Question for Pain Lovers

DrWhoFan77 · 04-03-2012, 11:28 PM

If pain really turns you on, does it still hurt, or does the enjoyment you get from it sort of block it out and all you get is pleasure? Is it a mixture of the two? Something else entirely? This is something I'll never understand, because I have a really low pain tolerance and dislike any type of pain for the obvious reason that it hurts.

Counterfeit_Fantasy · 04-04-2012, 08:38 PM

Pain isn't similar to a blemish and it doesn't poof when you start liking it, of course it hurts. Though getting hit, for example, does ease the more you're hit, the same feeling of an easing cut. After some time your body sends out endorphins that ease the pain and I particularly feel like hugging a rainbow after a good beating, then crying about my pillow being too cold about an hour later. There's a lot more than "loving pain". You don't need a high threshold to enjoy what it can give you, in fact, many don't like pain directly, examples:

They like it because it makes me feel alive/real/able to endure"
They want to please their partner
Endorphins rush
It's perverse and kinky.

nekomaster · 04-04-2012, 08:52 PM

great examples only one i could think to add would be covering up for a mental pain.

Counterfeit_Fantasy · 04-04-2012, 09:55 PM

Yes, I'm amazed I missed that one, I hear it so often. I see a small and negligible mistake, punish me now!

nekomaster · 04-05-2012, 04:07 AM

I only punish my own. Another I thought of was, in some rare cases pain actualy dose start to feel like pleasure since the mural impulses are similar... Just like when something is so hot it feels cold.

TensionRoom101 · 04-10-2012, 01:45 AM

A real thing to look out for in those who crave pain, especially as a large number of emo types are finding their way into BDSM, is self harm by proxy. It's important to have an understanding of the psyche of the subject before you pick up implements to beat or cut them with. What's caused them to want this? What brings them to the point of craving pain? There could be deep rooted trauma that's caused it- one girl I know grew up watching mummy suffering domestic violence by daddy regularly and the circumstances conditioned her to believe that's how a man loves for his woman. She needed to be hurt badly or noone loved her- and in those circumstances a lot of reprogramming needs to go on, not a whipping.

Some love pain for pain itself too of course. It's very cathartic for some. For others, they trip on the natural endorphins that are released during the session as opposed to the pain itself. Others like the pain, but especially like to collect and show off their trophy bruises and scars.

Mike

04-03-2012, 11:28 PM	#1
DrWhoFan77 Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada Posts: 48	Question for Pain Lovers If pain really turns you on, does it still hurt, or does the enjoyment you get from it sort of block it out and all you get is pleasure? Is it a mixture of the two? Something else entirely? This is something I'll never understand, because I have a really low pain tolerance and dislike any type of pain for the obvious reason that it hurts.

04-04-2012, 08:38 PM	#2
Counterfeit_Fantasy Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Narnia Posts: 188 Blog Entries: 9	Pain isn't similar to a blemish and it doesn't poof when you start liking it, of course it hurts. Though getting hit, for example, does ease the more you're hit, the same feeling of an easing cut. After some time your body sends out endorphins that ease the pain and I particularly feel like hugging a rainbow after a good beating, then crying about my pillow being too cold about an hour later. There's a lot more than "loving pain". You don't need a high threshold to enjoy what it can give you, in fact, many don't like pain directly, examples: They like it because it makes me feel alive/real/able to endure" They want to please their partner Endorphins rush It's perverse and kinky. __________________ Passive Aggressive, Sarcastic, and Squishy, oh so Squishy Message - Comment - FetLife

04-04-2012, 09:55 PM	#4
Counterfeit_Fantasy Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Narnia Posts: 188 Blog Entries: 9	Yes, I'm amazed I missed that one, I hear it so often. I see a small and negligible mistake, punish me now! __________________ Passive Aggressive, Sarcastic, and Squishy, oh so Squishy Message - Comment - FetLife

04-05-2012, 04:07 AM	#5
nekomaster Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Missouri Posts: 54	I only punish my own. Another I thought of was, in some rare cases pain actualy dose start to feel like pleasure since the mural impulses are similar... Just like when something is so hot it feels cold. Last edited by nekomaster; 04-05-2012 at 04:15 AM.

04-10-2012, 01:45 AM	#6
TensionRoom101 Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 223	A real thing to look out for in those who crave pain, especially as a large number of emo types are finding their way into BDSM, is self harm by proxy. It's important to have an understanding of the psyche of the subject before you pick up implements to beat or cut them with. What's caused them to want this? What brings them to the point of craving pain? There could be deep rooted trauma that's caused it- one girl I know grew up watching mummy suffering domestic violence by daddy regularly and the circumstances conditioned her to believe that's how a man loves for his woman. She needed to be hurt badly or noone loved her- and in those circumstances a lot of reprogramming needs to go on, not a whipping. Some love pain for pain itself too of course. It's very cathartic for some. For others, they trip on the natural endorphins that are released during the session as opposed to the pain itself. Others like the pain, but especially like to collect and show off their trophy bruises and scars. Mike __________________ When even the wisest of young people can't see the consequences of their actions, it's time I called it a day.

04-04-2012, 08:52 PM	#3
nekomaster Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Missouri Posts: 54	great examples only one i could think to add would be covering up for a mental pain.