Are desperate male subs driving female members away ???

[messysissy]

Could a possible solution be to limit Private Messages to people with other a certain amount of posts or people who have been active for a set amount of time?

[DJ-playmate]

Originally Posted by messysissy

Could a possible solution be to limit Private Messages to people with other a certain amount of posts or people who have been active for a set amount of time?

I'm on another site where if 20 different people report a user's PMs, their account gets suspended and possibly deleted. However, persistent trolls will just create new accounts.

I guess I'm a bit cynical--it has always been this way and I expect it to continue to be this way. It's the nature of humanity. I don't see any realistic solution that isn't also an undue burden on legitimate users.

The only other option is to make paid membership sites--which will have far fewer people and perhaps just as many idiots anyway.

[sir stefan]

Originally Posted by messysissy

Could a possible solution be to limit Private Messages to people with other a certain amount of posts or people who have been active for a set amount of time?

Nahhh what would be the limit?
Guess you cannot really Block the pm for more then 2 wks. So, 50 posts?

My pet and myselg received horrible spam from a very active guy, 500 post or so

[messysissy]

Originally Posted by sir stefan

Nahhh what would be the limit?
Guess you cannot really Block the pm for more then 2 wks. So, 50 posts?

My pet and myselg received horrible spam from a very active guy, 500 post or so

Obviously it isn't a perfect solution but I imagine it would reduce the amount of people who are around for two minutes and flood inboxes.

[sir stefan]

Originally Posted by messysissy

Obviously it isn't a perfect solution but I imagine it would reduce the amount of people who are around for two minutes and flood inboxes.

Thinking more about it,
It probably could work (a bit),
But not in postcount.
Some people post more then others
And postcount would actually encourage spamposting.

But simply enable pm only after 2 weeks.

This will have extra benifit that those who make new account after being banned will have to wait 2 weeks before they can pm again

[DJ-playmate]

But simply enable pm only after 2 weeks.

This will have extra benifit that those who make new account after being banned will have to wait 2 weeks before they can pm again

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That would discourage new members, and like I said before, idiots will always find a way to be idiots. This global social media problem won't go away until the nature of humanity changes.

One last point: I've noticed that a lot of bad users are <age kids (because most sites don't have age verification) or guys from countries where the attitudes toward women are more sexist and primitive.

[hornyyoungslut]

Originally Posted by messysissy

Could a possible solution be to limit Private Messages to people with other a certain amount of posts or people who have been active for a set amount of time?

I don't think that would be entirely fair. I know that I used PM alot when I first started to communicate with other users about questions. Some people just abuse the power that getDare gives them.

[sir stefan]

Originally Posted by hornyyoungslut

I don't think that would be entirely fair. I know that I used PM alot when I first started to communicate with other users about questions. Some people just abuse the power that getDare gives them.

Well that is true.
As said, i don't think linking to postcount is good.
But although i fully see the greatness of pm, and especially at start. I also think that it does not hurt to enjoy a 2 week initiation period in which one can learn some netiquette before being allowed on pm.

Threads and chat are still there.

Has benifit that one can check some posts on receiving a new pm

[hornyyoungslut]

Originally Posted by sir stefan

Well that is true.
As said, i don't think linking to postcount is good.
But although i fully see the greatness of pm, and especially at start. I also think that it does not hurt to enjoy a 2 week initiation period in which one can learn some netiquette before being allowed on pm.

Threads and chat are still there.

Has benifit that one can check some posts on receiving a new pm

Linking to post count & the novice of the user is both unfair, in my personal opinion. If I join and was not able to use PM for 2 weeks, I would feel left out and probably would not have become such an active member in the getDare community. Yes, threads & chats would still be an option but no new user wants to create a thread asking tons of questions, thinking that they would be a nuisance to existing members. That goes for chats as well.

I just think there is a better way to control PMs from people that abuse it's use for harassment.

[sir stefan]

Originally Posted by hornyyoungslut

Linking to post count & the novice of the user is both unfair, in my personal opinion. If I join and was not able to use PM for 2 weeks, I would feel left out and probably would not have become such an active member in the getDare community. Yes, threads & chats would still be an option but no new user wants to create a thread asking tons of questions, thinking that they would be a nuisance to existing members. That goes for chats as well.

I just think there is a better way to control PMs from people that abuse it's use for harassment.

OK,
you are probably right
(would not want to propose such a thing without well agreement anyway,.. we dont want to kill this beatifull site )

Maybe a point-system?
Now you can only put to ignore or report which is quite a large threshold.
Maybe something like a "penalty" button.
--> not immidiately "lethal" but giving warning.
(and then that button should activate a message to the trol that he has a penalty, 3 penalties will mean ban, not saying from who and so on)

note: on age-limit: yes, woudl be good... but how??? i also appreciate that coudl apply completely anynomously

certain countries: also, probably true,... but some good guys from those countries we probably definitely want.


pfeew,,,. maybe just live with it.

a quick standard (customizable) fuckoff message button is probably still a nice thing..

[hornyyoungslut]

Originally Posted by sir stefan

OK,
you are probably right
(would not want to propose such a thing without well agreement anyway,.. we dont want to kill this beatifull site )

Maybe a point-system?
Now you can only put to ignore or report which is quite a large threshold.
Maybe something like a "penalty" button.
--> not immidiately "lethal" but giving warning.
(and then that button should activate a message to the trol that he has a penalty, 3 penalties will mean ban, not saying from who and so on)

note: on age-limit: yes, woudl be good... but how??? i also appreciate that coudl apply completely anynomously

certain countries: also, probably true,... but some good guys from those countries we probably definitely want.


pfeew,,,. maybe just live with it.

a quick standard (customizable) fuckoff message button is probably still a nice thing..

I just think that there should be PM moderation, specific users who address people who abuse PMs and the PM issues. They could directly contact users who are constantly reported for offenses of the PM inbox and tell them they have warnings, and if more offenses come through of the same person, they receive a PM ban for a certain amount of days.

Sounds like a shit ton of work but PM is a big part of the issue regarding harassment and aggression by members.

[DJ-playmate]

Originally Posted by hornyyoungslut

Sounds like a shit ton of work but PM is a big part of the issue regarding harassment and aggression by members.

It wouldn't be that hard to code a report button, and if a user gets, say, 20 reports from unique users, a warning is sent, and their account is suspended until an admin reviews the PMs and either deletes the account or releases it. I am active on a site that has more than 100 volunteer mods who review content, and the system works pretty well. It has been my experience that getDare is a "hands off" site that isn't very interested in sanctioning the actions of bad users or fakes.

[Buttaholic]

I think Pm ban for a couple of weeks might just work fine.