Disgust at cum... Help?

slaveblondie · 05-24-2010, 09:40 AM

Okay so I have been on here a fair few years, have had my fair share of dominant online relationship thingys, but I am now lucky enough to have found a dominant boyfriend... (He's lovely, I'm not going to die!)

However I have a complete fear/strong dislike of cum. I always have had, with previous boyfriends I have just informed them I don't like it and that was that.. But being in a relationship where ultimately I need to do as I'm told.. I kind of need to at least attempt to get over this.. So I suggested I post on here, and he liked the idea

Basically what I want is idea's, suggestions, punishments, ANYTHING to try and get me over this. If you have an idea then post it, we can always decide if something doesn't work for us

He wants me to like it though, not just put up with it. I don't like messy things or disgusting things (and they are limits on here) and I think as it falls kind of into both categories this is the main reason I don't like it.

I just want to be the best I can be.. I want to be able to do everything and anything he asks and like it. I haven't said no to anything in relation to cum, in fact I haven't said no to anything, but I don't want this to be a problem anymore

I hope this is the right section, I think it is

Have a lovely dayyy!

SB x

sweetsong · 05-24-2010, 09:49 AM

My advice, give it time. Cum, in general, grosses me out too.

But, if it's someone I like, I get over it because it's them. (:

slaveblondie · 05-24-2010, 11:09 AM

Thank you

To a certain extent I do agree with you, but certainly in my case I think it goes deeper than just liking it because they do, I really do have a loathing for it. If something turns him on, it very much turns me on purely because I know he finds it arousing. But this is really the exception. I just can't seem to get past it. I just wanted to hear other suggestions.

I love my boyfriend/master. Very very much. And it is out of that love, respect, trust and the dominant submissive relationship we have that I have never said no to anything he has asked. I trust him and I know he wouldn't ever ask me to do something dangerous or hazardous. And he really does know what's best for me. So when he asks me to do anything in relation to cum, I do it without question. But I don't really always enjoy it, and I hate that

SB x

leonard_T · 05-24-2010, 12:05 PM

I only can talk for myself but I think most of the people doesn't like cum because of the taste of it. For me the taste is horrible but the texture is not bad.

The thing you should try to like more is the submission of eating or playing with something that you don't like. After all and even we use limits, not everything has to give you pleasure or physical pain, in this case is humiliation, and if bf/master knows it he can use it not only to let you know that he is your master and you must follow all his commands also can cum in your face and leave it there as punishment.

Sometimes the things that you don't like are very useful for the game, and you should use them. But you both must know all the time what you don't like and what is off limits or very extreme for you. Hope that I helped you.

slaveblondie · 05-26-2010, 09:49 AM

Thanks Leonard, this is a completely valid point. I do have to agree with you, it is important for him to know my likes and dislikes.

The only difference in this situation is that he doesn't particularly want me to hate any part of him. It really gets him down, and effects his climax.

It's all well and good me having a dislike to a certain toy, or game, or sex related thing, but it's part of him in his opinion.

I don't know, maybe there isn't a way round this

SB x

JD_Slaveformistress · 05-26-2010, 09:52 AM

My only thought is simply to deal with it as often as you can and learn to cope. Beyond that there is little that can help.

Holly92 · 05-27-2010, 04:25 PM

If I'm honest I don't enjoy cum that much, but the taste always varies.
One day it can be gross, the next tastless. I always swallow it, more of the submissive thing plus much easier than cleaning up

I was worried at first but I just learnt that it may taste nasty for a minute or so, but that'll go and it'll satisfy Him much more so.

Just keep trying with it, and ultimately if it's a limit then it's a limit

Good luck
xx

curious-young-girl · 05-27-2010, 05:10 PM

I have a friend how had the same problem, they said to use a flavored condom, and then right before he's 'ready' pull it off, they also use different lotion type things to add another taste ((i have no clue if theses work, but she claims they do))

slaveblondie · 05-30-2010, 03:20 AM

Thanks for your help everyone

Hopefully a combination of these ideas will help me

I think I will just have to deal with it ultimately

Thanks

SB x

MasterThx · 05-30-2010, 05:28 AM

I suggest you ask permission to tell this to your dominant boyfriend. He may like it or not, but in the end he will be the only one to really help you with this problem, by for example not ejaculating in your mouth.

The Natural · 06-01-2010, 08:04 AM

It also may be a good idea to have him watch his nutrition. If he's scarfing down McDonalds and KFC every part that comes out of him will taste salty and nasty.

Just a thought to help with the process.

Aussie Fun · 06-01-2010, 08:18 AM

I Seccond that, i had a chick teach me its good practice to eat half a punnet of strawberries the afternoon before a few hours of fun not only good for you but made the taste better than just bearable. or try pineapple.
other than that you could try watching a bunch of cum face type porn that might help you overcome some of the disgust / fear, or do your master a deal if he cums on you you get to cum on him. learn to squirt you will love it!!! so will your master

05-24-2010, 09:40 AM	#1
slaveblondie Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: South East Posts: 246	Disgust at cum... Help? Okay so I have been on here a fair few years, have had my fair share of dominant online relationship thingys, but I am now lucky enough to have found a dominant boyfriend... (He's lovely, I'm not going to die!) However I have a complete fear/strong dislike of cum. I always have had, with previous boyfriends I have just informed them I don't like it and that was that.. But being in a relationship where ultimately I need to do as I'm told.. I kind of need to at least attempt to get over this.. So I suggested I post on here, and he liked the idea Basically what I want is idea's, suggestions, punishments, ANYTHING to try and get me over this. If you have an idea then post it, we can always decide if something doesn't work for us He wants me to like it though, not just put up with it. I don't like messy things or disgusting things (and they are limits on here) and I think as it falls kind of into both categories this is the main reason I don't like it. I just want to be the best I can be.. I want to be able to do everything and anything he asks and like it. I haven't said no to anything in relation to cum, in fact I haven't said no to anything, but I don't want this to be a problem anymore I hope this is the right section, I think it is Have a lovely dayyy! SB x __________________ I play in real life so sometimes neglect GD, if I want to play I'll definitely ask Limits: blood, scat, pee, messy, public, family and friends, illegal, pictures of me, outside Likes: Bondage, tease and denial, light pain, lifestyle rules, general control (food, furniture, bathroom, time etc), Dislikes: cold showers, complicated dares/tasks, really long corner time, harsh pain, clothing control, obnoxious or rude people haha

05-24-2010, 09:49 AM	#2
sweetsong getDare Succubus Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: ♥ In your dreams ♥ Posts: 1,733 Blog Entries: 98	My advice, give it time. Cum, in general, grosses me out too. But, if it's someone I like, I get over it because it's them. (: __________________ . siggy made by stellz [03:54:06 PM] jamness: ‹@G.J.› She... kisses and stuff... shes weird. [03:54:39 PM] G.J.: ‹@jamness› That seems like normal Sweets to me XD

05-24-2010, 11:09 AM	#3
slaveblondie Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: South East Posts: 246	Thank you To a certain extent I do agree with you, but certainly in my case I think it goes deeper than just liking it because they do, I really do have a loathing for it. If something turns him on, it very much turns me on purely because I know he finds it arousing. But this is really the exception. I just can't seem to get past it. I just wanted to hear other suggestions. I love my boyfriend/master. Very very much. And it is out of that love, respect, trust and the dominant submissive relationship we have that I have never said no to anything he has asked. I trust him and I know he wouldn't ever ask me to do something dangerous or hazardous. And he really does know what's best for me. So when he asks me to do anything in relation to cum, I do it without question. But I don't really always enjoy it, and I hate that SB x __________________ I play in real life so sometimes neglect GD, if I want to play I'll definitely ask Limits: blood, scat, pee, messy, public, family and friends, illegal, pictures of me, outside Likes: Bondage, tease and denial, light pain, lifestyle rules, general control (food, furniture, bathroom, time etc), Dislikes: cold showers, complicated dares/tasks, really long corner time, harsh pain, clothing control, obnoxious or rude people haha

05-24-2010, 12:05 PM	#4
leonard_T Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Spain Posts: 126	I only can talk for myself but I think most of the people doesn't like cum because of the taste of it. For me the taste is horrible but the texture is not bad. The thing you should try to like more is the submission of eating or playing with something that you don't like. After all and even we use limits, not everything has to give you pleasure or physical pain, in this case is humiliation, and if bf/master knows it he can use it not only to let you know that he is your master and you must follow all his commands also can cum in your face and leave it there as punishment. Sometimes the things that you don't like are very useful for the game, and you should use them. But you both must know all the time what you don't like and what is off limits or very extreme for you. Hope that I helped you. __________________ Likes: tease, orgasm contol/denial, bondage, pain, bathroom control, ice, toothpaste, cbt, messy, sleeping dares May do: soft anal, cum eating, pee, enema, shaving, messy Don't like: long time dares. Limits: Poo, involving other people, public, permanent. Dare exchange -> I'll do any dare I get by PM and give one back (only if they are inside limits).

05-26-2010, 09:49 AM	#5
slaveblondie Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: South East Posts: 246	Thanks Leonard, this is a completely valid point. I do have to agree with you, it is important for him to know my likes and dislikes. The only difference in this situation is that he doesn't particularly want me to hate any part of him. It really gets him down, and effects his climax. It's all well and good me having a dislike to a certain toy, or game, or sex related thing, but it's part of him in his opinion. I don't know, maybe there isn't a way round this SB x __________________ I play in real life so sometimes neglect GD, if I want to play I'll definitely ask Limits: blood, scat, pee, messy, public, family and friends, illegal, pictures of me, outside Likes: Bondage, tease and denial, light pain, lifestyle rules, general control (food, furniture, bathroom, time etc), Dislikes: cold showers, complicated dares/tasks, really long corner time, harsh pain, clothing control, obnoxious or rude people haha

05-26-2010, 09:52 AM	#6
JD_Slaveformistress Member Join Date: May 2010 Posts: 39	My only thought is simply to deal with it as often as you can and learn to cope. Beyond that there is little that can help.

05-27-2010, 04:25 PM	#7
Holly92 Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: UK Posts: 37	If I'm honest I don't enjoy cum that much, but the taste always varies. One day it can be gross, the next tastless. I always swallow it, more of the submissive thing plus much easier than cleaning up I was worried at first but I just learnt that it may taste nasty for a minute or so, but that'll go and it'll satisfy Him much more so. Just keep trying with it, and ultimately if it's a limit then it's a limit Good luck xx __________________ Likes: orgasm denial, edging, mild pain, humiliation, bladder control, bondage Dislikes: corner time, lines, genital pain, toothpaste Limts: Bodily fluids other than cum, public, illegal, most of anal. Toys: 6 inch vibrator, bullet vibrator, pegs

05-27-2010, 05:10 PM	#8
curious-young-girl getDare Sweetheart Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: hicktown. Posts: 275	I have a friend how had the same problem, they said to use a flavored condom, and then right before he's 'ready' pull it off, they also use different lotion type things to add another taste ((i have no clue if theses work, but she claims they do)) __________________

05-30-2010, 03:20 AM	#9
slaveblondie Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: South East Posts: 246	Thanks for your help everyone Hopefully a combination of these ideas will help me I think I will just have to deal with it ultimately Thanks SB x __________________ I play in real life so sometimes neglect GD, if I want to play I'll definitely ask Limits: blood, scat, pee, messy, public, family and friends, illegal, pictures of me, outside Likes: Bondage, tease and denial, light pain, lifestyle rules, general control (food, furniture, bathroom, time etc), Dislikes: cold showers, complicated dares/tasks, really long corner time, harsh pain, clothing control, obnoxious or rude people haha

05-30-2010, 05:28 AM	#10
MasterThx Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Thailand Posts: 25 Blog Entries: 1	I suggest you ask permission to tell this to your dominant boyfriend. He may like it or not, but in the end he will be the only one to really help you with this problem, by for example not ejaculating in your mouth.

06-01-2010, 08:04 AM	#11
The Natural Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: East Coast Posts: 108 Blog Entries: 12	It also may be a good idea to have him watch his nutrition. If he's scarfing down McDonalds and KFC every part that comes out of him will taste salty and nasty. Just a thought to help with the process.

06-01-2010, 08:18 AM	#12
Aussie Fun Junior Member Join Date: May 2010 Location: Australia Posts: 4	I Seccond that, i had a chick teach me its good practice to eat half a punnet of strawberries the afternoon before a few hours of fun not only good for you but made the taste better than just bearable. or try pineapple. other than that you could try watching a bunch of cum face type porn that might help you overcome some of the disgust / fear, or do your master a deal if he cums on you you get to cum on him. learn to squirt you will love it!!! so will your master