The truth about bad subs.

Anyone who knows me by now will know that I'm a switch. Talking to someone recently while logged on to 'the ongoing study of horny human idiots' Fetlife someone took this to mean that I'm a sub.

Why?

"Cos ur not a dom".

Oh, of course. Why didn't I think of that?

I'm also a bad sub, apparently. This guy knows the truth of it all. He knows what makes a bad sub, and like one of Jesus' disciples I'm here to carry on his message long after he was crucified, by me, verbally.

I don't have an image of my dick on the site.
Apparently Fetlife is a shop-window for dominants, and dominants alone. In addition, it doesn't matter that this guy had no profile picture - what matters is that I didn't have the right profile picture.

In his own words:
"how do i know who you say u are if you dont show ur penis ?"

(That's ctrl C + V's exactly as is, by the way, so let's all just get over the grammar and spelling errors now. It will help us in the long run.)

Well, you certainly make a compelling point. After all, the emphasis is on me as the.. uhh.... sub, apparantly.

"your obviosly a bad sub cos u dont give ur masters what they want".

I'd like to emphasis here that, not only has he taken ownership of me prior to our first conversation, he's given me away to every dom on the site simultaneously. Good news therefore, everyone - if you're a dom I'm yours.

He's also taken the rather hilarious assumption that all of these 'masters' want dick pics. Y'know, because dominants aren't sometimes hyper-masculine 'alphas', who use their muscles and obnoxious LADness to hide the fact that they're actually very uncertain about their place in society, and therefore feel the need to constantly reaffirm that heterosexual-manliness is the accepted norm and somehow 'better'. As great as it is, I'm not sure those guys would ever (openly admit to the fact that they) want a picture of my penis.

Also, homosexual female doms. Or any non-binary orientation doms. The list is exhaustive. Seriously, I'm exhausted. My doms are pushing me hard tonight. Prick.

So, not only am I owned by everyone, they all want my dick. I know it's above averaged size, but seriously guys, it's just a dick. (click the link, bozo).

I'm scared.
Let's allow the Prophet to lead usinto this one:

"you don't admit that ur a sub you hide cos ur scared of loosing control."

Somebody on this site once used this argument on me. He asked to use a teamviewer on my PC, and I said no. Here was his full response:

"Rather good common sense - and fear, I guess.

And well, it wouldn't be like that a stranger just became total freedom over your possession upon just joining it on TeamViewer.

I guess you also haven't been trying it before."

In fairness to the guy from this site, I was seriously considering letting him be my dominant. He seemed smart, articulate, compelling - but it all went out the window when he didn't respect my no, and instead opted to try and bully me into doing things his way. Calling someone scared to admit they truly hold all of your wants and desires is truly one of the laziest, most obnoxious, and downright dangerous comments to make. It could lead to someone feeling very uncomfortable, exposed, or even abused. Stop it.

I haven't really touched on our main man's point though.

I'm not scared of submitting, I love it. I love being overpowered and forced to take cock, get beaten, or be put on display. I also enjoy hurting, fucking, and humiliating others, if they enjoy it too. That entire comment tells me this person either doesn't understand what a switch is, or that they simply cannot think of anything outside of their own bubble. Either way, an annoying comment to make.

I don't have a great body
In his own words:

"you don't even have a great body. your not even ripped like dylan thorne. i'd teach you to be fit like me, give you rules to follow".

Bitch please, I'll believe that when I see it.

Fortunately, I have confidence in myself. Whereas I'm no skinny twink-like guy any more, my body is pretty good thank you. I have a bot of a wobbly stomach, but that's because I have a REAL soft spot for pringles (my one true dom, who I would so send dick pics to). However, tactics like that could really hurt someone without my confidence. It's just another way to bully people into getting what you want. You lack charisma, and you know it, hence your need to resort to twattish tactics.

Also, if you're wondering, Dylan Thorne is a gay porn guy. He's on sites like BoyNapped. You know, porn sites famed for promoting realistic body images and expectations of sex. Admittedly, he's more ripped than me; but he does have a smaller cock. Just so you know.

Yes, I am deliberately ignoring the fact that he claims to be more ripped than me, yet doesn't display this body he's so proud of. I don't believe him for a second.

My overall lack of pictures
I'll apologise for this one in advance. I should have been carefully maintaining my gallery for my masters. I know this now.

"theres no pictures of you tied up on your profile yet you, claim to love bondage so much"

So sue me.

"and theres no pics of your nice round spanked bottom"

Rule of three, I like it. Could have done with a comma or two though.

"so you must be a bad sub because you havent subed to anyone"

Got me there.

It's true that I've been looking to do a photo shoot - I've just found no-one suitable yet. I've had a few dates arranged, with places and plans etc, but they've all been called off at the last minute - such is the way when trying to organise groups of people.

I do, however, enjoy a very healthy sex-life with my switch girlfriend, Kat, and have been tied up, spanked, pagged, and all-round abused by her many times. I will be many more, too. But yes, because I don't put tat n the internet as his wank material I guess I'm doing it wrong.


Here is, if you're interested, my full crucifixion of this douche-hole. I may have gone a bit sweary and harsh:

"Fuck off, you grammar-allergic cumhole. You are the reason sites like this have a bad name; in fact, Fetlife is quite a good name, yours is the bad name: it looks like a dyslexic monkey shat out some shapes onto an idiot tree, played around with it, and then typed up the results. Though now I'm just being offensive for the sake of it - here's my major gripe with you:

After all of my assertions. All of my reminders. All of my explanations - you still don't understand what a submissive is. Someone isn't just a submissive - they're a submissive of someone else. They might identify as being a sub, but if they haven't explicitly submitted to you then they're not a sub, as far as you're concerned. You're not a master by default, you earn that from someone submitting TO YOU, not in general. People who identify as being submissive don't owe you anything either, at least, they don't owe you any more than what you owe them.

What is that? Try to know this into your thick, horny head:

Kindness. Respect. Friendship. Honesty.

You have given me none of these things. You've flat out disrespected me, my preferences, my relationship, and my body. You've shown me no inherent kindness or compassion. You've chosen to ignore me every time I've said no to you. You've made no real effort to get to know me. You've told me nothing about yourself that can be backed up with any hard evidence - and therefore I'm going to chose not to believe you.

Sort yourself out. Go read about how to conduct yourself in grown-up spaces like this. Go speak to people properly, instead of bullying them over the internet for a quick wank-come-power tip.

You are a pathetic human being as it stands, and this will be my final ever message to you, whether you sort yourself out or not. Go away."

You know what message he came back with?

"I'm so sorry."

That's all of it. I'm going to take that as making a small difference today.

I dread to think how angry I'd be if I was a woman on one of these sites. I must only get one idiot a month, and it drives me insane.