People are SUB/Slaves because?

marijuana · 03-20-2015, 06:58 AM

Hey
I have a question for all the subs/slaves.
I have come across a lot of slaves and I find one thing common in all, they are submissive due to a lot of reasons.
but bottom line mostly ends with depression or horrible past.
So I want to figure out with your help and show everyone why are you like this.

If you are a sub, than please vote for your reasons to be one. You can select multiple reasons.

IF you want to share your story, you are more than welcome to share your story here.

missspitfire · 03-20-2015, 07:26 AM

Sounds like you're stereotyping to me...

marijuana · 03-20-2015, 08:21 AM

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Originally Posted by missspitfire

Sounds like you're stereotyping to me...

Hey, not stereotyping, but I when you come across so many sub and they mostly have one of those reasons, makes you believe that/ So I just wan to see how much true it is.. No harm in finding the truth..
Who knows, opinions might change after this.
You can it, it basically is a survey to find reality

Dare.... · 03-20-2015, 08:22 AM

None of the above.

eivins · 03-20-2015, 08:38 AM

Maybe you should include other options besides ones that include a form of abuse/trauma?
A depressed or traumatized person isn't necessarily a submissive because they are depressed or had bad things happen to them. It doesn't have to go hand in hand. I think most people have crap in their lives. Dom/mes have these issues too.
I would be lying if I said there hasn't been issues in my life, but those issues certainly haven't led me to being submissive! The issues have made submitting HARDER because it destroys trust. It can be quite difficult to give someone that much control/trust... I'm inclined to believe that I'm submissive despite the shitty things, not because of them.

marijuana · 03-20-2015, 08:57 AM

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Originally Posted by eivins

Maybe you should include other options besides ones that include a form of abuse/trauma?
A depressed or traumatized person isn't necessarily a submissive because they are depressed or had bad things happen to them. It doesn't have to go hand in hand. I think most people have crap in their lives. Dom/mes have these issues too.
I would be lying if I said there hasn't been issues in my life, but those issues certainly haven't led me to being submissive! The issues have made submitting HARDER because it destroys trust. It can be quite difficult to give someone that much control/trust... I'm inclined to believe that I'm submissive despite the shitty things, not because of them.

Thanks for the opinion,, What options do you have in mind?

Laura_Hahn · 03-20-2015, 10:28 AM

Sounds like you're stereotyping to me too!

LitDarkness · 03-20-2015, 10:37 AM

I am a Switch but mainly submissive, yes I have had depression and do have trust issues. However, that does not make it to where I'm mainly a submissive.

And why are all these options negative.

I submit because I want to. I enjoy the loss of control. I enjoy that someone else can command me.

We can be submissive because we enjoy it you know.

asdf431 · 03-20-2015, 10:40 AM

That's pretty ignorant and offensive, dude. It implies that submission is a psychological defect, a symptom of trauma.

Stix · 03-20-2015, 12:34 PM

Not one of these statements apply. Not even "Just because I wanted to be one".

There's far more to a person than can be summed up in a quick sweeping generalising statement.

I'm not even going to go into what it is that makes me submissive. Too complex for this thread apparently...

eivins · 03-20-2015, 01:06 PM

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Originally Posted by marijuana

Thanks for the opinion,, What options do you have in mind?

Maybe no options! A poll really does seem TOO generalized. I'm not sure what to add, but I really don't know how many people would attribute submissiveness to the options you put. People are a lot more complicated than that! You could have a thread where people share why?

Quote:

Originally Posted by Stix

Not one of these statements apply. Not even "Just because I wanted to be one".

There's far more to a person than can be summed up in a quick sweeping generalising statement.

I'm not even going to go into what it is that makes me submissive. Too complex for this thread apparently...

^^ Everything you said.

Tease · 03-20-2015, 01:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Stix

Not one of these statements apply. Not even "Just because I wanted to be one".

There's far more to a person than can be summed up in a quick sweeping generalising statement.

I'm not even going to go into what it is that makes me submissive. Too complex for this thread apparently...

Agreed, there are far too many facets to what drives one to submissive desires and rarely is it one or two things that drives a person to associate themselves with being a submissive.

The list provided on this thread would try and lead people to thinking it was mostly something traumatic or abusive and that's really not the case at all.

BLiverpool · 03-20-2015, 01:42 PM

I didn't pick any from the list. Nothing negative has happened to make me sub. The closest was "because I wanted to be" but that sounds like I made a choice to be sub.

I never chose to be sub, I've had sub feelings since I was around 10 years old. Its who I am and always have been.

I love being sub though! I'm glad its the way nature made me.

jlstockton25 · 03-20-2015, 02:23 PM

I agree with everything eivins, Stix and Tease said. Being submissive isn't a side effect of trauma. Every option you've given is negative, and like others have said you can't sum up why someone is submissive in a poll option. I could say a lot more but none of it would be productive so I'm just going to stop.

sexdemon's Toilet · 03-20-2015, 03:08 PM

You're forgetting the successful business man who becomes submissive as a form of escapism.

Is anyone else here like that or is it just me?

View Poll Results: Why have you become submissive?
Depression	20	16.95%
Bullied	13	11.02%
Abused	6	5.08%
Left out by parents	10	8.47%
Sucidal	7	5.93%
Bf/GF issues	5	4.24%
Forced	2	1.69%
Tortured	1	0.85%
Horrible past/childhood	6	5.08%
Just because you wanted to be one	104	88.14%
Multiple Choice Poll. Voters: 118. You may not vote on this poll

03-20-2015, 06:58 AM	#1
marijuana Member Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Dallas Posts: 81	People are SUB/Slaves because? Hey I have a question for all the subs/slaves. I have come across a lot of slaves and I find one thing common in all, they are submissive due to a lot of reasons. but bottom line mostly ends with depression or horrible past. So I want to figure out with your help and show everyone why are you like this. If you are a sub, than please vote for your reasons to be one. You can select multiple reasons. IF you want to share your story, you are more than welcome to share your story here. __________________ Kik Paul.brady Face slapping- Spanking- Caning- Biting- Pussy and ass worship Spitting- Verbal abuse- Humiliation Name calling Degradation Sissificatiion Femdom Forced crossdressing Candles Ice Piss play Worship Domestic slavery Objectification Pet play Anal Power exchange Rules I do enjoy semi public, cars, beaches kinky fun And many more. Limits Face Blackmail Scat Last edited by marijuana; 03-20-2015 at 07:06 AM.

03-20-2015, 07:26 AM	#2
missspitfire Member Join Date: May 2014 Posts: 69	Sounds like you're stereotyping to me... __________________ 24/f/bi/Sub Owned Likes: Bladder control, clothing control, food control, forced exercise, forced orgasms, orgasm delay/denial, pee play, hidden/semi-public, wedgies, genital torture, temperature play, spanking, humiliation Dislikes: feet, scat, fire, needles, icyhot, full public, messy Hard limits: Illegal, eating/tasting scat, permanent See my results online at http://bdsmtest.org/result.php?id=626807

03-20-2015, 10:28 AM	#7
Laura_Hahn Junior Member Join Date: Apr 2014 Posts: 2	Sounds like you're stereotyping to me too! __________________ I am new here.

03-20-2015, 10:37 AM	#8
LitDarkness Truth or Dare Zealot Join Date: May 2014 Location: Earth Posts: 6,116 Blog Entries: 289	Stereotype I am a Switch but mainly submissive, yes I have had depression and do have trust issues. However, that does not make it to where I'm mainly a submissive. And why are all these options negative. I submit because I want to. I enjoy the loss of control. I enjoy that someone else can command me. We can be submissive because we enjoy it you know. __________________ M/Novisexual/24/sub Do have female parts. 30/1,603 edges+ 2 more days of denial after edges Make My Denial Harder Denial Diary 6,000th post tasks and reports Likes + Limits Stuff I Can Use for Dares BDSM Test Results PM DARES Stories & Poems Spelling or Grammar Mistake: Let Me Know Help Break My Cursing Habit Live with people and do not own toys. Keep in mind when daring me please. Not your bitch and calling me names or trying to Dom me is probitted. Violators will be declared as idiots.

03-20-2015, 08:22 AM	#4
Dare.... Account Banned Join Date: Feb 2015 Location: UK Posts: 7	None of the above.

03-20-2015, 08:38 AM	#5
eivins getDare Sweetheart Join Date: Jun 2014 Posts: 301	Maybe you should include other options besides ones that include a form of abuse/trauma? A depressed or traumatized person isn't necessarily a submissive because they are depressed or had bad things happen to them. It doesn't have to go hand in hand. I think most people have crap in their lives. Dom/mes have these issues too. I would be lying if I said there hasn't been issues in my life, but those issues certainly haven't led me to being submissive! The issues have made submitting HARDER because it destroys trust. It can be quite difficult to give someone that much control/trust... I'm inclined to believe that I'm submissive despite the shitty things, not because of them.

03-20-2015, 10:40 AM	#9
asdf431 Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2013 Location: Eastern US Posts: 158	That's pretty ignorant and offensive, dude. It implies that submission is a psychological defect, a symptom of trauma. __________________ 25 m straight switch -likes: masturbation, bondage, humiliation, orgasm control (short denial, ruined, or multiple forced), cum eating, light pain, porn, begging -dislikes: messy, chastity -limits: anal, pee, scat, blood, public, family/friends, long denial, wedgies, heavy pain, pics/cam PM me with dares or truths PM me "cum" with a number of times to cum (or amount of cum) and a time limit PM me a pic or video and I'll cum to it as many times as you say

03-20-2015, 12:34 PM	#10
Stix getDare Devil Join Date: Mar 2010 Posts: 1,018	Not one of these statements apply. Not even "Just because I wanted to be one". There's far more to a person than can be summed up in a quick sweeping generalising statement. I'm not even going to go into what it is that makes me submissive. Too complex for this thread apparently...

03-20-2015, 01:42 PM	#13
BLiverpool Distinguished Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Manchester, UK Posts: 665	I didn't pick any from the list. Nothing negative has happened to make me sub. The closest was "because I wanted to be" but that sounds like I made a choice to be sub. I never chose to be sub, I've had sub feelings since I was around 10 years old. Its who I am and always have been. I love being sub though! I'm glad its the way nature made me. __________________ 44 year old bisexual, exhibitionist, submissive male in the UK KIK: KevJackson1980 Like: being controlled, cum, public Limits: Anything toilet related, blood, body marks.

03-20-2015, 02:23 PM	#14
jlstockton25 getDare Devil Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 1,268 Blog Entries: 89	I agree with everything eivins, Stix and Tease said. Being submissive isn't a side effect of trauma. Every option you've given is negative, and like others have said you can't sum up why someone is submissive in a poll option. I could say a lot more but none of it would be productive so I'm just going to stop. __________________ 31 . F . Bi . Slave . . . darling I'm a nightmare dressed like a daydream

03-20-2015, 03:08 PM	#15
sexdemon's Toilet Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2014 Location: London Posts: 21	You're forgetting the successful business man who becomes submissive as a form of escapism. Is anyone else here like that or is it just me? __________________ I am proud to serve as Sexdemon's humble toilet slave Likes: Humiliation, messy, food, anal insertions, pet play, cross dressing (underwear only), self bondage, cum denial Tasks successfully completed: 2 Poop held in mouth: once Turd licks: 310 Toilet seats licked: 3