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04-05-2019, 11:41 AM | #1 |
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Needing support after a bdsm breakup
I just got out of my first serious and first bdsm relationship, and I’m heartbroken. My master has left me for a variety of reasons, mostly that are just his own personal problems that he needs to sort out. But, I feel betrayed because he swore he loved me and I was ready to give up my whole life and be fully his. Then the break happened, literally the day before I was going to leave with him. My trust has been destroyed, and I don’t know what to do. I was wondering if anyone who had been in similar situations had any advice.
Thank you <3
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04-05-2019, 11:49 AM | #2 |
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Hello!
I don't know your exact situation, but in general trust is difficult to build and easy to destroy. To me it sounds like he wasn't either ready for serious commitment. This is unfortunately common thing - and (it's just my personal opinion) it's never worth sacrificing your life for someone else. With that aside, try to look at it that way: Imagine if he had a change of mind later, when you were completely dependent on him. Or if your relation turned abusive and harmful. It is safer for you that it ended now, than later with much more severe consequences. I know it's hard for you now, but it will get better with time - I'm sure of that!
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04-06-2019, 08:13 AM | #3 |
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I'm sorry you've had such a bad experience. Being let down just before taking things to the next stage must be very difficult but it sounds like it was a step he ultimately couldn't make. I've just recently got out of a BDSM breakup too and it is upsetting as you often give up little pieces of your life (even though mine was purely online). I think all you can do is try to learn from the experience (like my first dom I was far too trusting, something not to repeat again), allow yourself to recover and try to move on at whatever speed you're comfortable with. Time really is the best healer, it just moves ever so slowly when you want to skip the upsetting times and all too fast that you barely notice the good times.
This blog helped me a little although it might not exactly apply in your situation: https://www.getdare.com/bbs/blog.php?b=89452
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04-06-2019, 08:45 AM | #4 |
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Break ups happen and they are hard. But, you'd rather him tell you now instead of before the next step, right? Also, this is weird way of looking at things but, just because someone breaks up with you doesn't mean they don't love you. The saying "If you love something, set it free." is a saying for a reason.
Like Jessica said, you can take what you experienced in this relationship and learn from it. You can learn from goid relationships just as much as you learn from bad relationships. Yes, they are hard as submission takes a lot. And as Jessica said, you give pieces of your life away. I'll never claim a break up is easy. Take all the time you need to heal.
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