Do you enjoy reluctance for dares?

andrew_b · 08-05-2021, 10:59 AM

If you are either giving or receiving dares...do you like there be at least some element of reluctance on the side of the person to do the dare?

ThoughtfulPillar · 08-05-2021, 02:36 PM

I love being reluctant and then having that forced from me when someone uses my submissive triggers - I need to be broken

zephyrnem · 08-06-2021, 04:26 AM

Soooo much. Even reading this thread title got me hard. Either way is a huge turn on. A bit of fear, and extra humiliation on top...yes, please.

Yourchoice · 08-06-2021, 05:35 AM

I’d have a hard time calling it a dare if there’s no apprehension at all.

That doesn’t mean that you can’t or won’t enjoy it or that it “doesn’t count” if you really want to do it…but if there’s no apprehension at all, where’s the adventure, where’s the fun?

Just my 2 cents…

HoneyBlondie · 08-08-2021, 10:19 AM

I crave that hint of fear. The dares I read in here that scare me are usually the ones that make me drip the most.

I think a lot of submissives that do dares in here miss having a Master to control them. To push them.

I have a kink for being trained to achieve better self discipline. That journey is sometimes frustrating, but it can also be fun if someone is there to push you, keep you accountable and even better - punish or praise you. It makes even the most boring task a fun game. I crave validation. Especially from men. It motivates me to do better. For myself and for the men who get to enjoy my company.

Gai · 08-09-2021, 05:04 AM

When giving dares, I don't like reluctance. I don't like forcing others to do things and likely won't make them if they're reluctant.

When receiving dares, I like to be given something that makes me reluctant, and to be made to go through with it anyway. It makes me more aroused to be made to do things I normally wouldn't.

HairbrushMe · 08-09-2021, 06:53 AM

It’s always a rush receiving when a dare pushes things a little or when someone combines PM dares in an interesting way or adds a twist. As to giving them, I imaging most on GD feel similar and want to be pushed a little, so part of the fun is imagining that they are getting a similar thrill and moment of reluctance as they get ta dare..

rhl · 08-09-2021, 08:35 AM

A dare isn't really exciting unless there is some element of being forced. This would mean that there is some element of resistance.

My favorite dare had some resistance and excitement.
I answered a Craig's List dare.
The add wanted a male to come over. We will be in my back yard, you will be naked, and used as I please.
I ended up being tied spread eagle between two trees. My ass was spanked until very red.
Then tied to a bench, and I experienced an ass to mouth.
Then tied naked to a tree for I'm not sure how long and he went into the house. After being untied, I was forced to give him a BJ.
Was I reluctant, scared, of course, but at the same time exited. After driving to his house, I did not want to back out.

cariadferch · 08-11-2021, 10:28 AM

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Originally Posted by andrew_b

If you are either giving or receiving dares...do you like there be at least some element of reluctance on the side of the person to do the dare?

Yes, for both. The thrill of the possibility of being forced to do something forbidden is a big turn on. The strange part is, that though losing can be very arousing, when someone tries to lose, or eagerly does the dare, that is a big turn off. It's like two nudist friends playing strip poker.

Dice7 · 08-12-2021, 01:05 AM

Yes, I almost think there has to be a level of reluctance or jeopardy for a dare, otherwise its just a task you probably enjoy doing anyway

StrawDog · 08-12-2021, 08:57 AM

I started answering this questions with a bland yes, Cariadferch's answer being in pretty much direct line with how I think. However, as I thought more my answer became less simple. Maybe I've overthought.

If I'm competing with someone, there has to be an element of reluctance on both sides; loss and victory has to be exactly that, even if it's something small. The reluctance itself is arousing, but it also gives ground to grow from, and to remember. However, I either know the people I compete with well, or terms are ironclad before anything can happen.

If a task is a more casual exchange, reluctance is less of a factor; I'm more interested to see how the person responds and what they report back, if at all, and use that as a building block.

TrisPrior · 08-12-2021, 08:17 PM

Yes, I like some reluctance (on my part) but not like... too much. It helps if we work up to the hard stuff.

foxboy21 · 08-12-2021, 08:36 PM

Yes to both sides of this. Being made to do something I don't want to is often (usually?) a better feeling than being made to do something I enjoy. Plus the -anticipation- of the difficult/unpleasant task can be the best thing of all.

When giving dares, the the dare-doer doesn't need me to push them into it, then they might as well just do it without me anytime they want.

Plus, from both sides, not knowing if the dare-giver is going to choose to provide that final 'helpful' push or not is part of the tension!

rhl · 08-19-2021, 03:11 AM

Yes, I like showing a reluctance, even when knowing it will happen.
However when virtually dared, I simply bite the bullet and perform.

Sabina · 10-10-2021, 01:53 AM

Yes reluctancy is element of excitement or I tease Dom for bekomme worse for me I not know if I get explane the idea

08-05-2021, 10:59 AM	#1
andrew_b getDare Cultist (Outer Circle) Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Dublin, Ireland Posts: 11,063 Blog Entries: 20	Do you enjoy reluctance for dares? If you are either giving or receiving dares...do you like there be at least some element of reluctance on the side of the person to do the dare? __________________ *Best Truth Giver 2016 & 2017* My Real Experiences http://www.getdare.com/bbs/blog.php?b=81891 Send me a pm if you want, I'm always up for chatting to people CHECK OUT MY NEW FICTIONAL STORY "Pushed to Fantasy (On Vacation)" LINK BELOW https://www.getdare.com/bbs/showthre...00#post4465100 I've also got snapchat, kik, skype and messenger. If you want to add me just send me a pm and I'll give you my username(s)

08-05-2021, 02:36 PM	#2
ThoughtfulPillar Member Join Date: Jul 2020 Location: UK Posts: 90	I love being reluctant and then having that forced from me when someone uses my submissive triggers - I need to be broken __________________ Let me serve! Kik: nickie_j97 Weaknesses: Verbal abuse triggers my slave space. Don't let me think too much! Limits: Illegal, scat, blood

08-06-2021, 04:26 AM	#3
zephyrnem getDare Addict Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Iowa / Illinois Posts: 2,067 Blog Entries: 35	Soooo much. Even reading this thread title got me hard. Either way is a huge turn on. A bit of fear, and extra humiliation on top...yes, please. __________________ PM Dares Likes: exhibitionism, forced stripping, feet, humiliation, piss, mild to moderate pain, light xdress, tickling, mud, food, messy, dunking of all kinds, bondage, oral, anal, part time slavery Limits: scat, hard pain, blood, family, obvious/stupid public. Toys: Ball gag, plug, clothespins Clothes: Fishnet body suit, swimsuit (women’s), thong, leotard. Currently seeking Master or exhibitionist female to serve.

08-08-2021, 10:19 AM	#5
HoneyBlondie getDare Sweetheart Join Date: Jul 2019 Posts: 447 Blog Entries: 3	I crave that hint of fear. The dares I read in here that scare me are usually the ones that make me drip the most. I think a lot of submissives that do dares in here miss having a Master to control them. To push them. I have a kink for being trained to achieve better self discipline. That journey is sometimes frustrating, but it can also be fun if someone is there to push you, keep you accountable and even better - punish or praise you. It makes even the most boring task a fun game. I crave validation. Especially from men. It motivates me to do better. For myself and for the men who get to enjoy my company. __________________ ★ Female ∙ 28 ∙ Submissive ★ • click here to see my toys • likes: deepthroat training, pain, fucktoy conditioning, clit torture, being controlled. • dislikes: intense nipple pain, anal, denial, bladder control, humiliation. • limits: pics, public, permanent, messy, pussy stretching. Rate and review my reports

08-09-2021, 05:04 AM	#6
Gai Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2021 Location: Earth Posts: 212	When giving dares, I don't like reluctance. I don't like forcing others to do things and likely won't make them if they're reluctant. When receiving dares, I like to be given something that makes me reluctant, and to be made to go through with it anyway. It makes me more aroused to be made to do things I normally wouldn't. __________________ Loves: Cum Eating, Wedgies, Mild CBT, Masterbate Likes: Hidden Exposure, Moderate CBT, Edging, Games of Chance Limits: Photos of Public Dares, Blood, Serius Injury, Blackmail, Live Cam (regardless of who doing dare) I have the right to refuse any photo dare, even if not breaking a limit.

08-06-2021, 05:35 AM	#4
Yourchoice getDare Sweetheart Join Date: Aug 2018 Location: US Posts: 411	I’d have a hard time calling it a dare if there’s no apprehension at all. That doesn’t mean that you can’t or won’t enjoy it or that it “doesn’t count” if you really want to do it…but if there’s no apprehension at all, where’s the adventure, where’s the fun? Just my 2 cents…

08-09-2021, 06:53 AM	#7
HairbrushMe Distinguished Member Join Date: Nov 2015 Location: USA Posts: 521 Blog Entries: 33	It’s always a rush receiving when a dare pushes things a little or when someone combines PM dares in an interesting way or adds a twist. As to giving them, I imaging most on GD feel similar and want to be pushed a little, so part of the fun is imagining that they are getting a similar thrill and moment of reluctance as they get ta dare.. __________________ Likes: Taking orders, most spanking, being ordered to worship cock/dildos, doms of any description pushing my limits getting GD PMs Punishments/dislikes: Ruined orgasms, eating cum, heavy ball busting/CBT, rubber band snaps. Limits: Family, public, messy CREATIVE PM DARES \| SEND ME A DARE Hoping to see a PM giving me stern orders. Bend me over and break me down. If you want PMs, I will send them to you or others if ordered to.

08-09-2021, 08:35 AM	#8
rhl getDare Succubus Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: The Planet Earth Posts: 1,687 Blog Entries: 7	A dare isn't really exciting unless there is some element of being forced. This would mean that there is some element of resistance. My favorite dare had some resistance and excitement. I answered a Craig's List dare. The add wanted a male to come over. We will be in my back yard, you will be naked, and used as I please. I ended up being tied spread eagle between two trees. My ass was spanked until very red. Then tied to a bench, and I experienced an ass to mouth. Then tied naked to a tree for I'm not sure how long and he went into the house. After being untied, I was forced to give him a BJ. Was I reluctant, scared, of course, but at the same time exited. After driving to his house, I did not want to back out. __________________ My PM Dares and Likes my Kik to give or ask for a dare. I might not respond for a day or 2

08-12-2021, 01:05 AM	#10
Dice7 getDare Addict Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: London/Spain Posts: 2,425 Blog Entries: 5	Yes, I almost think there has to be a level of reluctance or jeopardy for a dare, otherwise its just a task you probably enjoy doing anyway __________________ Likes: RISK of getting caught,dice dares,skill/forfeit challenges, semi public, light humiliation, cock torture, sounding Unsure: pee, anal, pic/audio proof, dildo sucking/swallow Dislikes:light crossdress, edging/denial, extreme humiliation, full public, mild ass2mouth, ball torture Limits: Diapers, scat, full cross dress, pics/videos that identify me PM/KIK DARES https://bit.ly/2X8Od9N EXPOSE MEhttps://bit.ly/3AxE70x

08-12-2021, 08:57 AM	#11
StrawDog getDare Succubus Join Date: May 2012 Posts: 1,759 Blog Entries: 17	I started answering this questions with a bland yes, Cariadferch's answer being in pretty much direct line with how I think. However, as I thought more my answer became less simple. Maybe I've overthought. If I'm competing with someone, there has to be an element of reluctance on both sides; loss and victory has to be exactly that, even if it's something small. The reluctance itself is arousing, but it also gives ground to grow from, and to remember. However, I either know the people I compete with well, or terms are ironclad before anything can happen. If a task is a more casual exchange, reluctance is less of a factor; I'm more interested to see how the person responds and what they report back, if at all, and use that as a building block. __________________ Likes/Dislikes/Limits are in my blog 'A man’s character is most evident by how he treats those who are not in a position either to retaliate or reciprocate.' -Paul Eldridge Last edited by StrawDog; 08-12-2021 at 09:00 AM.

08-12-2021, 08:17 PM	#12
TrisPrior Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2014 Location: USA Posts: 129 Blog Entries: 1	Yes, I like some reluctance (on my part) but not like... too much. It helps if we work up to the hard stuff. __________________ 30 something, female, sub, in denial Each day I must edge once for every visitor message I have gotten so far this year! Current daily edge requirement=12 My PM dares (and toys) Loves: Teasing, Edging, Holding the Edge, Denial Likes: Pain, Spanking, Small Rules/Clothes Control Punishments: Ruined Orgasms, Anal, Buttplugs, Pussy/Clit Torture Hard Limits: Public, Messy, Pics/Cam, Blood, Risky/Illegal

08-12-2021, 08:36 PM	#13
foxboy21 Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2013 Location: England Posts: 204 Blog Entries: 1	Yes to both sides of this. Being made to do something I don't want to is often (usually?) a better feeling than being made to do something I enjoy. Plus the -anticipation- of the difficult/unpleasant task can be the best thing of all. When giving dares, the the dare-doer doesn't need me to push them into it, then they might as well just do it without me anytime they want. Plus, from both sides, not knowing if the dare-giver is going to choose to provide that final 'helpful' push or not is part of the tension! __________________ My PM dares Likes: Pain, Submission, Edges, Dares, Truths, Predicaments, Games, Squirrels, Spit Dislikes/Punishments: Eating Cum (though I can just about make myself do it), Hard pain, Denial, Puke Limit: Scat, Piss, Illegal, Public, Family, Anal, Crossdressing, Blackmail, Showing Face, Exposure Kinklist: https://i.imgur.com/a6bz1nk.png Skype: foxling69 Fox me FORADARE WAS HERE Chaostouched

08-19-2021, 03:11 AM	#14
rhl getDare Succubus Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: The Planet Earth Posts: 1,687 Blog Entries: 7	Yes, I like showing a reluctance, even when knowing it will happen. However when virtually dared, I simply bite the bullet and perform. __________________ My PM Dares and Likes my Kik to give or ask for a dare. I might not respond for a day or 2

10-10-2021, 01:53 AM	#15
Sabina Distinguished Member Join Date: Jan 2020 Location: Europe Posts: 960 Blog Entries: 27	Yes reluctancy is element of excitement or I tease Dom for bekomme worse for me I not know if I get explane the idea __________________ 36y.o genderfluid - yes it’s me in the avatar Likes: fashion style, heels,lingerie,medium anal,bondage Dislike: spanking,hard anal,sleep plugged Soft limits: pissing,breathplay,figging Limits:very explicit public,show face in pics/vids, blood,blackmail,illegal,family,scat,any dangerous Hate:who want to be right at any cost. PM DARES HERE! https://www.getdare.com/bbs/blog.php?b=95652