Do you enjoy reluctance for dares? - Page 2

BarefootAlien · 10-13-2021, 04:14 PM

Of course! I'm not sure it could really be called a 'dare' if there isn't some reluctance involved. "I dare you" is a phrase you use because the person is reluctant. If you could just suggest that they strip or do whatever, then there's really no need for it to be a dare in the first place.

For me, if someone just shrugs and does it, no big deal (or if I do if I'm being dared), then that sends a clear signal to the darer that it wasn't nearly challenging enough or embarrassing enough and I (or they) can ramp it WAAAAAY up for the next one.

sallygirl · 10-13-2021, 09:29 PM

Yes I do, if I'm reluctant to do something it means I have a chance of losing something.

But the risk adds to the excitement for me so I do it.

--exhibitionist-- · 01-17-2022, 07:03 PM

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Originally Posted by andrew_b

If you are either giving or receiving dares...do you like there be at least some element of reluctance on the side of the person to do the dare?

As per definition of a dare, it should push a little, some boundaries, otherwise it would be just a plain task. Depending on a dare, I probably would be some reluctant to do it, but that what a dare is for- to push some limits. Ultimately, I probably, with some "persuasion", would do it. I hope the darer would also enjoy the fact that she can push some limits and make me do what she wants, for her own "sadistic" pleasure.

Alice-H · 01-17-2022, 07:29 PM

I met some people who played bets and games.
They dared me and blackmailed me in to doing it.
The blackmail was more risky than the dare so I did the dare.

Kisune Karnon · 01-19-2022, 10:02 PM

I try to make the dare easy enough, but if they don't want relief then they get full force. I like to have some relief if necessary.

Samuel · 01-31-2022, 09:47 AM

I tend to be shy so there is usually some reluctance but pushing the boundaries and it being risky is always adds excitement to a dare

SamT4225

rhode64 · 01-31-2022, 10:26 AM

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Originally Posted by andrew_b

If you are either giving or receiving dares...do you like there be at least some element of reluctance on the side of the person to do the dare?

It is always more fun if the person doing the dare is somewhat reluctant because it means your pushing their boundaries and their not 100 percent comfortable doing it .

barebuns · 01-31-2022, 08:05 PM

For me it's not so much reluctance per se. Let me explain. I have a nudity/embarrassment fetish. Any naked shenanigans I've done weren't really dares, because the other people involved in the planning were helping me indulge my fetish. So that's not really a dare. But as for the spectators NOT involved in the planning, they thought there WAS reluctance on my part, which was the whole point. I hope all of that makes sense.

When I get myself into a nude situation in front of others, I'm not getting a kinky thrill despite my embarrassment, but because of my embarrassment. That's the nature of my particular fetish. Make sense?? Can anyone else relate to these feelings?

Thank you for soliciting my opinion and I hope my reply was informative. Now if I may PLEASE be allowed my clothes back, I'll be on my way. What, I have to remain nude?!? Well, if that's the way it has to be . . .

zephyrnem · 02-01-2022, 11:35 AM

Yes! Big time. Being Embarassed is the thrill I get from being naked. Oddly, I have found it easier for me to embarass others, and get off on that (especially women) than myself. Sometimes, I love being so embarrassed in the moment that I am soft and feel miserable. Then, I enjoy the scenario later. Being thoroughly Embarassed/Humiliated is the kink. So few want to do that to me, though. It is hard to find the right situation or person. I do have a few stories, though.

Ella_dml · 02-01-2022, 01:44 PM

Yes, reluctance makes the dare more exciting

JamieDarkheart · 02-01-2022, 07:01 PM

I don't really like to give or receive dares that induce reluctance. Instead, I much prefer dares that force an ultimatum, a predicament. With both types of dares you can see how far a sub will go for you, which is incredibly empowering and hot!! But I prefer a more gentle approach. This approach also is actually MORE manipulative because it give the illusion of choice to the sub so they "only have themselves to blame" for the outcome.

fire9starter · 02-01-2022, 07:19 PM

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Originally Posted by JamieDarkheart

I don't really like to give or receive dares that induce reluctance. Instead, I much prefer dares that force an ultimatum, a predicament. With both types of dares you can see how far a sub will go for you, which is incredibly empowering and hot!! But I prefer a more gentle approach. This approach also is actually MORE manipulative because it give the illusion of choice to the sub so they "only have themselves to blame" for the outcome.

See, what you're describing here I like a lot more than reluctant dares! Reluctant dares are just me pushing myself to do something, but an ultimatum is more chaotic, more scary, and way more thrilling and fun than just pushing yourself to do something in my opinion. I'm also extremely shy and get reluctant naturally though, which makes me feel bad because I feel like I look like I'm not having a good time when I am lol

rhl · 03-03-2022, 05:31 AM

I've beenhin situations where I was truly reluctant, and forced. This truly was a turn on.

However I find when I follow, without question, way more adventurous. I start out without knowing much about what I'm commenting to.

Inexp1 · 03-03-2022, 06:21 AM

I’m a bi curious guy that likes the idea of being coerced or forced into hookups through dares etc

alex_af1996 · 06-25-2023, 06:12 AM

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Originally Posted by andrew_b

If you are either giving or receiving dares...do you like there be at least some element of reluctance on the side of the person to do the dare?

The dares I was reluctant to do turned out to be the most wildest and fun. My mistress got me doing so much I wouldn’t normally do. She liked me being reluctant to

10-13-2021, 04:14 PM	#16
BarefootAlien Barer of Feet Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Phoenix Posts: 523	Of course! I'm not sure it could really be called a 'dare' if there isn't some reluctance involved. "I dare you" is a phrase you use because the person is reluctant. If you could just suggest that they strip or do whatever, then there's really no need for it to be a dare in the first place. For me, if someone just shrugs and does it, no big deal (or if I do if I'm being dared), then that sends a clear signal to the darer that it wasn't nearly challenging enough or embarrassing enough and I (or they) can ramp it WAAAAAY up for the next one. __________________ Kik: Barefoot_Alien PM me or Kik me for my Discord ID for longer conversations. I most enjoy giving dares involving exhibitionism, nudity, orgasms, and bare feet. I like to give dares/commands to people who are eager and grateful to obey, not ones who have to be blackmailed or brow-beaten into doing things. I do not support chastity or long-term denial. My philosophy as a dom is almost diametrically opposed. I adore, encourage, and truthfully answer, virtually all questions.

01-17-2022, 07:29 PM	#19
Alice-H Member Join Date: Sep 2020 Location: Allentown, PA Posts: 62	Risky dare. I met some people who played bets and games. They dared me and blackmailed me in to doing it. The blackmail was more risky than the dare so I did the dare.

01-19-2022, 10:02 PM	#20
Kisune Karnon GetDare Ninja Join Date: May 2010 Location: Imagination Land Posts: 12,192 Blog Entries: 7	I try to make the dare easy enough, but if they don't want relief then they get full force. I like to have some relief if necessary. __________________ Male/Married/Straight/Switch/32/190 lbs Likes and Limits Toys (So Far) PM Dares Utilizing Keywords Version 3 Kik: Kisune22 My goal is to give good dares and receive them because that is how I enjoy the game. I will send reports when I choose to or if I am asked. If you give me a repeated dare or a "do your own dare," I will be very disappointed because I like to be surprised and challenged.

02-01-2022, 11:35 AM	#24
zephyrnem getDare Addict Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Iowa / Illinois Posts: 2,067 Blog Entries: 35	Yes! Big time. Being Embarassed is the thrill I get from being naked. Oddly, I have found it easier for me to embarass others, and get off on that (especially women) than myself. Sometimes, I love being so embarrassed in the moment that I am soft and feel miserable. Then, I enjoy the scenario later. Being thoroughly Embarassed/Humiliated is the kink. So few want to do that to me, though. It is hard to find the right situation or person. I do have a few stories, though. __________________ PM Dares Likes: exhibitionism, forced stripping, feet, humiliation, piss, mild to moderate pain, light xdress, tickling, mud, food, messy, dunking of all kinds, bondage, oral, anal, part time slavery Limits: scat, hard pain, blood, family, obvious/stupid public. Toys: Ball gag, plug, clothespins Clothes: Fishnet body suit, swimsuit (women’s), thong, leotard. Currently seeking Master or exhibitionist female to serve.

02-01-2022, 01:44 PM	#25
Ella_dml Member Join Date: Jun 2021 Posts: 38 Blog Entries: 1	Yes, reluctance makes the dare more exciting __________________ 23/f/straight/sub Likes: Humiliation, Degrading, anal, dice, predicament, piss, bodywriting Dislikes: scat, pain, denial, feet Limits: pics, public PM Dares PM me to play battleship, loser gets a dare

10-13-2021, 09:29 PM	#17
sallygirl Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2017 Location: Greensboro, NC Posts: 119	Yes I do, if I'm reluctant to do something it means I have a chance of losing something. But the risk adds to the excitement for me so I do it.

01-31-2022, 09:47 AM	#21
Samuel Senior Member Join Date: May 2010 Location: Southern USA Posts: 51	I tend to be shy so there is usually some reluctance but pushing the boundaries and it being risky is always adds excitement to a dare SamT4225

01-31-2022, 08:05 PM	#23
barebuns Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2017 Posts: 28	For me it's not so much reluctance per se. Let me explain. I have a nudity/embarrassment fetish. Any naked shenanigans I've done weren't really dares, because the other people involved in the planning were helping me indulge my fetish. So that's not really a dare. But as for the spectators NOT involved in the planning, they thought there WAS reluctance on my part, which was the whole point. I hope all of that makes sense. When I get myself into a nude situation in front of others, I'm not getting a kinky thrill despite my embarrassment, but because of my embarrassment. That's the nature of my particular fetish. Make sense?? Can anyone else relate to these feelings? Thank you for soliciting my opinion and I hope my reply was informative. Now if I may PLEASE be allowed my clothes back, I'll be on my way. What, I have to remain nude?!? Well, if that's the way it has to be . . .

02-01-2022, 07:01 PM	#26
JamieDarkheart Member Join Date: Jan 2022 Posts: 35	I don't really like to give or receive dares that induce reluctance. Instead, I much prefer dares that force an ultimatum, a predicament. With both types of dares you can see how far a sub will go for you, which is incredibly empowering and hot!! But I prefer a more gentle approach. This approach also is actually MORE manipulative because it give the illusion of choice to the sub so they "only have themselves to blame" for the outcome. __________________ ► 21, trans girl, bi, switch Toys: handcuffs, gags, chains, rope, tape, vibrators, buttplugs, collars, dildo, nipple clamps, blindfold, ear plugs Loves: bondage, tease/denial, feminization, chastity, humiliation, exhibitionism, fear play Limits: poop, blood, public, illegal, urethral insertions, friends/family/social suicide, messy, anything loud (have roommates) Last edited by JamieDarkheart; 02-01-2022 at 07:03 PM.

03-03-2022, 05:31 AM	#28
rhl getDare Succubus Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: The Planet Earth Posts: 1,687 Blog Entries: 7	I've beenhin situations where I was truly reluctant, and forced. This truly was a turn on. However I find when I follow, without question, way more adventurous. I start out without knowing much about what I'm commenting to. __________________ My PM Dares and Likes my Kik to give or ask for a dare. I might not respond for a day or 2

03-03-2022, 06:21 AM	#29
Inexp1 getDare Sweetheart Join Date: Oct 2013 Posts: 402	I’m a bi curious guy that likes the idea of being coerced or forced into hookups through dares etc __________________ 34 M UK submissive and bi Like forced bi, humiliation, exposure Dislike watersports, scat and blood Kik subbi1985 Telegram lee856876