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Old 12-25-2012, 06:31 PM   #1
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I'm new to this lifestyle and I love it. I feel complete now. My master is amazing and way too good for me. I try to do anything and everything to please him and I usually succeed. Tonight he ordered a picture of me in the nude. I did as I was told. He got angry because he thought it was a gallery photo. It wasn't and I told him so. I accepted and carried out my punishment as I was told because I will do anything for my master. He said he was still disappointed with me.
I can't bare the thought of my master being unhappy. What do I do?

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Old 12-25-2012, 06:38 PM   #2
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He got angry because he thought it was a gallery photo.
You mean he thought it wasn't really you, that you downloaded it from somewhere? He can have you write something unique on paper, or even your own body, to prove it wasn't a downloaded photo of someone else.

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I will do anything for my master.
Just make sure to stay firm on your limits. Very important for safety, as even the most vigilant masters and slaves can get carried away from time to time.
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Old 12-25-2012, 06:45 PM   #3
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If trust is lost over such an act, you are too good for him and move on.
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Old 12-25-2012, 06:45 PM   #4
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Look, it's visible that you are new to the lifestyle. Get rid of the master, or at the very least have a very, very serious talk with him. Love and trust are important aspects of every 24/7 full control BDSM relationship, which it seems to me that you have. If he doesn't trust you, than all other parts are futile.
I understand the way you fell right now. He's probably the first master you've ever had. But I will ask you to remember the first boyfriend you had. You probably also thought that he's the best, and that only he can fulfill you. And than you found out he wasn't the only one, and probably wasn't the best one, either.
You must be your own priority. Never, ever, put anyone, including your master, in front of yourself. I understand that this is a minor situation, but in a relationship that involves so much power exchange, even a minor incident is serious. You must be able to trust your master with your life. And, what's more important, he must be able to trust you with his.
I can't give you specific advice on what to do. It's really... up to you. You could just send him a photo of yourself with something he required written on it, but that would be avoiding the real problem of the situation. There are many... much, much to many wannabe masters out there. Those that do not understand what BDSM is about. Make sure that your master isn't one of those.
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Old 12-25-2012, 06:55 PM   #5
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^Yes. Much better answers guys.
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Old 12-25-2012, 07:06 PM   #6
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Thanks guys, I just want to show that I would never do anything to displease him. It just hurts that he punished me when I did nothing wrong
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Old 12-25-2012, 07:10 PM   #7
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Thanks guys, I just want to show that I would never do anything to displease him. It just hurts that he punished me when I did nothing wrong
We all know that. We also know that mental pain hurts much more than physical. Let yourself be controlled, if you want, but never let yourself be bullied.
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Old 12-25-2012, 08:21 PM   #8
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It sucks and it hurts everyone when an asshole pulls this shit, it give others in this life stile a bad name and the trauma it deals to the sub can be lethal
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Old 12-26-2012, 12:36 AM   #9
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All the answers previously given in this thread are relevant to the situation you describe.


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Thanks guys, I just want to show that I would never do anything to displease him. It just hurts that he punished me when I did nothing wrong
I want to react on the quote above, out of its context:

It is the masters/mistresses prerogative to punish you whenever he/she desires to do so, for whatever reason.
The master/mistress is always right, even when he/she is wrong.


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There is always Monty Python: Look on the bright side of life. If he thinks your picture is to beautiful to be real, isn't that an enormous compliment?
Some slaves get punished for being fat; you get punished for being beautiful. What is the difference?
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Old 12-26-2012, 01:56 AM   #10
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as long as you know in your mind it real and no fake then that the main thing
i might be just the picture (maybe he was hoping for some else(depend what your doing in the photo) or was not what he was expecting) talk to him about it if doesnt want to then you got to coices ether forget about it and move on or tell him he not right for you and find someone else
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Old 12-26-2012, 02:23 AM   #11
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It is the masters/mistresses prerogative to punish you whenever he/she desires to do so, for whatever reason.
The master/mistress is always right, even when he/she is wrong.
Bullshit, there are relationships that work like that, and that is fine. But to see that as general rule is wrong in so many regards.
If it was not clear and wanted from both sides that a punishment is given for undeserved things (making the punishment pointless after all) this punishment can be very disturbing for a submissive that has as main goal to please as good as she can.
A Master should be aware of the psychological effects these things have on a sub, and be very clear what was wrong and explain it, in detail. Especially with someone new to this.
And masters make failures! We are human ...

To Beautifulsub:
To answer your question fully i would need to know more about how your dynamic works, but i agree with some general ideas others have mentioned.

Talk with your master about it. Tell him that this punishment disturbed you and that you did not understand it.
Maybe he is not aware of the fact that you did not understand it.
Maybe he thinks like Boris and you two need to adjust your dynamic, in the way that you understand that he will punish you for no real reason beside of being a mean, and if that does not work for you that you have to maybe split.
As you are new there is also the option you never talked about exactly how the dynamic works for you, then you should do that. Make clear to him that you accept punishments if you did something wrong but that he has to be clear about what was wrong and that he makes sure you actually did something wrong. That does not mean he cant order you "funishments" but that he needs to be clear to separate these mentally from "you disappointed me".

If he is not ready to talk about it or get angry about it, leave... i know that is hard and i know you don't want that, but M/s is not about abusing a person, it is about fulfilling the needs of all parties involved. A master that is not able or willing to listen to you is not worth the title.
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