What is wrong with me?

Janus100 · 05-30-2017, 01:19 AM

Hey, I will cut to the chase here.

A little background on my sex life: it is non exsistant, I have only ever kissed one person once and that was when I was 16

I find the idea of sex really uncomfortable. The thought of me putting my nob inside someone elses mouth or vagina or arsehole makes me feel a little queasy. I hate the thought and I do not want to have sex because of it. What is wrong with me? Am I asexual or something?

I like jerking off and cumming. I like using my dildo and butt plug to penetrate myself. But the idea of actually having sex is quite horrible.

If you have any advice that would be great <3 I feel so bad about it

Grand.Master691 · 05-30-2017, 01:56 AM

Don't be so hard on yourself. Everyone's sexuality is different and you shouldn't immediately think that there's something "wrong" with you. You do things your way, just like someone else does it his or her way. For example, some people like oral sex, some don't, other people enjoy anal and some feel uncomfortable and don't even like to talk about it. There are far more people that don't like penetrative sex , just like you, than you realize, both straight and gay.

There's nothing wrong with you, enjoy your life and take pleasure in your sexuality and all that brings you pleasure. Don't let that be a burden and you'll find someone that will appreciate you and respect you the way you are.

GrandMaster

Mr.Kitty · 05-30-2017, 01:59 AM

Yeah I'd tell you that the best bit of advice you'll get is to go with what ever you like? There are so many different types of sex or sexual encounters that there will be many people who like the same type as you?
Why does it matter if you don't like the stuff 'everyone else does' who's to say that what you like isn't normal?
Just be you!! <3

Butterfly's Prisoner · 05-30-2017, 02:30 AM

A friend of mine is in the same situation as you: he likes watching porn and masturbating occasionally, but does not like having actual sex with someone else - at all. And that is perfectly fine! So let me assure you: you are not the only one and it is totally fine not to want to have sex with anyone else.

Oh, and by the way, this is so common that it has a name and has been studied for decades: it's asexuality. So welcome to it!

Janus100 · 05-30-2017, 02:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Grand.Master691

Don't be so hard on yourself. Everyone's sexuality is different and you shouldn't immediately think that there's something "wrong" with you. You do things your way, just like someone else does it his or her way. For example, some people like oral sex, some don't, other people enjoy anal and some feel uncomfortable and don't even like to talk about it. There are far more people that don't like penetrative sex , just like you, than you realize, both straight and gay.

There's nothing wrong with you, enjoy your life and take pleasure in your sexuality and all that brings you pleasure. Don't let that be a burden and you'll find someone that will appreciate you and respect you the way you are.

GrandMaster

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Originally Posted by Mr.Kitty

Yeah I'd tell you that the best bit of advice you'll get is to go with what ever you like? There are so many different types of sex or sexual encounters that there will be many people who like the same type as you?
Why does it matter if you don't like the stuff 'everyone else does' who's to say that what you like isn't normal?
Just be you!! <3

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Originally Posted by piopio1949

A friend of mine is in the same situation as you: he likes watching porn and masturbating occasionally, but does not like having actual sex with someone else - at all. And that is perfectly fine! So let me assure you: you are not the only one and it is totally fine not to want to have sex with anyone else.

Oh, and by the way, this is so common that it has a name and has been studied for decades: it's asexuality. So welcome to it!

Thank you so much for your replies! I was stressing about this

You have really helped, I should just do what I like to do and not worry about what I don't like to do ! <3

Grand.Master691 · 05-30-2017, 02:53 AM

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Thank you so much for your replies! I was stressing about this

You have really helped, I should just do what I like to do and not worry about what I don't like to do ! <3

Hi, Janus!

That's just the right thing to do, enjoy in your life and be happy about it!

Dottie · 05-30-2017, 03:53 AM

Yea, these guys have summed it up pretty well. It's a normal thing, everyone just has different experiences and desires. No need to stress, as long as you're happy with what you're doing, then stick to what you know

05-30-2017, 01:19 AM	#1
Janus100 getDare Sweetheart Join Date: Mar 2017 Posts: 327	What is wrong with me? Hey, I will cut to the chase here. A little background on my sex life: it is non exsistant, I have only ever kissed one person once and that was when I was 16 I find the idea of sex really uncomfortable. The thought of me putting my nob inside someone elses mouth or vagina or arsehole makes me feel a little queasy. I hate the thought and I do not want to have sex because of it. What is wrong with me? Am I asexual or something? I like jerking off and cumming. I like using my dildo and butt plug to penetrate myself. But the idea of actually having sex is quite horrible. If you have any advice that would be great <3 I feel so bad about it

05-30-2017, 01:56 AM	#2
Grand.Master691 Senior Member Join Date: May 2016 Location: Where angels fear to tread! Posts: 165 Blog Entries: 6	Don't be so hard on yourself. Everyone's sexuality is different and you shouldn't immediately think that there's something "wrong" with you. You do things your way, just like someone else does it his or her way. For example, some people like oral sex, some don't, other people enjoy anal and some feel uncomfortable and don't even like to talk about it. There are far more people that don't like penetrative sex , just like you, than you realize, both straight and gay. There's nothing wrong with you, enjoy your life and take pleasure in your sexuality and all that brings you pleasure. Don't let that be a burden and you'll find someone that will appreciate you and respect you the way you are. GrandMaster __________________ Break my heart and I'll break your neck!

05-30-2017, 01:59 AM	#3
Mr.Kitty Member Join Date: Nov 2015 Location: UK Posts: 68 Blog Entries: 2	Yeah I'd tell you that the best bit of advice you'll get is to go with what ever you like? There are so many different types of sex or sexual encounters that there will be many people who like the same type as you? Why does it matter if you don't like the stuff 'everyone else does' who's to say that what you like isn't normal? Just be you!! <3 __________________ 21 Male, 6 foot 3 and switch These are both that I like when a sub and when a dom Likes: Micromanagement, public (Nothing mental) piss play, bladder control, humiliation, cum play, CD, feminisation, forced gay, cumming to girls I know Dislikes (punishments) CBT, chastity, Anal Limits: Scat, Family, Illegal, Blood, Social suicide

05-30-2017, 02:30 AM	#4
Butterfly's Prisoner Account Banned Join Date: Dec 2016 Location: Spain Posts: 595 Blog Entries: 2	A friend of mine is in the same situation as you: he likes watching porn and masturbating occasionally, but does not like having actual sex with someone else - at all. And that is perfectly fine! So let me assure you: you are not the only one and it is totally fine not to want to have sex with anyone else. Oh, and by the way, this is so common that it has a name and has been studied for decades: it's asexuality. So welcome to it! __________________ Male, 27, bisexual. Likes: anal, toothpaste, enemas, feet, edging, creative dares, trying out new stuff. Dislikes/punishments: pee drinking, heavy anal, pain, long dares. Limits: scat eating, public, friends/family/work, needles, extreme pain, blood play, face pictures, crossdressing.

05-30-2017, 03:53 AM	#7
Dottie Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2015 Location: somewhere on Earth Posts: 140 Blog Entries: 3	Yea, these guys have summed it up pretty well. It's a normal thing, everyone just has different experiences and desires. No need to stress, as long as you're happy with what you're doing, then stick to what you know __________________ ♥ a cup bi 27/f/Melbourne ♥ Proud member of the itty bitty titty commitee ♥ Denied until: 15th October ♥ ♥ Likes, Limits, etc. ♥ ♥ PM DARES ♥ ♥ I'm a cumslut, I love cum so much ♥ => Honest bdsmtest <=