A (Not So) Simple Question

Sexy Doll · 03-27-2018, 06:23 PM

NOTE: I don't know if this is the right place to put this but I'm going to put this here anyways. If a mod or someone can move it if it is wrong, that would be greatly appreciated!

So for the longest time I have been a sissy slut. But now I feel like its ruining my relations (both sexual and non-romantic) with girls I like because I'm not the dominant of the relationship, whereas most of them are extremely submissive.

Now I know a lot of people say "Oh don't change who you are for someone" but I'm starting to get sick of being submissive and want to change into more of a dominant person.

So my question to you guys is, how do I become more dominant in my sexual personality?

RiskyFlame · 04-08-2018, 09:21 AM

Moved to the advice section. You might get more replies here.

- Be more assertive.
- Be more confident but don't be full of yourself.
- Discover your dominant side online.

pixie.dust · 04-08-2018, 09:50 AM

I think we all have a dominant and submissive side, it is simply a matter of degree.

Practice is key in working towards your goal, perhaps you could find an online submissive for the short term.
You might could try being a verse as that is always an option. Some girls are more okay with that. Just remember, it is probably more work to be the dominant as you will be in charge.

You might benefit from being in a relationship where you simply have play sessions and that is the only time you dominate her. You could even tell her to dress you up and maybe even some pegging. If you are the dominant, I don't see why you couldn't. She would follow your lead, put her in chastity and tell her she only gets out if she dresses you and peggs you.

But, you need to step up if this is what you want, they are not going to tell you to. Well... I guess they just may.

-little alexis

littlemissslave · 05-07-2018, 04:48 AM

Practice makes perfect. Just practice being more assertive and perhaps do a trial with an online sub to help practice. If they are more experienced they might be willing to help with pointers as well

JulieAllison · 05-07-2018, 05:58 AM

Coming from someone going through a lot of self discovery recently I think you need to take a step back and think about yourself for a little bit. Take the time to figure out who you are and what you really want. Are you a sissy, a boy, a girl, something else? What do you want to be? How are you most happy? Be selfish for a bit, figure yourself out, then consider who you want to be with and how you want that dynamic to be.

Jajuju · 05-07-2018, 06:28 AM

Julie gave good advice,

take a moment and ponder. Ask yourself why do you always end up attracted to girls with submissive personalities? And be honest with your partner, experiment

03-27-2018, 06:23 PM	#1
Sexy Doll Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2017 Posts: 15	A (Not So) Simple Question NOTE: I don't know if this is the right place to put this but I'm going to put this here anyways. If a mod or someone can move it if it is wrong, that would be greatly appreciated! So for the longest time I have been a sissy slut. But now I feel like its ruining my relations (both sexual and non-romantic) with girls I like because I'm not the dominant of the relationship, whereas most of them are extremely submissive. Now I know a lot of people say "Oh don't change who you are for someone" but I'm starting to get sick of being submissive and want to change into more of a dominant person. So my question to you guys is, how do I become more dominant in my sexual personality? __________________ I want to be your slut tie me up, write on me, send pics, whatever you want

04-08-2018, 09:21 AM	#2
RiskyFlame Longtime User Join Date: Mar 2014 Posts: 3,292 Blog Entries: 17	Moved to the advice section. You might get more replies here. - Be more assertive. - Be more confident but don't be full of yourself. - Discover your dominant side online. __________________ Still responsive to DMs here I've only really liked a handful of people in my life, and you've been two of them. —Hans Axgil—

04-08-2018, 09:50 AM	#3
pixie.dust Precious Gem Join Date: Sep 2017 Location: Cleaning something in a pretty little outfit :) Posts: 502 Blog Entries: 5	I think we all have a dominant and submissive side, it is simply a matter of degree. Practice is key in working towards your goal, perhaps you could find an online submissive for the short term. You might could try being a verse as that is always an option. Some girls are more okay with that. Just remember, it is probably more work to be the dominant as you will be in charge. You might benefit from being in a relationship where you simply have play sessions and that is the only time you dominate her. You could even tell her to dress you up and maybe even some pegging. If you are the dominant, I don't see why you couldn't. She would follow your lead, put her in chastity and tell her she only gets out if she dresses you and peggs you. But, you need to step up if this is what you want, they are not going to tell you to. Well... I guess they just may. -little alexis __________________ Trans Woman (she/her) \|\| Pansexual \|\| Submissive *Likes* \|\| *Limits!* Currently owned by Daddy Komodo Jones

05-07-2018, 04:48 AM	#4
littlemissslave Distinguished Member Join Date: Jun 2017 Location: england Posts: 684 Blog Entries: 13	Practice makes perfect. Just practice being more assertive and perhaps do a trial with an online sub to help practice. If they are more experienced they might be willing to help with pointers as well __________________ Likes: light orgasm control, light pain, humiliation being teased, some pet play my sofa, my bed, orgasms, corner time and being a brat Dislikes: cold, medium pain, discomfort, boredom, bladder control, Limits:extreme pain, permanent, blood, family, friends, public, pics, videos, diapers, being flicked on the nose I Am LPVs Princess

05-07-2018, 05:58 AM	#5
JulieAllison Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2018 Location: Near Reading, PA Posts: 228 Blog Entries: 25	Coming from someone going through a lot of self discovery recently I think you need to take a step back and think about yourself for a little bit. Take the time to figure out who you are and what you really want. Are you a sissy, a boy, a girl, something else? What do you want to be? How are you most happy? Be selfish for a bit, figure yourself out, then consider who you want to be with and how you want that dynamic to be. __________________ With Love, Julie Allison Submissive Sissy/Crossdresser Likes: Cross Dressing, Sissification, Edging, Blatter Control, Spanking, Hidden Public, Mild Humiliation, Some Pain Dislikes: Extreme Humiliation Limits: Illegal, Face, Scat, Permanent, Full Public

05-07-2018, 06:28 AM	#6
Jajuju Member Join Date: Sep 2017 Location: Portugal Posts: 31	Julie gave good advice, take a moment and ponder. Ask yourself why do you always end up attracted to girls with submissive personalities? And be honest with your partner, experiment __________________ M, switch, bi-curious kik: dilandaup Likes: Dares, games, risk Might try: Exposure and light blackmail games Dislikes: Usual, scat, blood, public or permanent