What makes a good slave? - Page 2

Lucid · 06-05-2012, 09:23 AM

Thank you all for your help. I've summed everything up, read it over and over and I think you've all given me a few new aspects to look at as I continue on my journey. Thank you, if anyone still wants to throw in their input feel free.

puppyplay · 06-07-2012, 09:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Lucid

Thank you all for your help. I've summed everything up, read it over and over and I think you've all given me a few new aspects to look at as I continue on my journey. Thank you, if anyone still wants to throw in their input feel free.

I want to nommanate this for the vest threads section... It was a really good thread with a lot of points raised

Kitten · 06-10-2012, 07:29 AM

What a good sub is, is different for everybody.
If it feels that wrong or unnatural to give yourself completely in that manner, then maybe you should take that as it is and don't force it.
Being good doesn't mean doing things that go against your nature. You can do things you don't enjoy if you enjoy submitting that way, but if you don't it will most likely create difficult situations that nobody wants to be in.

Babyneedspunished · 07-05-2012, 09:06 AM

Kitten is right. Regardless of you being a slave or submissive you still need to have the option of communicating with your master on matters ESPECIALLY when there is problems on either side so you two can grow past them. Even if it's just him telling you how things are going to be and you're a slave without rights. I think the only way it would work if you didn't communicate would be if you were his slave by force like in one of the stories on getdare. Even if you have given up your rights of communication (because a slave is less than the Mistress/master) you're a human being who at the least needs to be informed and if he does his part by talking to you it should help the situation. But if there is no bond or you guys do not click on a level then it may always be the way it has been in your relationship

JEflutterby · 08-09-2012, 10:16 AM

This site is a beautiful thing.... When you weed out the worst of the hungry oppressive ... You learn that a master/sub relationship is all about building a faith and trust bind between two people... As I've seen an experienced... It is a beautiful thing... This site shows you that we are all beautiful and in need of a connection that what ever it may be "Dom" not "Dom" ... Slave not slave general care and sincerity... There are people out there... If you choose to give up "everything" then you're missing the point. You need respect for yourself to prove yourself as a good sub... That's where you will be held in the regards you are expecting... No master wants someone who can't hold the ropes so to speak... That relationship is based on trust and beauty. And down to brass tax .... You need to have balls to do it. And respect your master as he respects you for his needs... Is the eb and flo of the whole part of that play. And remember ... It IS play.... It's supposed to be fun... And a release .... Not something that drains your being.... Learn and become a woman without desparation... No offense... And then sub... A true master wants a girl who gives up her control......not one that never had any to begin with... Much love..... You can work this out... Then get into the game. <3

07-05-2012, 09:06 AM	#19
Babyneedspunished Account Banned Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: USA Posts: 32	Kitten is right. Regardless of you being a slave or submissive you still need to have the option of communicating with your master on matters ESPECIALLY when there is problems on either side so you two can grow past them. Even if it's just him telling you how things are going to be and you're a slave without rights. I think the only way it would work if you didn't communicate would be if you were his slave by force like in one of the stories on getdare. Even if you have given up your rights of communication (because a slave is less than the Mistress/master) you're a human being who at the least needs to be informed and if he does his part by talking to you it should help the situation. But if there is no bond or you guys do not click on a level then it may always be the way it has been in your relationship __________________ Switch Baby I'm not part of the Truth/Dare Lifestyle..Don't ask Me EVER!!!!!!! Last edited by Babyneedspunished; 07-05-2012 at 09:10 AM.

08-09-2012, 10:16 AM	#20
JEflutterby Member Join Date: Jun 2012 Posts: 34	Sub/slave.... Learn and listen This site is a beautiful thing.... When you weed out the worst of the hungry oppressive ... You learn that a master/sub relationship is all about building a faith and trust bind between two people... As I've seen an experienced... It is a beautiful thing... This site shows you that we are all beautiful and in need of a connection that what ever it may be "Dom" not "Dom" ... Slave not slave general care and sincerity... There are people out there... If you choose to give up "everything" then you're missing the point. You need respect for yourself to prove yourself as a good sub... That's where you will be held in the regards you are expecting... No master wants someone who can't hold the ropes so to speak... That relationship is based on trust and beauty. And down to brass tax .... You need to have balls to do it. And respect your master as he respects you for his needs... Is the eb and flo of the whole part of that play. And remember ... It IS play.... It's supposed to be fun... And a release .... Not something that drains your being.... Learn and become a woman without desparation... No offense... And then sub... A true master wants a girl who gives up her control......not one that never had any to begin with... Much love..... You can work this out... Then get into the game. <3

06-05-2012, 09:23 AM	#16
Lucid Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Posts: 57	Thank you all for your help. I've summed everything up, read it over and over and I think you've all given me a few new aspects to look at as I continue on my journey. Thank you, if anyone still wants to throw in their input feel free.

06-10-2012, 07:29 AM	#18
Kitten The One & Only Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Gehenna Posts: 1,215 Blog Entries: 2	What a good sub is, is different for everybody. If it feels that wrong or unnatural to give yourself completely in that manner, then maybe you should take that as it is and don't force it. Being good doesn't mean doing things that go against your nature. You can do things you don't enjoy if you enjoy submitting that way, but if you don't it will most likely create difficult situations that nobody wants to be in.