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09-17-2016, 01:52 PM | #1 |
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I agree, I don't blame the current mods, I just think getDare should have more mods. And I think the site would be vastly improved if they were more aggressive about sanctioning bad users.
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09-17-2016, 01:56 PM | #2 |
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I wouldn't say they should be more aggressive because it all depends on what you consider to be a "bad user."
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09-17-2016, 02:01 PM | #3 |
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While I think that offering more temporary bans or ignoring options are effective, I think that it is a temporary fix to the whole situation.
As more people continue to visit the site and newer members get interested, the problem still remains: people won't check the guidelines, read the robot-generated introduction PM, or are unaware of their actions. I think that if the community as a whole must raise awareness of the current situation. Threads like this helps those who are unaware such as I. Unfortunately, I do not have a possible solution for those who harass via pm and/or ignore the limits and dislikes in the signature. I think those types of people would have disregarded the rules anyways and use anonymity as their advantage.
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09-17-2016, 02:08 PM | #4 | |
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Ignoring the limits within signatures is an issue, but is not huge. They can easily be confronted by saying "___ is a limit of mine" and reject the dare/task/etc. Harassment through PMs is becoming more of an issue each day and is affecting peoples' view of the site I'm afraid. (Hence, why this thread was created, regarding most women of the site quitting.)
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09-17-2016, 02:13 PM | #5 | |
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09-17-2016, 02:28 PM | #6 | |
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PMs are a great tool that is used everyday for tons of people but it is a very neglected section that needs some attention regarding the issues that it surfaces.
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09-17-2016, 02:34 PM | #7 | |
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I dont like PM's here too much, just because of the weird they get if you dont delete the previous reply. And if you do you need to go looking for the previous messages, and it's pretty tiring. Also the 15pms/hour limit is a bit too small
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09-17-2016, 02:37 PM | #8 | |
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And it's 60pms/hour. They just do not want you to be spamming people with PMs.
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09-17-2016, 04:46 PM | #9 | |
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09-17-2016, 05:10 PM | #10 | |
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Some people can not take harassment as easy as you may be able to. Still paranoia is very prominent within new users, as they want communication to be strictly through PMs, and not using any other means of communication, even if it is "anonymous." I was that way and I've grown out of it a bit, but it is still there to an extent.
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09-18-2016, 06:23 AM | #11 |
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The second I joined, I got showered with unsolicited pm's. Lot of male subs, but also wannabe masters thinking they've got the domination thing down by just being rude and obscene.
The thing that makes me want to bash my head into a brick wall is when I reply I'm not interested in owning any of them because my sig clearly states I have an owner, and they answer something like: "oh well, just thought I'd give it a try"... really? Are they that dumb? It's like it's open hunting season with these guys all the time. When will they learn that desperate is the most unattractive feature.
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09-18-2016, 08:19 AM | #12 |
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I was literally thinking this maybe less than a month ago. I had a time where when I was messaging people and getting to know others, I just saw a massive ration of (m/sub/--) or whatever. And just had a feeling like. I honestly do now feel sorry for all the females that just want to enjoy this site. But with so many guys just being subs and whatnot, it's scaring a lot of females away with as stated before, all the "Please be my mistress" etc etc. I mean sure, no harm in guys being subs by all means. But so, 'so' many are just straight up rude and abusive about it because it didn't go how they wanted it. And yet half the time it's just because they want to get their jollies off or something.. Just my 2c worth on this anyways~
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09-18-2016, 10:22 AM | #13 |
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As you can see form my signature, I do get annoyed by these kind of messages. I have been sent nude photos as well as desperate please to be a mistress. I don't think I have to deal with this as much as other female users do, but I do find that when I do have to deal with it, I get annoyed and then I am not pleasant for a time following. I tend to go into B**** mode and handle it that way, or I simply choose not to respond. Either way, I think the behavior is uncalled for and it can be happening on both sides.
If you know how a woman is when she goes through the dating process, I feel that is how some of us on here figure out the guys we want to talk to and the people we may eventually want to have a d/s relationship if we want one at all. Also as a person who is not looking for anything due to the time constraints in my life, assuming everyone on this site is either a dom, sub, a switch, or some version there of, is the wrong assumption to make. My original interest in this site was just because I wanted to try some things that I have not really tried before and I wanted to have another person involved so that I didn't have to keep coming up with dares and tasks for myself. My intention when joining was not to form a d/s relationship, it was mainly to learn, read, and try new things. As far as preventing this though, I agree with others. I do not think there is an effective way to get rid of this problem especially when people do not read signatures and rules. I tried the red text in hopes that it would persuade people against contacting me throughout pm, but it has also limited the contact with people that I have at the same time.
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