Ask Butterfly all the secrets!

[Butterfly]

When I first joined the site I had an AMA and it has long since been buried, but since there a whole bunch of new people here, and I have changed a lot as a person, I thought I would start a new one.

Of course I want to make this interesting .... so for every 20th post (20, 40, 60 etc.), the poster will get to choose from one of the following rewards:

1. Design a custom edge for me to complete. A report will be posted in a blog.
2. Assign me 100 spankings with the implement of their choosing.
3. They can give me 3 likes and I will design a task for them around that.
4. They can assign me a rule that I will follow for 1 week.

**All of the above are subject to the approval of Asslvr.
**You may not post twice in a row
**I am going to use the post # as the official counter for who gets the reward.

Originally Posted by Butterfly

I guess I need to clarify a little bit.

1. Custom Edge: A custom edge is ONE edge that you may dictate how I do it. You can tell me what toys to use, where to do it, etc. You can be as descriptive or vague as you want. I will write you a report of how the edge went.

2. Spankings: You can choose out of any of the implements that I own and I will have Asslvr give me 100 spankings with this.

3. Dare: If you give me three likes/dislikes off your list (yes, YOU need to choose!), I will do my best to write you a task that will incorporate all 3 of those. I will expect a report.

4. Rule: You can assign me ONE rule for a week. Please remember the difference between a rule and a task. I live a busy life and cannot have something that takes me an hour a day to do. Be creative! I like doing different things, but be mindful of my time and my limits.

[EnigmaticBunni]

What is the difference between being married to Asslvr and just being his sub and fiance?

[Butterfly]

Originally Posted by EnigmaticBunni

What is the difference between being married to Asslvr and just being his sub and fiance?

Starting with something so hard, so fast!

I honestly don't feel like being married has changed our D/s at all. Given, it has only been a week, but I really don't think it will change anything. Being married is more about our relationship as a whole. We have committed to being together forever, through thick and thin, sickness and health, etc.

However, me being his sub, is a subset of us being together. Right now it isn't even a constant. It is sort of something we do in the bedroom, rather than a 24/7 thing like we used to.

To be honest, the only change I have noticed since getting married is that I get to change my last name, and I get to call him my husband.

[HCWAM]

What is the longest that you’ve grown your hair?
What is the shortest that you’ve cut your hair?
How long is your hair now?
Was there a time when someone else made the decision or forced you to cut your hair?
Describe a time that you were upset over a haircut?
Have you ever dyed your hair?
Have you ever had bangs?
Have you ever had your head shaved partially or fully?
Have you ever had your hair cut/shaved with clippers?
Have you ever had your hair cut/shaved with a shaving razor?
Have you ever cut/shaved your own hair?
What is the worst haircut that you’ve ever gotten?
Have you ever donated your hair?
What is the longest amount of hair that you’ve ever had cut at once?
Have you ever had your haircut by a non-professional?
Have you ever cut/shaved someone else's hair, guy or girl?
Have you ever witnessed someone having a drastic haircut or headshave, and how did that make you feel?
Is the excitement of potentially having your haircut a turn on?

What is the worst thing that you’ve done to your hair?
What is the worst thing that someone else has done to your hair?
What is the worst thing that you’ve done to someone else’s hair?
What is the worst thing that you’ve witnessed done to someone else’s hair?
What is the grossest thing that’s been put in your hair?
What is the grossest thing that you’ve witnessed being put in someone else’s hair?
Have you ever had or witnessed gum being put in hair?

[imakward]

1.A song that makes you think of only good and lovely memories?

2.What is "love" for you and how you define it?

3.Favourite book you ever read ?

4.Favourite quote you will never forget?

5.What is a key element for you that holds two people together ?

6.Sunrises or Sunsets ?

[Mr. Devious]

Hi sweetie ♡

Some questions for you...

1. How many spanking are you hoping to get from your ama?

2. How many drinks did you have at the wedding?

3. Who was drunkest at the wedding?

4. Which pasta cat is your favorite?

5. Why is fettuccine so hungry?

6. Why do you always want me to wear panties?

7. Can I have some back scratchies?

8. What food do you like more than nachos?

9. What do you want for our first anniversary presant?

10. Who's the best husband ever???

[Butterfly]

Originally Posted by imakward

1.A song that makes you think of only good and lovely memories?
Bubbly by Colbie Collait. This is the song that Asslvr and I danced to at our wedding. I have always liked this song, and when him and I first started talking, I was actually playing around and recorded the song to send to my best friend (it is just something we do), but instead of clicking on her name, I clicked on his. I was mortified! He promised he wouldn't listen but he really wanted to. I felt bad and so I let him listen and he really liked it and said I have a sweet voice (which isn't true at all!). It kind of became our song. Then on our first valentines day, he recorded himself singing part of the song for me. It was the sweetest thing he could have done and meant so much to me, especially since it was terrible lol.

2.What is "love" for you and how you define it?
I think that love is undefinable. It is something that cannot be explained by reason or science. It is something that is felt differently for everybody.

One of my favorite definitions of love comes from the bible, and we actually used it as a reading at our wedding:
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails."

I also recently wrote this blog about what love is. I feel like love is not one thing, but a collection of little things.


3.Favourite book you ever read ?
This question might be even more difficult than the definition of love ... I am going to cheat and say that the Harry Potter series is my favorite book. It is something that I can read over and over again.
and I love that is so magical.

4.Favourite quote you will never forget?
"Be the change you wish to see in the world". This has always been my favorite quote and it is something that I try to live by.
I feel like we need to set an example for how we wish people to act and treat us.

5.What is a key element for you that holds two people together?
Communication. Without communication you cannot have trust or intimacy or any of the other elements that make a relationship thrive. Asslvr and I learned a lot about communication since we lived across the country from each other for a full year. If we didn't communicate,
we never would have survived.

6.Sunrises or Sunsets ?

I love them both, but I am not a morning person.
I also think that sunsets can be so much more intense. Both are very magical and romantic.

[Butterfly]

Originally Posted by HCWAM

What is the longest that you’ve grown your hair?Just past my shoulders.

What is the shortest that you’ve cut your hair?
Just to below my ears.

How long is your hair now?
Shoulder length.

Was there a time when someone else made the decision or forced you to cut your hair?
No. As a child I always wanted short hair and my dad wouldn't let me cut it.

Describe a time that you were upset over a haircut?
I don't remember ever being upset about a hair cut.

Have you ever dyed your hair?
Yes. Many times.

Have you ever had bangs?
Yes, but not in a long time.

Have you ever had your head shaved partially or fully?
Never.

Have you ever had your hair cut/shaved with clippers?
No.

Have you ever had your hair cut/shaved with a shaving razor?
No.

Have you ever cut/shaved your own hair?
Yes, when I was little I cut a few chunks out of my own hair. As an adult, I have also trimmed my bangs a bit.

What is the worst haircut that you’ve ever gotten?
When I cut my own hair as a child.

Have you ever donated your hair?
No, it has never been long enough.

What is the longest amount of hair that you’ve ever had cut at once?
4 or 5 inches

Have you ever had your haircut by a non-professional?
My best friend once tried cutting my hair.

Have you ever cut/shaved someone else's hair, guy or girl?
I helped my brother use the trimmers on his hair.

Have you ever witnessed someone having a drastic haircut or headshave, and how did that make you feel?
My brother recently cut his shoulder length hair. Half was buzzed off and just left a long part on the top.

Is the excitement of potentially having your haircut a turn on?
Not really.

What is the worst thing that you’ve done to your hair?
Got gum stuck in it.

What is the worst thing that someone else has done to your hair?
My best friend cutting it.

What is the worst thing that you’ve done to someone else’s hair?
Nothing ...

What is the worst thing that you’ve witnessed done to someone else’s hair?


What is the grossest thing that’s been put in your hair?
Baby puke

What is the grossest thing that you’ve witnessed being put in someone else’s hair?
Maple syrup

Have you ever had or witnessed gum being put in hair?

Yes. I fell asleep with gum in my mouth and woke up with it in my hair.

[Bobcat]

1. what is the wildest dare you ever did
2. have you ever been nude in group
3. would you ever do a dice roll to see what you wear to a party if nude was in there
4. do you like micro mini skirts
5, what side do like the most dom or slave
6, would you dress a guy up as women and take them to a bar
7. would you put a guy on cam dress a guy up as women
8. what is the worse thing you gave a guy to do
9. what is a secret you like to keep away from everyone
10. are those your legs

[substorm]

Is there certain personalities that you tend to get along with more than others?

What are the biggest things you look for in a person when making new friends?

[Butterfly]

Originally Posted by substorm

Is there certain personalities that you tend to get along with more than others? I tend to get along well with others who are laid back, drama free, fun to be around, not too serious, but who are smart and caring and supportive.

What are the biggest things you look for in a person when making new friends?

I look for a lot of the above qualities. I don't like people who are self absorbed or selfish. When I am friends with somebody, I will go above and beyond to be there for them and do whatever I can for them. I need somebody who won't take advantage of that and who will do their best to return the same thing to me.

Also somebody who I can do fun things with, but who I can also be comfortable around to just sit and do nothing together.

[Jaro]

Hello Butterfly. Some questions for you which I hope you like.

1. Which is your favorite Disney movie and why?
2. Which is your least favorite Disney movie and why?
3. Why do you love Eeyore so much?
4. Donald Duck or Mickey Mouse and why that choice?
5. Did you know Donald Duck always has his ass exposed, unless he goes swimming?
6. Why did you choose to show your online status now?

[lotusdriver81]

What place in the world would you most like to visit and why?

[Butterfly]

Originally Posted by Jaroface

Hello Butterfly. Some questions for you which I hope you like.
They were lovely questions.


1. Which is your favorite Disney movie and why?
That is WAY too hard. I think Lion King would be pretty close to the top of my list. But Fox and the Hound is also near the top of my list.

2. Which is your least favorite Disney movie and why?
I have never watched it, but it seems pretty boring: Pirates of the Caribean.

3. Why do you love Eeyore so much?
Because he cute. And he is depressed, but his friends love him anyways. And he always seems like he just needs an extra friend and snuggle.

4. Donald Duck or Mickey Mouse and why that choice?
Donald Duck. To be honest neither are my favorites,
but I think Donald is funny.

5. Did you know Donald Duck always has his ass exposed, unless he goes swimming?
I did know that. Weird right?

6. Why did you choose to show your online status now?

There wasn't really a lot of thought put into it. I just thought maybe I would let it show me online for a bit. I turned it off originally because I would get crazy messages when I signed in. But now that I am a mod, I don't get as many.

[Butterfly]

Originally Posted by Bobcat

1. What is the wildest dare you ever did I honestly don't do a lot of dares, so I will choose a task that I did for Asslvr. I wore a butt plug into the hot tub at a hotel while I was there alone, with ice inside ... my girl parts. Scariest task I have ever done.

2. have you ever been nude in group
I don't do nudity like ever. I will send photos occasionally, but the only person who ever sees me completely naked is Asslvr.

3. would you ever do a dice roll to see what you wear to a party if nude was in there
Never

4. do you like micro mini skirts
No. I do not have the body to pull that off.

5, what side do like the most dom or slave
I have 0% slave in me. I am a sub and a domme. I don't think I could choose between the two as they both make me feel different. If I had to choose to give one up forever, it would be being a Domme.

6, would you dress a guy up as women and take them to a bar
No that is of no interest to me.

7. would you put a guy on cam dress a guy up as women
Again, that has no interest to me.

8. what is the worse thing you gave a guy to do
It depend on what you mean by "worst". Most painful?
most humiliating? most sadistic thing?

9. what is a secret you like to keep away from everyone
I like to keep my family situation a secret from most people.

10. are those your legs

Yes. That is me! Both my avatar and profile picture are of me.