Sex is constructed biologically; gender is constructed socially. Here is where I stand on this issue. Use it to fuel your understanding of where I’m coming from for the rest of this post. I will also refer to the act of sex as ‘fucking’ in order to separate the biological construct with the act.


One thing I’ve struggled a lot with in recent years, just as much online as I have in real life, is the concept of ‘gendering’ fucking. Any phallus used to penetrate is invariably in the...