Help make getdare a more gender friendly place

Princess Tally · 01-01-2015, 07:27 PM

I have been a member of getdare for some time now and in my time i have received my fair share of dares and truths ect ect ,but i have also encountered alot of offensiveness usually passed by unnoticed by others. such as words like sissy and tranny , now these words may be only offensive to transgender people like myself but it still hurts too see them being waved around so effortlessly, also games like boys vs girls or boys can only answer this and girls can only answer that , as a transgender or someone currently questioning their gender it can be very disheartening to want to join in a fun game only to be asked what have you shoved up your pussy? or how big are your boobs? You see i love answering truths and you can just say oh dont answer those answer something else , but it just the plain fact that i am restricted from answering questions for my gender just because i dont fit the social norm of that gender , another form of gender hate i have ran across is someone being mad because their sub was only pretending to be a girl , without actually questioning them to see if they were actually a girl with a masculine body. Anyway i could say more but id like to hear what you think about this? Do you think that we should try and make getdare a little more gender friendly or do you think we should carry on as we are and if someone gets offended thats theirnown fault for being on this site in the first place.
Ps im sorry about the grammer and zero paragraphs but im on my phone writing this.

Conviction · 01-02-2015, 02:32 AM

normally I would agree with you %100. but this site is a bit different, let me explain why
annonimity, when you are a straight male who is developing a relationship with a sub, only to later find out that they do not have the body you thought they did, its a huge downer, you are simply not attracted to them the thing is, ive done this my self, let me make this clear
I AM BI CURIOUS
i like guys (cute ones mainly) but I also strongly prefer the female body, though dicks dont get in the way too much for me, but when someone posts that they are female and you begin talking to them in a sexual way because of that (this is a sexual site) then it becomes a sort of deception, the one being talked to feels betrayed, this dosnt happen when talking face to face, as usually the differences are visible.

this leads into my second point, this is inherently a site about sex, like it or not, and sex involves genitals, which become rather important when you consider that sex is simply mashing naughty bits together. on a site like this, female is basically shorthand for "i have a pussy and boobs, not a schlong"

Final word.
You can be as female as you want, but you should probably have a warning in your signature, something that says "I have a penis" (less blatantly if you want) if you are busting a wiener but are female. not to announce it, but to make sure that the people who want to give you dares, and have a relationship with you know before they decide to go balls deep (pardon the expression) this will stop the confusion, it will stop most of the accidental discrimination, and the people here are really nice it will probably stop it outright.

these are just my thoughts on the subject, i would be happy to chat more though, have a nice day!

Cstelle · 01-02-2015, 04:13 AM

Aren't words like "sissy" or "tranny" primarily used as part of self-humiliation play here on gD?

I may be wrong - but that's how I read it. I don't think anyone on gD wants to offend anyone based on sex, gender, sexuality or lack of. Glass houses, and all that...

But yes, I see that the use of certain expressions may cause offence. It's not a small problem - but I don't know how to solve it.

Jah Brother · 01-02-2015, 04:29 AM

You might be interested in this discussion: http://www.getdare.com/bbs/showthread.php?t=186878
It got trashed, so you would want to make sure this discussion wouldn't look alike too much

Also the part where you say: ''also games like boys vs girls or boys can only answer this and girls can only answer that''; 90% of the time there is an equal minded truth/dare for the opposite gender. Tease and denied by girls, is also a tease and denied by guys. Etc.

Cstelle · 01-02-2015, 04:52 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jah Brother

You might be interested in this discussion: http://www.getdare.com/bbs/showthread.php?t=186878
It got trashed, so you would want to make sure this discussion wouldn't look alike too much

Yoiks! [Closing the door quietly, hoping no-one noticed he was even in.]

Jah Brother · 01-02-2015, 04:56 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cstelle

Yoiks! [Closing the door quietly, hoping no-one noticed he was even in.]

Sowwy! I just think it's a very related discussion.

01-01-2015, 07:27 PM	#1
Princess Tally Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2014 Location: In your wallet Posts: 153 Blog Entries: 1	Help make getdare a more gender friendly place I have been a member of getdare for some time now and in my time i have received my fair share of dares and truths ect ect ,but i have also encountered alot of offensiveness usually passed by unnoticed by others. such as words like sissy and tranny , now these words may be only offensive to transgender people like myself but it still hurts too see them being waved around so effortlessly, also games like boys vs girls or boys can only answer this and girls can only answer that , as a transgender or someone currently questioning their gender it can be very disheartening to want to join in a fun game only to be asked what have you shoved up your pussy? or how big are your boobs? You see i love answering truths and you can just say oh dont answer those answer something else , but it just the plain fact that i am restricted from answering questions for my gender just because i dont fit the social norm of that gender , another form of gender hate i have ran across is someone being mad because their sub was only pretending to be a girl , without actually questioning them to see if they were actually a girl with a masculine body. Anyway i could say more but id like to hear what you think about this? Do you think that we should try and make getdare a little more gender friendly or do you think we should carry on as we are and if someone gets offended thats theirnown fault for being on this site in the first place. Ps im sorry about the grammer and zero paragraphs but im on my phone writing this. __________________ No limits just a cunt with no brains 21/dumb whore/england Teamveiwer is always open 24/7 TV: ID: 769 433 925 Pass: dumbass Teamviewer phone is also available but please send me a message beforehand because i have to keep the app open for it to work ID:1251 870 327 no password I'll do anything for attention even leave my bank detail open on my pc My Blog

01-02-2015, 02:32 AM	#2
Conviction Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2013 Location: Take a globe and spin it, point to a given square mile and I will say yes/no Posts: 154	normally I would agree with you %100. but this site is a bit different, let me explain why annonimity, when you are a straight male who is developing a relationship with a sub, only to later find out that they do not have the body you thought they did, its a huge downer, you are simply not attracted to them the thing is, ive done this my self, let me make this clear I AM BI CURIOUS i like guys (cute ones mainly) but I also strongly prefer the female body, though dicks dont get in the way too much for me, but when someone posts that they are female and you begin talking to them in a sexual way because of that (this is a sexual site) then it becomes a sort of deception, the one being talked to feels betrayed, this dosnt happen when talking face to face, as usually the differences are visible. this leads into my second point, this is inherently a site about sex, like it or not, and sex involves genitals, which become rather important when you consider that sex is simply mashing naughty bits together. on a site like this, female is basically shorthand for "i have a pussy and boobs, not a schlong" Final word. You can be as female as you want, but you should probably have a warning in your signature, something that says "I have a penis" (less blatantly if you want) if you are busting a wiener but are female. not to announce it, but to make sure that the people who want to give you dares, and have a relationship with you know before they decide to go balls deep (pardon the expression) this will stop the confusion, it will stop most of the accidental discrimination, and the people here are really nice it will probably stop it outright. these are just my thoughts on the subject, i would be happy to chat more though, have a nice day! Last edited by Conviction; 01-02-2015 at 02:36 AM.

01-02-2015, 04:13 AM	#3
Cstelle gD Curio Join Date: Oct 2014 Location: The Norf. ("Lots of planets have a Norf!") Posts: 965 Blog Entries: 166	Aren't words like "sissy" or "tranny" primarily used as part of self-humiliation play here on gD? I may be wrong - but that's how I read it. I don't think anyone on gD wants to offend anyone based on sex, gender, sexuality or lack of. Glass houses, and all that... But yes, I see that the use of certain expressions may cause offence. It's not a small problem - but I don't know how to solve it. __________________ /Male, fairly weird - and old like Morrissey and Madonna I'm especially keen on hidden/semi public stuff (preferably outdoors) and I like to take selfies; I'm averse to anything unethical, illegal, harmful, painful, messy/dirty/unsanitary/icky or otherwise unpleasant.

01-02-2015, 04:29 AM	#4
Jah Brother Distinguished Member Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: The Netherlands Posts: 620 Blog Entries: 3	You might be interested in this discussion: http://www.getdare.com/bbs/showthread.php?t=186878 It got trashed, so you would want to make sure this discussion wouldn't look alike too much Also the part where you say: ''also games like boys vs girls or boys can only answer this and girls can only answer that''; 90% of the time there is an equal minded truth/dare for the opposite gender. Tease and denied by girls, is also a tease and denied by guys. Etc.