[Non-Fiction] Do not be this guy! A cautionary tale.

[the saved]

So this evening I received a delightful message from a gentleman, (who shall remain anonymous for this story), asking for a dare. Now not being one to ignore such a humble request, I proceeded to completely de-construct and criticise his entire getdare existence.

You see, I received this message as I was just going to bed, and what was originally just going to be a no, fuck off, turned into this. I felt like I had to explain why he deserved a no, and obviously that took more and more time and so I got more pissed off as this guy was keeping me from sleeping. Not to mention that I had just come back from work which is full of some of the most insufferable fuckers to have ever existed.

The message may have been a little extreme, I understand, and if I am hated for this, well fair enough, these are my opinions and I would never want to force them upon anyone, but it is my belief that such behaviour deserves a strong response.

The gentleman in question, had messaged me asking for a dare, one relating to scat and diapers. If anyone is to read my likes and limits and things, you will see that I expressively state that they are in my limits. So, that ticked one box of annoyance. Tick number two came from the fact that I had never heard nor spoken to the guy, (if this was one of the more famous GD members, with a good reputation that I had simply not spoken to before, then I may have been more forgiving). Tick number three, the message had nothing to do with any conversation or thread that I had been a part in. You can check from the time of writing, (16/11/2013, 03:07 GMT), that neither me or him had participated in any of the same threads.

So this was the epitomy of an unsolicited dare message.

"Now the reason why this is a cautionary tale, is that I am basically saying, DO NOT BE THIS GUY, or one day, you will find one very narcissistic and angry gentleman feeling in a highly literate mood messaging you back.

(Now I should caveat, at some point through this message I started to enjoy myself as I got into the flow and knew I was writing for a wider audience, make it a game, try and guess when!)

Anyway, read on and enjoy!




"First of all, no.

Secondly, before you send someone an unsolicited PM try making it interesting, get to know them, make them laugh, you are far more likely to get a response.

3. Before contacting someone asking them for a dare, read what's in their limits, as you can clearly read in my blog, which is accessible through a link in my sig, I do not like anything to do with diapers or scat, that's fine if you do, roll in your own shit all you want, but DO NOT involve me.

4. Spamming everyone with messages, (as this is clearly a message you have copied and pasted to multiple members), is making this site a worse place to be, and I generally fucking love this place, so kindly do not do this again, it is harassment, it is annoying, and it is downright rude and selfish imposing yourself onto others in such a way.

5. This brings me on to the matter of selfishness, I have looked through your past posts, to check if we have had any contact or posted in the same threads before which would go some way to legitimate you PM'ing me out of the blue, (surprise, we have not). You have posted 8 times at the time of writing, with only 1 of which have you contributed a dare to give someone else. Now imagine if the entire site was like you, a bunch of desperate people wanting dares but not contributing to one another. Now I know some people like to give dares, that is fine, and if they give you a dare then great, but in your eight posts you haven't even reported on any of them, so as I said, 7 posts asking for dares, (or bumping your asking), and 1 giving, poor ratio if you ask me. This isn't your website to do with what you like, and disregard everyone else, please, consider other people's enjoyment.

Now I realise that this may seem an extreme response, one you may feel you do not deserve, but rest assured that this doesn't only apply to you but to everyone like you on getdare, hence the message's extremity. I will be posting this message to you in the forums as a cautionary tale to other getdare users because this certainly isn't the first time it has happened, but it hopefully will go some way to making it one of the last.

If you turn a corner and sincerely try to contribute, then excellent, I wish you many happy years here, if not, well carry on, but do not expect to be popular.

I should thank you to be quite honest as I have actually enjoyed ranting here and it's been a nice way to spend the last 15 minutes before bed, but please, don't let that encourage you.

But then again, what the fuck do I care, this is only a website for horny people to get together and give eachother dares

All the best,

The Saved

xxx"


Okay so we're back!

How the fuck did you survive that tirade? If you've read this far, I congratulate you, although I fear that my target audience of lowlifes will probably not suffer through this extended narrative.

Anyway, as I said, these are just opinions, feel free to disagree, hate me etc all you like, debate and disagreement is what makes a healthy community, however if you are to comment, please try to keep things respectable.

I love this website, and it's community and I only want to see it go from strength to strength which is why I've taken the best part of half an hour now to write this, I am still waiting on a reply from the dare guy...

I should probably add a TL,DR; DON'T BE A DICK! (Unless you actually are physically a dick in which case party on brother).

I suppose that pretty much wraps all I have to say up,

I wish you long days and pleasant nights getdare,

PRAISE THE SUN!

PEACE!

xxx

[Nwbie]

Good message, sincerely if that's what people call extreme I need to adjust my standards XD

I thought it was quite polite considering the situation and all, you didn't insult nor did you say anything that wasn't TRUE.

I don't have such a big problem with these messages myself, but I can understand the frustration it can cause

Hope this makes people think before they act.

[the saved]

Thanks, it means a lot to hear such positive feedback, I did worry because I mean the guy was annoying but I didn't want to hurt his feelings or give him a negative impression of the site despite his anoyingness.

I hope it does too, as I said in the post, I doubt many of the people who it's aimed at will actually read it, but ahhh well, it's there, they can if they want to

[the saved]

Just a quick update on the situation, I have since received a reply from the individual in question, he has agreed to turn a corner and contribute more towards the site, so at least my message had some kind of positive effect!

In all fairness to him, he seems kind of new and was unaware of the likes/limits system being in place for darers as well as daree's. Admittedly, if you are new here, and to the world of dares and kink in general, it can be a little overwhelming to start, so the fact that he's apologised and will now hopefully go on to be more informed and be a better member overall is excellent.

Just thought I should let you all know .

[ferrari909]

Although i agree with the majority of what you said, you come off as a crying little bitch. If they were keeping you from sleeping why didn't you turn your phone off after all you are going to go to bed...

You could of gotten your point across in half the amount of text.

[vafancoulo13]

Originally Posted by ferrari909

Although i agree with the majority of what you said, you come off as a crying little bitch. If they were keeping you from sleeping why didn't you turn your phone off after all you are going to go to bed...

You could of gotten your point across in half the amount of text.

i agree brah, dont whine

[MissMaria]

It may come across as whining a little, but it needed to be said, a lot of people take the site for granted and forget to give back, I myself have done it from time to time without realising but the only way to change that is for someone to mention it. Thanks for sharing saved.

[the saved]

Hey guys, thought I'd reply to some of the feedback here, first of all, thanks, feedback both positive or negative is always welcome. Now I always knew it's probably split people with this post so I don't mind people complaining about it.

So anyway, ferrari, I understand it was a bit extreme but to call me a crying little bitch is a little harsh. I know I said I wanted to go to bed but if you read my post I did say I started to enjoy writing the message and the thread post hence why it turned from just a simple no fuck off to what it was. Whilst meant to be advisory to people who do behave in such a manner, it was also meant to be a bit of fun, (hence some of the ridiculous vocabulary I use), more for me than anyone else, because you see, I enjoy writing, it so a hobby of mine, so to have the opportunity to write something a little different like this was great and as you can see I took it whole-heartedly. Of course you're entitled to your opinion so feel free to think I'm a crying little bitch, nasty, humiliating words can be a turn on so thanks for that xxx

vafancoulo. Same comment as to ferrari really, you're entitled to your opinion, I respect i too. I never intended to whine, I intended to have a bit of fun whilst making an important point that needs raising every now and again, but if it came across to you as whining, well I'm sorry that you wasn't able to enjoy it and that I took up a fucking large amount of your time if you read it all through .

Miss Maria, thanks for the feedback both positive and negative! Exactly, taking it for granted is a very easy trap to fall into. The nature of the site, (being largely anonymous, online and generally accessed by those very horny), means that you can easily ask and ask again for what you want almost desperately without any comeback such as you would receive in wider society. So it is understandable why people behave in this way and they are largely blameless especially if they're new here. They know what they want and seek it out. What is unforgivable is when this poor behaviour is pointed out to them and yet they still persist, which is why in my personal opinion posts like these are important. Once again if it came across as whiny I am sorry, some of it is meant to be taken with a pinch of salt, and I thought more people would realise that with the final comments (yes the Dark Souls reference, gold stars for anyone who noticed that).

Thanks a lot everyone once again for both leaving your feedback and taking the time out to read this. If any more feedback appears over time I will try to respond as soon as I can, and as always I welcome any debate that prospers from it, just try not to resort to namecalling like a certain fast car around here

(I should caveat in case you don't notice but that was irony ferrari! I don't mean to start any arguments! )

[MissMaria]

sort saved, just to clarify I wasn't saying it was whiny I was saying that is one way to perceive it.

it is easy to second judge with the hind sight we all have as we post here but the real trick is putting yourself in that position and acting on that alone, I think your post was very light harted and informative but most of all accurate I did not at all see it as whining but rather as light harted informative venting, and lets face it we all need to vent some times but all things considered you did it in a very productive way, but I can also see how it can if one wanted to be perceived as whining I just don't think it was

[the saved]

Ohhh right, well thanks

Yeahh it was a vent, it was a laugh, and it was an informative thing, you summed it up!

So yay bonus points! As a nice reward I will send you 3 random PM commands, hope you enjoy.

[MissMaria]

I don't quite know what to say so how about this,

basted *she says in a sarcy jokey voice with a smile*