well first find out you are a dominant or a slave, you like to dominate, and rule, or you like to be submissive. If you are a dominant, then you should be looking for a slave, if you are a submissive, you should be looking for a Mistress/Master..and be patient..and welcome..!!
message virginity means, not having any messages..and when you receive a message, its virginity is taken, and since it is not your will, its called "stolen"