needs advice on homosexual cuckolding

wasatlive123 · 03-03-2018, 10:01 AM

Hello,
It's been a while since I've posted anything here so I'll keep it short and sweet.

I've been in a relationship with my partner and the love of my life for over 3 years at this point. Recently I've seen his search history and found a tone of cuckolding porn dating back fir over 2 years.

At first I was taken back by this but suddenly it clicked. Between the two of us he's always been the more submissive. I'm not really sure how to precede with this knowledge.

I'm not really sure how to confront him in this.

Any advice?

gbdare · 03-03-2018, 12:32 PM

How to confront someone on something like this is always tricky, but if you go about it from a place of love and acceptance of him, it will go as well as it can. Your options on specifically how to do that depend on you and what you're open to as much as it does on him. If you are totally opposed to the idea of cuckolding, that cuts down on your options. If you're open to it or at least neutral on the idea, it gives you more leeway on how to start the discussion. For example, if you are even open to it just as a fantasy, you might start there - having a conversation about fantasies. Then you take it from there.

If you're completely opposed to it, then I think your best bet is to (again with love and acceptance) to tell him you came across his porn history and noticed that he seemed to be interested in cuckolding. Assure him (assuming you want to stay with him) that you love him, that you're not judging him and you accept that he's turned on by that, even though you're not. Next, ask whether this is just a fantasy for him (just because he's turned on by that kind of porn doesn't mean he really wants to do it in real life), or if it's more than that. If it's just fantasy, that makes it easy. He can continue to enjoy the fantasy through porn and perhaps (if you're willing) you can incorporate some of that fantasy into your sex life (for example, get a strap-on and you can play a dual role as yourself and as a man who you are cuckolding him with). Another option is to possibly find a "virtual" cuckolding partner. That is, a guy who will go on webcam with the two of you and take a dominant role with him while you maybe act as the dom's surrogate using a strap-on or other toys.

If he has a strong desire to actually do it in real life and you don't then things get more complicated. You might be able to fill the need with the fantasy play as discussed above, but at some point, he may have a really strong desire to take it further. At that point, you have to decide what you are willing to accept. As painful as it is, sometimes you have to end a relationship to be able to move on to someone who is more compatible for each of you.

I hope these suggestions are helpful for you. Good luck!

TicklishGirlyArms · 03-04-2018, 01:35 AM

Cuckolding is quite an intense fantasy, but I'd bet if you did that to him for real he'd be heart-broken.

Then again, he might be interested in a threesome or suchlike, where he's made to watch or serve. It's not something to be 'confronted' about, per se, but it might be good to have a conversation about your fetishes and fantasies. xx

03-03-2018, 10:01 AM	#1
wasatlive123 Senior Member Join Date: May 2014 Location: Ireland Posts: 121 Blog Entries: 2	needs advice on homosexual cuckolding Hello, It's been a while since I've posted anything here so I'll keep it short and sweet. I've been in a relationship with my partner and the love of my life for over 3 years at this point. Recently I've seen his search history and found a tone of cuckolding porn dating back fir over 2 years. At first I was taken back by this but suddenly it clicked. Between the two of us he's always been the more submissive. I'm not really sure how to precede with this knowledge. I'm not really sure how to confront him in this. Any advice? __________________ Likes:Orgasm Control,Bondage,BDSM,Fendom,Petplay, Worship , Body-writing,CBT, edging, anal, ruined orgasm. PM DARES: http://www.getdare.com/bbs/blog.php?b=75344

03-03-2018, 12:32 PM	#2
gbdare Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2013 Location: San Antonio,Texas Posts: 201	How to confront someone on something like this is always tricky, but if you go about it from a place of love and acceptance of him, it will go as well as it can. Your options on specifically how to do that depend on you and what you're open to as much as it does on him. If you are totally opposed to the idea of cuckolding, that cuts down on your options. If you're open to it or at least neutral on the idea, it gives you more leeway on how to start the discussion. For example, if you are even open to it just as a fantasy, you might start there - having a conversation about fantasies. Then you take it from there. If you're completely opposed to it, then I think your best bet is to (again with love and acceptance) to tell him you came across his porn history and noticed that he seemed to be interested in cuckolding. Assure him (assuming you want to stay with him) that you love him, that you're not judging him and you accept that he's turned on by that, even though you're not. Next, ask whether this is just a fantasy for him (just because he's turned on by that kind of porn doesn't mean he really wants to do it in real life), or if it's more than that. If it's just fantasy, that makes it easy. He can continue to enjoy the fantasy through porn and perhaps (if you're willing) you can incorporate some of that fantasy into your sex life (for example, get a strap-on and you can play a dual role as yourself and as a man who you are cuckolding him with). Another option is to possibly find a "virtual" cuckolding partner. That is, a guy who will go on webcam with the two of you and take a dominant role with him while you maybe act as the dom's surrogate using a strap-on or other toys. If he has a strong desire to actually do it in real life and you don't then things get more complicated. You might be able to fill the need with the fantasy play as discussed above, but at some point, he may have a really strong desire to take it further. At that point, you have to decide what you are willing to accept. As painful as it is, sometimes you have to end a relationship to be able to move on to someone who is more compatible for each of you. I hope these suggestions are helpful for you. Good luck! __________________ I am part of the Expose Forever Challenge. If you are 18 or older (please state age when contacting me) PM me "expose yourself" for a full frontal nude picture of me, including my face. If I first answer after 24h+, then you may expose it anywhere. https://www.getdare.com/bbs/showthread.php?t=334604 I'm a friendly, fit 55 year old exhibitionist. Likes: Exhibitionism/exposure, pics, vids, light pain, light submission, light anal.

03-04-2018, 01:35 AM	#3
TicklishGirlyArms Member Join Date: Jul 2015 Location: London Posts: 38	Cuckolding is quite an intense fantasy, but I'd bet if you did that to him for real he'd be heart-broken. Then again, he might be interested in a threesome or suchlike, where he's made to watch or serve. It's not something to be 'confronted' about, per se, but it might be good to have a conversation about your fetishes and fantasies. xx