[Star Shadows]

How to/ and not to apply to an ad.

God forbid you actually find someone you want to take on as a dominant or a submissive you then have the traumatic task of going and applying to their thread! This is the in many cases the first chance you will have to talk to a potential sub, dom slave or master (sdsm) surely because of this you should give it a little more time than it would take to write your email address in a box.

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hi, im from Indonesia and would like to be your slave

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Originally Posted by ___________

I'm a hot 21 year old guy. (edited to preserve dignity) on skype or (edited to preserve dignity)@gmail.com :P

The truth is that things like these which are genuine examples from the forums are not good enough and they will very rarely be successful- in many cases only having the effect of giving other users a laugh.

To make a successful response you have to give a response that is good enough to get you noticed and tell people why they should want what you have. This again has similar problems to actually making a thread. With so many voices shouting to be noticed you have to be a cut above the rest. So again you have to be detailed, interesting and brief (all in one go- we have such high expectations) check out Smile’s* post on replying to ads here for some help on this.

Ideally your responses should not only match the person who you are replying to but should be detailed about yourself- including more than just your age gender and physical appearance. So for example- your likes, limits, dislikes, personalities, which bits of their ad you are and aren’t a match for- things that make it look like you care.

Yes this might be hard work but face it- if you can’t be bothered to put the effort in to make a decent response why should people give you the benefit of the doubt to think that you will put in enough effort to be a match for them.

There are some key things to remember here too- When making an add CHECK BEFORE RESPONDING!!!! for the love of God, nothing makes you look like more of an idiot than responding to threads that are months and months old with banned or inactive members, searching for a Dom and you responding as a submissive, replying to a thread that says the person has already found their match, or replying in the wrong method (ie- reply in the thread when it clearly says respond in a PM)These things are simple cases of reading (or) following instructions- it isn’t that hard. It makes you look like an arrogant jackass so read first then post.

Along similar lines also: READ the thread FULLY before you even think about responding. So many people simply see the relevant age or gender and blanket respond to any and all that match on these two grounds alone. This again makes you look like an arrogant asshat so in the nicest way possible don't do it. Make sure that you respond only to people that you would actually want to become involved with. Where is the point in responding to or for example an 18/f submissive who are looking for a 21/m master with limits of pain and scat, when you are a 19/m master whose two main likes are in their limits? If you and all others only apply to their ads then wouldn’t life be SOO much easier- not as many voices shouting.


* Smile's thread http://www.getdare.com/bbs/showthread.php?t=22904