I respect for you asking for help as well. I agree with colosubguy. If you take the time to get to know the person behind the screen, their likes, limits, wants and needs, you have a much better chance of making things work. Asking for task to be completed or playing a bit before making things official can actually a good idea if done well. Try a trial session or task but make sure it is tailored to the person's likes and limits and make it a small taste of what you both want to happen if you do stay together. I can't stress enough the importance of communication. I know it can be disappointing and some people lie or disapear but I've always said that the whole process is worth it once you find the person you are meant to be with. Good luck.

Ok Glue, first, you are doing it wrong, this is the internet, no one is supposed to be reasonable or listen or learn anything. If you keep that up you might break the internet.

But all kidding aside, I do respect your decision to ask for help/opinions.

Personally, I don't think asking someone to complete a task before starting a relationship 'officially' is a bad idea. I think what everyone was freaking out about was the nature of your task. I think it would be advisable to talk to someone on equal footing first, just learning about them and deciding if it is someone you would like to play with and/or Dom. Then, once you know a bit about them, tailor a trial task for them to pass before making anything official. Seems like the best of both worlds to me.

But seriously, much respect.

Are you sure that your name is 'glue'? Cause' no one seems to be sticking with you.
#badpunforthewin

I am not going to reiterate what others have said here, but:

There are seven billion people on this planet. Even if your experience was valid enough to make your case (it wasn't), it is rude, presumptuous, short-sighted, and, well, altogether stupid to maintain that there are "no loyal subs." In fact, the ridiculousness of your claim is doubled by the ridiculousness of the methods you used to approach such a conclusion.

This site is just crawling with wonderful, loyal, obedient subs. Those who've replied to your nonsense post count for only a handful of them. Don't insult them with your bullshit.

You don't attract loyalty or quality because you are far too inexperienced and full of yourself to appeal to subs of high caliber.

Please be careful where you are throwing that sarcasm... you got it all over my new shoes!

You are clearly a reasonable dom type asking for simple little dares,those girls must just be total flakes!

It seems pretty obvious that if your first "simple" dare is something that would likely get a person arrested, and/or could easily ruin their life, that maybe the problem lies with the task and not the sub. Maybe they disappeared because they went to jail? Or after being arrested decided they didn't want to play with you anymore? Or do D/S at all anymore for that matter. Being arrested is kind of a buzzkill.

I hesitate to reiterate what others have said, but I have to express my disagreement with your argument.

I do understand your frustration in trying to find someone who is compatible with you and your requests. However, leaping into the deep end and expecting not to drown requires a certain lack of common sense.

Your request is completely unreasonable and I don't blame anyone who would want to disappear from you and just cease communication. That may be where your problem lies.

Your request breaks a large number of reasonable limits and would require the highest level of trust and interest by both parties for it to even be considered. If my some miracle any new 'slave' did complete this task to your satisfaction, I would be disturbed by their level of commitment bordering on desperation.

First of all, that response was probably the best thing I've read all week.

Second, I think that if you do take the time to forge a relationship built on mutual trust and respect as AbusiveMaster recommends, then you will probably get a better feel for the sub/slave, her personality, what she can and wants to handle (even if she can't fully articulate that - there have been several times my Dom has recommended we wait on something because he feels it's best to not rush, and he's always been right even when I really want to do the thing), and whether or not her tastes and proclivities match what you are looking for. It is extremely hard to discern that without a lot of time and conversation, but while it takes longer from 99.99999% of the people I have ever spoken to it is far, far more successful than jumping right in with someone you don't know overly well.

There are some people around who think I am quite demanding.

Are you altogether stupid? This is a simple task to do for a complete stranger the first time you talk to them? The reason you are getting no luck is that you are [the following has been censored for gross indecency]

Perhaps if you spent the time getting to know someone, building trust between you and gradually working them towards such a task you may eventually earn that level of commitment.

Just needed to get that off my chest.

Public and filming/cam/pics are in many people's limits. I have to question why you aren't adjusting a simple task to each persons needs? We're not all the same.

There are loyal slaves/subs, but that takes time and trust and getting to know them.

Congrats Glue thats awesome.
Hopefully you will keep finding what you like on this site and be here for many more years.

You will find someone in real life.It comes when you least expect it.

This 1 is to Mandi.
Everybody here know who you are Mandi.You are an institution on this site!!!

Aww I am coming up on five years in September!

I remember always watching out for a glue rating of ten

Anyway, I wish you the best of luck in finding someone to play with in real life! And congrats for being such an awesome member! Not many people from back when I first joined are still around. Glad you are (: Even though you probably have no idea who I am

If I'm still here after six years, something has either gone terribly wrong or terribly well
Congratulations!

Here is to another six years of stickiness!

Hang on, are you leaving