so wonderful. I honestly am in awe of the trust you place in me.
You are strong, brave and courageous. On top of that, you are just a wonderful friend and I am glad that you are in my life.
To my friends, thank you to each one of you for your love and support. I could not survive without you all!
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Valentine's doesn't mean anything to me ("Valentine's - by the people who brought you Thanksgiving!"); in my neck of the global wood it has no meaning beyond the commercial. But it has already been forced on us. Shit, they even have D-Day/Omaha Beach cartoons in the newspaper, and 4th of July specials in shops, and Nine-Eleven remembrance stuff [which confuses people, because what happened in November?]...
Sorry. I guess you just found one of my triggers.
But... well... happy Hallmark to you too!Posted 02-14-2018 at 03:02 PM by Cstelle 
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I agree that it is commercialized and I am not saying that it is right for that to be, but I think it is a great reminder for myself to take the time and spoil myself and the people I love. Not necessarily with material things, but with love and attention and specialness. And if people choose not to participate, that is completely ok. I just ask that those people don't make me feel bad for wanting to.Quote:Originally Posted by Cstelle
Valentine's doesn't mean anything to me ("Valentine's - by the people who brought you Thanksgiving!"); in my neck of the global wood it has no meaning beyond the commercial. But it has already been forced on us. Shit, they even have D-Day/Omaha Beach cartoons in the newspaper, and 4th of July specials in shops, and Nine-Eleven remembrance stuff [which confuses people, because what happened in November?]...
Sorry. I guess you just found one of my triggers.
But... well... happy Hallmark to you too!
I have received so many negative comments today because I have chosen to participate, and they are not needed. Spread love, not hate!
I won't wish you a Happy Valentine's Day, but I will say I am glad to have you in my life. So I will sprinkle some love in your direction.Posted 02-14-2018 at 03:14 PM by Butterfly
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It's commercial. It's sappy. Embrace it! Today i'm binging romantic films and tomorrow i will indulge on cut-price chocolate.
I've got no-one to be romatic with (again) but so what. I can love myself and my friends.
Taking the joy out of someone else's day, not nice people. I bet they don't even like Halloween! (when you can binge scary movies and indulge on cut-price candy)Posted 02-14-2018 at 03:25 PM by Hammarling
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Oh! - I didn't mean my thing to be a downer, a negative comment! I meant to write something funny (but with the same point of Hallm... Valentine's not being a thing over here), but then I was reminded of these other stupid things, and then I sort of lost my way in the flippancy....
I'm so sorry!
Seriously: happy special day to you! May it involve a lot of chocolate (or the equivalent)! [I recently made the mistake of gifting chocolate to a person who loves it - but can't eat it. The chocolate box became an elephant in the room, and - long story short - we did not have sex.]Posted 02-14-2018 at 03:29 PM by Cstelle
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I am sensing a theme ... want to come binge on half price candy with me tomorrow?Quote:Originally Posted by Hammarling
It's commercial. It's sappy. Embrace it! Today i'm binging romantic films and tomorrow i will indulge on cut-price chocolate.
I've got no-one to be romatic with (again) but so what. I can love myself and my friends.
Taking the joy out of someone else's day, not nice people. I bet they don't even like Halloween! (when you can binge scary movies and indulge on cut-price candy)Posted 02-14-2018 at 03:39 PM by Butterfly
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No problem. And thank you. I will be going to make chocolate covered strawberries after work. Eating the chocolates probably would have been just as good as sex anyways :PQuote:Originally Posted by Cstelle
Oh! - I didn't mean my thing to be a downer, a negative comment! I meant to write something funny (but with the same point of Hallm... Valentine's not being a thing over here), but then I was reminded of these other stupid things, and then I sort of lost my way in the flippancy....
I'm so sorry!
Seriously: happy special day to you! May it involve a lot of chocolate (or the equivalent)! [I recently made the mistake of gifting chocolate to a person who loves it - but can't eat it. The chocolate box became an elephant in the room, and - long story short - we did not have sex.]Posted 02-14-2018 at 03:40 PM by Butterfly
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I didn't even get the chocolate... (And now I'll spend the rest of my life wondering about what she did with it. Dang!)Quote:Originally Posted by Butterfly
Eating the chocolates probably would have been just as good as sex anyways :P
Posted 02-14-2018 at 03:50 PM by Cstelle
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Happy Valentine's Day! In a friendly, purely platonic sense.Posted 02-14-2018 at 04:48 PM by Blue Fox
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Happy Valentines Day Gorgeous. Personally I just feel bad on Valentines day because even my friends don't tell me they love me. But please do not let my antiValentine Spirit ruin your dayPosted 02-14-2018 at 05:33 PM by Wedgiebondagebabe
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Happy Valentines Day dear Princess! You are amazingly wonderful and fantastic and I couldn't have found a better friend and Domme. You are in fact the best friend I ever found on-line!
I wish you all the best fortune and love in your life. Oh and lots of kink and toys too of course!Posted 02-14-2018 at 08:59 PM by Jaro
