collars

damned_virus · 10-22-2007, 08:20 AM

My mistress recently gifted me with a collar, As this is a common way, in the BDSM world, to show ownership, I am curious as to who else has a collar? and what are peoples views on it???

dared to perfection · 10-22-2007, 09:38 AM

i would only wear a collar in an offline relationship with a mistress otherwise putting it on and taking it off freely on cam is just not the same symbolism of ownership.

batman420 · 10-22-2007, 10:44 AM

I am currently working for my collar from my Mistress. It is very common in the BDSM to show ownership.

RecklessDemonic · 11-04-2007, 12:41 AM

A collar will show ownership over someone, it also shows a a feeling of love dare I say. When a Master/Mistress gives their slave a collar it means many of things, it is also like a contract. It means many things to many diffrent people. To me it means this:
1. Love between the Dom and sub
2. Trust
3. Comitment (spelled wrong)
4. Honor
5. Ownership
On the offline/online thing it all depends on how much your trust your slave to wear his/her collar. Like my little one if I told her to wear it 24/7 I know she would, but I have enough love and respect for her to know that she knows who she belongs to and that she shouldn't have to wear it all the time and lets her get along with her college life without too much hastle.

Traveler · 11-14-2007, 07:54 PM

Most is correct above. The BDFSM lifestyle uses collars and the true reasons for collars are as individual as the Owners. Some are the mark of ownership, others to show the world they are lesser. Some are the same as a wedding ring to certain couples.

Even the materials be it leather for common market or work slave. Metals as well show worth with in the slave system. Brass/Bronze, Copper, Steel, Silver or even gold could denote the worth of a slave or status. Cold iron as well primitive and simple but does something subconscious when looked at.

Gor culture is a example of a metal color of round stock and almost hidden closer are becoming more and more seen.

Be it bought at a pet store or made by hand it has a meaning when put on. But the frist question one should ask when seeing one is "fashion or lifestyle" that will put you at least in the correct area when asking about it. Gothic of to day abuse the collar turning it in to a jewelry fashion accessory. So ask before putting foot in mouth, and guessing or judging, perhaps you will learn and be more for it.

TheLittleStrawberry · 11-15-2007, 02:48 AM

In some way... The goths turning collars into fashion is quite convenient for those who want to keep their collars on in public, but not have people know about their life style...

"Just a fashion statement", eh?

Traveler · 11-15-2007, 05:46 AM

Yes, Strawberry that is correct. And yet with the question of "fashion or lifestyle " it automatically defines which is which and allows one to know and understand, becoming educated of the person's thoughts and ideas. Instead of stereotyping and classifications. Yes, it is a way to conceal lifestyle at times. But so is the wrist shackle that looks like a bracelet, carrying in a purse vice wearing it. There are many ways to conceal. Even the ribbon choker or short chain necklaces. Take your pick and then watch as you go out look and see how many ways to conceal and then how many you find in service vice fashion it may be interesting.

10-22-2007, 08:20 AM	#1
damned_virus Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 71	collars My mistress recently gifted me with a collar, As this is a common way, in the BDSM world, to show ownership, I am curious as to who else has a collar? and what are peoples views on it??? __________________ Its dangerous to be right when those in power are wrong

11-04-2007, 12:41 AM	#4
RecklessDemonic Account Banned Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 6	A collar will show ownership over someone, it also shows a a feeling of love dare I say. When a Master/Mistress gives their slave a collar it means many of things, it is also like a contract. It means many things to many diffrent people. To me it means this: 1. Love between the Dom and sub 2. Trust 3. Comitment (spelled wrong) 4. Honor 5. Ownership On the offline/online thing it all depends on how much your trust your slave to wear his/her collar. Like my little one if I told her to wear it 24/7 I know she would, but I have enough love and respect for her to know that she knows who she belongs to and that she shouldn't have to wear it all the time and lets her get along with her college life without too much hastle. __________________ Love Me, Kiss Me, Kill Me. Master of slavesixx

11-14-2007, 07:54 PM	#5
Traveler Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Truck, trailer, tent, Renn Faire East Coast Posts: 125 Blog Entries: 4	Collars Most is correct above. The BDFSM lifestyle uses collars and the true reasons for collars are as individual as the Owners. Some are the mark of ownership, others to show the world they are lesser. Some are the same as a wedding ring to certain couples. Even the materials be it leather for common market or work slave. Metals as well show worth with in the slave system. Brass/Bronze, Copper, Steel, Silver or even gold could denote the worth of a slave or status. Cold iron as well primitive and simple but does something subconscious when looked at. Gor culture is a example of a metal color of round stock and almost hidden closer are becoming more and more seen. Be it bought at a pet store or made by hand it has a meaning when put on. But the frist question one should ask when seeing one is "fashion or lifestyle" that will put you at least in the correct area when asking about it. Gothic of to day abuse the collar turning it in to a jewelry fashion accessory. So ask before putting foot in mouth, and guessing or judging, perhaps you will learn and be more for it.

11-15-2007, 02:48 AM	#6
TheLittleStrawberry getDare Devil Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: somewhere Posts: 1,142 Blog Entries: 15	In some way... The goths turning collars into fashion is quite convenient for those who want to keep their collars on in public, but not have people know about their life style... "Just a fashion statement", eh? __________________ My dares are bigger than your dares! Im doing dares again If you wanna send one, you can PM me, but I'll probably hang around the dare threads as well. Limits: I wont ingest anything nasty, Nothing messy that will ruin my furniture or belongings, nothing public, nothing illegal. most humiliating dare: I was dared not to remove my panties at all for a few days. Not even for bathroom duties, and to cut a little hole for 'nr 2' as I couldnt remove them . It was strange.

11-15-2007, 05:46 AM	#7
Traveler Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Truck, trailer, tent, Renn Faire East Coast Posts: 125 Blog Entries: 4	Fashion Yes, Strawberry that is correct. And yet with the question of "fashion or lifestyle " it automatically defines which is which and allows one to know and understand, becoming educated of the person's thoughts and ideas. Instead of stereotyping and classifications. Yes, it is a way to conceal lifestyle at times. But so is the wrist shackle that looks like a bracelet, carrying in a purse vice wearing it. There are many ways to conceal. Even the ribbon choker or short chain necklaces. Take your pick and then watch as you go out look and see how many ways to conceal and then how many you find in service vice fashion it may be interesting.

10-22-2007, 09:38 AM	#2
dared to perfection getDare Devil Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: the best parts of the UK Posts: 1,090 Blog Entries: 1	i would only wear a collar in an offline relationship with a mistress otherwise putting it on and taking it off freely on cam is just not the same symbolism of ownership.

10-22-2007, 10:44 AM	#3
batman420 Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 27	I am currently working for my collar from my Mistress. It is very common in the BDSM to show ownership.