I lost my sub yesterday :(

andrew_b · 05-17-2011, 05:52 AM

Hi as some of you may or may not know I have a sub or at least had one until yesterday.

We had our relationship since january and it was going well. The reason it ended was because her husband found out about it. He done some searching on the net and it wasn't actually that hard for him. It seems in his eyes i'm the worst guy in the world and thats understandable, also i don't blame him.

What is worse though is that it seems we our going to lose our friendship because of this. It's a really shame cause we've gotten real close over the last while. Her husband seems so ignorant to the s&m lifestyle and from what she tells me, he just thinks it's something weird and wrong. It's just something he doesn't understand though.

I really hope it's possible for us to stay friends and maybe even keep our s&m relationship going but the first seems bleak and second seems impossible.

I know if people comment on this you might think i'm the bad person, depending on your stance towards bdsm and cheating but I just want you think of this before you comment. Over the last couples of weeks I have slowly but surely got her to cut down on her smoking habits and over the last week and this week she hadn't smoked at all. My plan was to work on her weight next and you can't tell me thats a bad thing.

Anyway I needed somewhere to let this out, since I couldn't fully tell my real friends cause it's online friend thing and also seems my online friends have deserted me when I needed someone to talk to, thanks for reading

fred&ted · 05-17-2011, 11:27 AM

Thats a shame... I hope her husband gets over it and you guys can still be friends.

sweetsong · 05-17-2011, 01:08 PM

I've been chased off by jealous partners for a lot less serious things. ):

People are insecure and/or don't think their partner is giving them enough time and attention.

They'll have to work it out together.

Master92 · 05-17-2011, 01:21 PM

Sorry to heat about your loss man hope it all works out for you

andrew_b · 05-17-2011, 06:13 PM

yeah talked to her today and she says it might be possible to stay friends and maybe even keep our s&m relationship going too

Slut-laura · 05-18-2011, 12:35 PM

Thats good. I hope it can work for you. But I hope she doesn't Lise her husband though.

andrew_b · 05-23-2011, 10:46 AM

Yeah it's a kinda tricky situation laura, in one sense i want to stay her dom and help her but i also don't want to cause a massive fight between her and husband

nellybell · 05-23-2011, 11:31 AM

That's quite an unfortunate situation for the both of you. If she continues she risks her marriage but of she doesn't she pretty much has to completely deny that part of her because her husband deeply disapproves. Then you torn between those two senerios.

I hope things turn out good. Best of luck.

andrew_b · 06-01-2011, 10:27 AM

Yeah and now we are hardly talking so it's getting harder and harder to keep the relationship going

jamness · 06-01-2011, 05:06 PM

Sorry about that :/ I know I'm like two weeks late but hopefully you'll have made up by now! :P If you havn't then all I can say is try and stay in touch with her via email or anything like that, maybe someday it'll work again.

slaveboy82 · 06-01-2011, 06:18 PM

sorry to hear that. i hate it whne vanilla people judge others like that. he is the one that is ignorant to differences in people. i mean what would the world be like with out freaky people that are into so called wrong or weird stuff.

05-17-2011, 05:52 AM	#1
andrew_b getDare Cultist (Outer Circle) Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Dublin, Ireland Posts: 11,069 Blog Entries: 20	I lost my sub yesterday :( Hi as some of you may or may not know I have a sub or at least had one until yesterday. We had our relationship since january and it was going well. The reason it ended was because her husband found out about it. He done some searching on the net and it wasn't actually that hard for him. It seems in his eyes i'm the worst guy in the world and thats understandable, also i don't blame him. What is worse though is that it seems we our going to lose our friendship because of this. It's a really shame cause we've gotten real close over the last while. Her husband seems so ignorant to the s&m lifestyle and from what she tells me, he just thinks it's something weird and wrong. It's just something he doesn't understand though. I really hope it's possible for us to stay friends and maybe even keep our s&m relationship going but the first seems bleak and second seems impossible. I know if people comment on this you might think i'm the bad person, depending on your stance towards bdsm and cheating but I just want you think of this before you comment. Over the last couples of weeks I have slowly but surely got her to cut down on her smoking habits and over the last week and this week she hadn't smoked at all. My plan was to work on her weight next and you can't tell me thats a bad thing. Anyway I needed somewhere to let this out, since I couldn't fully tell my real friends cause it's online friend thing and also seems my online friends have deserted me when I needed someone to talk to, thanks for reading __________________ *Best Truth Giver 2016 & 2017* My Real Experiences http://www.getdare.com/bbs/blog.php?b=81891 Send me a pm if you want, I'm always up for chatting to people CHECK OUT MY NEW FICTIONAL STORY "Pushed to Fantasy (On Vacation)" LINK BELOW https://www.getdare.com/bbs/showthre...00#post4465100 I've also got snapchat, kik, skype and messenger. If you want to add me just send me a pm and I'll give you my username(s)

05-17-2011, 11:27 AM	#2
fred&ted Distinguished Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 506 Blog Entries: 1	Thats a shame... I hope her husband gets over it and you guys can still be friends. __________________ Likes:Wedgies, Orgasm Denial, Cum Control, Bondage, Puppy Play and Cross Dressing Dislike:Spankings, Nipple torture, Pain, Cum Eating and Semi Public Limits:Family, Friends, Public, Messy and Photo's/Videos. I want to push my limits. GetDare Survivor! REBOOT!

05-17-2011, 01:08 PM	#3
sweetsong getDare Succubus Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: ♥ In your dreams ♥ Posts: 1,733 Blog Entries: 98	I've been chased off by jealous partners for a lot less serious things. ): People are insecure and/or don't think their partner is giving them enough time and attention. They'll have to work it out together. __________________ . siggy made by stellz [03:54:06 PM] jamness: ‹@G.J.› She... kisses and stuff... shes weird. [03:54:39 PM] G.J.: ‹@jamness› That seems like normal Sweets to me XD

05-17-2011, 06:13 PM	#5
andrew_b getDare Cultist (Outer Circle) Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Dublin, Ireland Posts: 11,069 Blog Entries: 20	yeah talked to her today and she says it might be possible to stay friends and maybe even keep our s&m relationship going too __________________ *Best Truth Giver 2016 & 2017* My Real Experiences http://www.getdare.com/bbs/blog.php?b=81891 Send me a pm if you want, I'm always up for chatting to people CHECK OUT MY NEW FICTIONAL STORY "Pushed to Fantasy (On Vacation)" LINK BELOW https://www.getdare.com/bbs/showthre...00#post4465100 I've also got snapchat, kik, skype and messenger. If you want to add me just send me a pm and I'll give you my username(s)

05-23-2011, 10:46 AM	#7
andrew_b getDare Cultist (Outer Circle) Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Dublin, Ireland Posts: 11,069 Blog Entries: 20	Yeah it's a kinda tricky situation laura, in one sense i want to stay her dom and help her but i also don't want to cause a massive fight between her and husband __________________ *Best Truth Giver 2016 & 2017* My Real Experiences http://www.getdare.com/bbs/blog.php?b=81891 Send me a pm if you want, I'm always up for chatting to people CHECK OUT MY NEW FICTIONAL STORY "Pushed to Fantasy (On Vacation)" LINK BELOW https://www.getdare.com/bbs/showthre...00#post4465100 I've also got snapchat, kik, skype and messenger. If you want to add me just send me a pm and I'll give you my username(s)

05-17-2011, 01:21 PM	#4
Master92 Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: USA Posts: 74	Sorry to heat about your loss man hope it all works out for you

05-18-2011, 12:35 PM	#6
Slut-laura Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 76	Thats good. I hope it can work for you. But I hope she doesn't Lise her husband though.

05-23-2011, 11:31 AM	#8
nellybell Truth or Dare Enthusiast Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: In front of the computer, staring vacantly. Posts: 2,812 Blog Entries: 14	That's quite an unfortunate situation for the both of you. If she continues she risks her marriage but of she doesn't she pretty much has to completely deny that part of her because her husband deeply disapproves. Then you torn between those two senerios. I hope things turn out good. Best of luck. __________________ There was a nelly, a very smelly enchanted nelly sweet as vegemite could be ahaha just kidding, but still loved just the same <3

06-01-2011, 10:27 AM	#9
andrew_b getDare Cultist (Outer Circle) Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Dublin, Ireland Posts: 11,069 Blog Entries: 20	Yeah and now we are hardly talking so it's getting harder and harder to keep the relationship going __________________ *Best Truth Giver 2016 & 2017* My Real Experiences http://www.getdare.com/bbs/blog.php?b=81891 Send me a pm if you want, I'm always up for chatting to people CHECK OUT MY NEW FICTIONAL STORY "Pushed to Fantasy (On Vacation)" LINK BELOW https://www.getdare.com/bbs/showthre...00#post4465100 I've also got snapchat, kik, skype and messenger. If you want to add me just send me a pm and I'll give you my username(s)

06-01-2011, 05:06 PM	#10
jamness Account Banned Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: UK Posts: 216 Blog Entries: 1	Sorry about that :/ I know I'm like two weeks late but hopefully you'll have made up by now! :P If you havn't then all I can say is try and stay in touch with her via email or anything like that, maybe someday it'll work again. __________________ L

06-01-2011, 06:18 PM	#11
slaveboy82 getDare Sweetheart Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: everywhere Posts: 473 Blog Entries: 5	sorry to hear that. i hate it whne vanilla people judge others like that. he is the one that is ignorant to differences in people. i mean what would the world be like with out freaky people that are into so called wrong or weird stuff. __________________ Clothing/Limits Toys and other stuff PM TASKS My AMA post DIAPER CHECK UPDATE KIK: jittle_j